How can I convince Dh to move back home?

It may not be unlawful.

It would, however, be completely unreasonable to unilaterally decide to uproot your child from the country they live in and away from one of their parents, and take them to a country they likely don't know at all or remember. A properly selfish dick move that no reasonable parent would consider.

Only a grade A cunt would remove their child from a loving parent, their school and everything they know because they've changed their mind and can't get their own way.

You know which country OP is in?
UK laws do not apply universally, you know

You can’t really compromise though - you can’t half move to a country!

She can’t do that without his permission - it’s child abduction.

He’s not wrong it is crap! You both need to make pro and con lists then sit down and discuss

Or take the child back to the UK and leave the husband there

He has discussed it, and for many valid reasons, he doesn't want to move.

So he has discussed it then?

The DH hasn't 'trapped' anyone. If this was a reverse, would we say OP had trapped her DH? It's just an awkward set of circumstances.

Is there room for compromise? That would be the first thing to discuss.

The UK is far from crap now, every country has ups and downs, atm there is a world recession.

Your husband must give up his negative attitude and at least be prepared to discuss this as it is important to you. However you must consider his point of view, he is your husband after all and comes before your parents, and your children if they are old enough to have opinions on the subject.

I think the simple answer to this is that OP cannot force her DH to move back to the UK.

If she wants to come back, she can do so.

However it's unlikely to be reasonable (and from some countries not even lawful) for her to bring her child with her.

So OP's choices are to stay with her DH and child in the country she is in, or come back to the UK alone.

It's not fair or reasonable for her to continually badger her DH to try to get him to change his mind. He's made it quite clear he wants to stay where they are, and in the absence of agreement, the status quo wins out.

Hi OP. It's a tough situation - it would be interesting to know the country as there are lots of countries that I wouldn't want to live in as an older person. The UK definitely has its challenges but to be honest these seem to be challenges which are affecting most European/English-speaking countries. You would need your husband to be on board with whatever you decide though.

It sounds like they’ve had many a discussion, but rather than accept his answer OP wants to keep having them until she gets what she wants. What compromise has she offered?

’Having her trapped’ rather suggests he’s behaving malignantly towards her by not giving her what she wants. He isn’t.

She isn’t wrong to want to move back, but he isn’t wrong to not want to move to a country he doesn’t want to live in to act as carers for his in laws. I wouldn’t do it either, or entertain my spouse trying to browbeat me into it.

Threads like this just show how little consideration people put into creating a life - it’s scary really.

The UK isn't great, you can't force him to move back.

This is a shit show of a situation but it's not as bad as having a spouse who is from another country because their ties will always be there - my DB is married to my DSIL who is from another European country and they are stuck with eachother in a very unhappy marriage until the youngest is in college - shes 6 😖.
How old is your child?

He’s right, the UK is awful now. If I had a choice I wouldn’t want my child to go to school here.

The cost of living is also absolutely ridiculous now in the UK.

If you have a decent quality of life abroad I would definitely not want to move back.

If he doesn’t want to then you’ll have to divorce and go to court to agree split custody.

OP should have thought about all this before having a child overseas though.

Hard one if he won't come to the uk possibly divorce . Not good being forced to stay in another country where your not happy

He’s got a point tbh, the UK is indeed crap now. You don’t say where you currently live. But I’d think long and hard about dying in this particular ditch!

Exactly what I said. He’s got her trapped, so his decision is final. No discussion. No compromise. It’s a shitty situation to be in.

What country are you in? And how old is your child?

I don’t think you can convince him to come back to the UK any more than he can convince you to stay. You are in a stalemate and one of you is going to have to give up your dream or you have to seperate and somehow make it work, which would be very hard on your child as they would be the one who would have to fly from one country to the other.

The UK isn’t in good shape, if I could emigrate I would. Are you sure you aren’t rose-tinting what it would be like to return? If you have been where you are 20+ years, the Uk has deteriorated a lot since your move.

Coukd your parents move to you instead?

Or he’s not going to have the same conversation over and over when he’s already made his thoughts clear. She’s said herself that she’s gone over the positives ‘so many times’, so it doesn’t sound like he’s opted out of discussions at all, but reached a point where he’s not willing to keep repeating himself.

She cannot expect to keep having the same discussion until she gets the response she wants - he’s let her know that isn’t going to happen. OP knows his stance, so she needs to accept that and make her choices from there.

Well, he's not wrong. Do you visit UK regularly?
A friend who has lived abroad for over 30 years started thinking about moving back a few years ago. When she looked into it she realised her standard of living would plummet.
However, he shouldn't just block all discussion. That's not how good relationships work.