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To have complained about today’s episode of Loose Women

234 replies

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 20:44

My DH thinks IABU but I’m adamant this was inappropriate.

Loose Women had a ‘dummy’ of a man’s bottom on their show earlier and one of the presenters/guests inserted their finger where the sun doesn’t shine.

I was eating lunch at the time and found this extremely unbecoming for that time of the day.

I expect my complaint will fall on deaf ears, but it’s worth a go.

OP posts:
rwalker · 16/05/2025 08:33

It was relevant to the subject

but the show is as the say “ of it’s time “
there’s often breathtaking double standards the way they take about men if it was men being the same about women there’d be an outcry

TooGoodToGoto · 16/05/2025 08:28

Because your posts gave all the wrong info, once it was corrected by sensible posters, I reckon no more votes went your way!

Have you retracted the complaint, told your DH he was right?

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 16/05/2025 08:27

WithYou47 · 16/05/2025 08:17

Well 1 in 2 of you clearly agree with me given the voting!

Reminds me to change my vote as I had voted on the basis of your OP.

After the dripfeed, YABU.

Men are notorious for not going to the doctors, especially for such examinations.

If it saves a life, it's worth being shown.

Butchyrestingface · 16/05/2025 08:27

WithYou47 · 16/05/2025 08:17

Well 1 in 2 of you clearly agree with me given the voting!

So ask MN to edit your original post to state that this all happened as part of an awareness raising prostrate examination.

See how the voting goes then.

ThatDaringEagle · 16/05/2025 08:23

WithYou47 · 16/05/2025 08:17

Well 1 in 2 of you clearly agree with me given the voting!

That's simply because of the way you framed the query. You didn't state it was an article about detecting prostate cancer , and instead the inference was that it was on for shock/ titillation/ amusement purposes. Well done !!

P.s. you're the only arse in this saga !!

SwingTheMonkey · 16/05/2025 08:21

WithYou47 · 16/05/2025 08:17

Well 1 in 2 of you clearly agree with me given the voting!

Those people clearly voted on the basis of your op. Which turned out to be garbage.

WithYou47 · 16/05/2025 08:17

Well 1 in 2 of you clearly agree with me given the voting!

OP posts:
WayneEyre · 16/05/2025 08:15

Jc2001 · 15/05/2025 21:18

Either way it wasn't rape because it was a dummy.

All sounds a bit gross though.

Why? Sounds like an examination off camera to raise awareness and one off camera on mannequin. What's gross about the human body? Are cervical exams etc gross?OP is weird.

ApricotFlan · 16/05/2025 08:09

Flyswats · 15/05/2025 21:42

I think it's called her opinion, which is what is required on a talk board. 😳

That doesn’t mean it’s of any value.

soembarassing1 · 16/05/2025 08:04

My god, tell me you don’t have any life problems without telling me.

If a TV program has taken up so much space in your brain, it’s made you go out of your way to complain and then make a thread about it, you’re blessed.

LottieMary · 16/05/2025 07:43

Flyswats · 15/05/2025 21:39

I think it is pretty much universally known that a prostate exam involves a finger up the arse. I don't think you need a rubber dummy arse and a real finger on TV to make it clear to those sitting in the back / those who missed the memo etc.

It was obviously done to shake people up and into talking about it.

Looks like that worked, then.

Yeah but it’s still routinely joked about in media as something awful, painful, borderline sexual. My husband ‘knew’ what it involved but had one recently and was surprised how easy it was contrary to his expectations. like smear tests to some degree - I taught pshe to sixth form and ended up in a ‘health’ section (!) talking about how actually it didn’t have to be painful, their rights re double appointments, chaperones and home testing options. I hope someone’s doing the boys version at the boys’ school
and he wouldn’t have gone at all if I hadn’t insisted.
Women are really important in men’s health issues especially in intimate relationships; I believe it’s often women who feel a testicular lump for example

MightAsWellBeGretel · 16/05/2025 07:40

YABU to watch this dross.

slashlover · 16/05/2025 07:38

nomas · 15/05/2025 20:46

YANBU. Sounds like digital rape.

By your thinking, I sexually assault the mannequins at work every time I change their clothes. Some parts are just easier to hold when lifting them.

ThatDaringEagle · 16/05/2025 07:11

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 20:44

My DH thinks IABU but I’m adamant this was inappropriate.

Loose Women had a ‘dummy’ of a man’s bottom on their show earlier and one of the presenters/guests inserted their finger where the sun doesn’t shine.

I was eating lunch at the time and found this extremely unbecoming for that time of the day.

I expect my complaint will fall on deaf ears, but it’s worth a go.

OP, you are an arse !!!

The segment in question was on preventing prostate cancer, a very worthy topic, get over yourself ffs!

Butchyrestingface · 16/05/2025 07:05

Toootss · 16/05/2025 06:47

Maybe they’ll reenact a smear test tomorrow to encourage us to go….

PRESENTER: "This one's for @WithYou47, watching (but not listening) from home."

JoyousEagle · 16/05/2025 07:01

Toootss · 16/05/2025 06:47

Maybe they’ll reenact a smear test tomorrow to encourage us to go….

This Morning have done a live smear test in the studio before

Toootss · 16/05/2025 06:47

Maybe they’ll reenact a smear test tomorrow to encourage us to go….

Toootss · 16/05/2025 06:34

Lauralou19 · 15/05/2025 21:42

I didn’t need to read the comments to know this was a prostate exam. If a dummy put you off your food, just change channels for a few minutes. Surely you’ve seen things that put you off your dinner at mealtimes before? Do you always complain?

I’d rather live in a society where people feel zero embarrassment going for a prostate exam or a smear test or a scan of their testicles if it saves lives and raises awareness. Im sure you can put up with changing channels over lunch if thats the biggest thing to deal with today.

Think seeing that would discourage men rather than encourage.

Henbags · 16/05/2025 06:27

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 21:56

I was channel hopping at the time - how was I to know it was to do with that subject? I’d even argue then it was inappropriate.

Given the normal tone of the show I assumed it was a sexual discussion and they were demonstrating a prostate massage for sexual
purposes.

You can’t make a complaint about something when you were simply “channel hopping” and didn’t even get the context. Also, by the way, the first thing I thought when you mentioned inserting a finger was not a sex act, but quite clearly a prostate exam. And finally, what made you think it was Loose Women when the panel was full of men?!

Was your food in your eyes at the time? Agree with your husband. They are trying to raise awareness, whether you think that’s going to put you off your lunch is your issue, don’t make it everybody else’s. It’s also very ignorant.

whatcanthematterbe81 · 16/05/2025 06:22

I think perhaps you need a hobby OP. 😜

Butchyrestingface · 16/05/2025 06:15

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 21:56

I was channel hopping at the time - how was I to know it was to do with that subject? I’d even argue then it was inappropriate.

Given the normal tone of the show I assumed it was a sexual discussion and they were demonstrating a prostate massage for sexual
purposes.

And you were unable to LISTEN to the discussion to ascertain what they were talking about?

feelingbleh · 16/05/2025 06:10

BobbyBiscuits · 15/05/2025 23:20

I didn't think the demographic for that show were men so it seems more like they're doing it to be OTT and get women to have a laugh about men's bodies? They'll say it's got a serious health message is what they'll no doubt allege but everyone knows what a bum hole is, and how to stick something up it? So yeah, it's totally unnecessary.

I dont think any grown women are giggling at a prostate exam. It's an important medical exam that saves lives

GravyBoots · 16/05/2025 02:45

BobbyBiscuits · 16/05/2025 00:30

Ok in that case it seems ok. But I don't see why men need to see a plastic replica of an arse with stuff being inserted into it?

A doctors gloved finger is hardly stuff. It's not like they were shoving cream éclairs in.

It could have been worse, it could have been a real hairy arsehole for all to see. I'm sure Trump was on the ITV news that followed though.

Boom boom.

Bum bum.

Trump tee hee!

I am actually 50.

TooGoodToGoto · 16/05/2025 02:35

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 21:56

I was channel hopping at the time - how was I to know it was to do with that subject? I’d even argue then it was inappropriate.

Given the normal tone of the show I assumed it was a sexual discussion and they were demonstrating a prostate massage for sexual
purposes.

Assume

Makes an ass of u and me!

Your assumption was wrong, so I suggest that you retract your complaint, tell your DH he is right and agree that men’s health also matters! You don’t complain about breast checking demos, so don’t complain about prostrate demos!

shortsharp · 16/05/2025 01:00

WithYou47 · 15/05/2025 21:56

I was channel hopping at the time - how was I to know it was to do with that subject? I’d even argue then it was inappropriate.

Given the normal tone of the show I assumed it was a sexual discussion and they were demonstrating a prostate massage for sexual
purposes.

How were you to know? Watch it fully and then form an opinion. You assumed and got it wrong.

next time, be fully informed before you complain.