WWYD? My best friend has posted pictures of my kids AGAIN without my consent

Once should have been enough to say it to her, she was being a completely disrespectful CF to do it twice and putting you in the horrible position of having to say it to her again…. She is completely at fault here

On the upside….your kids must be absolutely gorgeous for her to try and do this twice😁

Yeah but unless they’re taking photos they can’t turn them into porn photos to wank over.

It’s not the same thing.

She's saved you the trouble of backing out of the friendship.
Move on.

It absolutely can be a safeguarding issue. I don’t allow my face or info on any social media and definitely not my children.

If she was really your friend she would respect you and your choices regarding your children and their safety online. She does not and has violated your trust repeatedly. She is not your friend.

It’s almost impossible to not have pictures posted of you on social media regardless if you want to or not

seriously last week had photos taken, at a charity thing I help at….. then photos at a school thing …. Then photos at pub…. Then photos at a craft club I go to

none Of these were asked for permission
and they are all used to promote things
its basically impossible to escape
no wonder people are so self conscious of how they look ….

but in this case a friend doing this when you’re said you don’t want it
that’s not a friend and sounds ok the trash has taken itself out so allow her to go as she’ll only do it again

Absolutely. Added to which, AI is rapidly advancing but future risks are unknown.

She's not your friend. You're rid of her, now block her.

She's not your friend and you are well rid of that in your life. Once is a mistake twice is deliberate

The first time may have been an error/misunderstanding/oversight on friend's side.

Doing it again was not.

Yet, this person did have to be told again and now isn't speaking to YOU because of it?!

Oh, hell no. Discard!

Great cross post with @NotAnOptimist. From my experience I'd say ask them, and make it clear no is fine. They're unlikely to be upset to be asked.

What are the items? If it's a cardigan for example, maybe photos could be styled so their faces aren't shown too

OP report the post and say it’s someone you know and you want it removed. It might work.

When you say “every Tom, Dick and Harry” will be looking at your child, you do realise anyone can see their faces every time they go out of the house, don’t you?

I stopped allowing my DCs pictures on social media when I found out that paedophiles are using kids faces to make fake child porn and one paedo became obsessed with a child and stalked them due to seeing them on social media.

It’s absolutely a safeguarding issue. Once your child’s phot is out there you can’t stop anyone doing anything with it and paedophiles are doing some horrendous things with our kids pictures and videos.

Your friend is out of order, OP. I am a photographer, although a bit of a lapsed one as haven't done client work in a while. But when I was doing it as a sideline I did a lot of practice/test shoots with friends and their children. They got the photos as a thank you. If there were shots I loved, I asked if I could use them in my portfolio, making it clear that 'no' was an acceptable answer. Some said no, some said yes. Still have the same relationship with all of them. (Oh and the ones who said yes, I got them to sign a release, so they were clear what I would do with the photos, and knew I wouldn't use them for anything they hadn't already agreed, and that they could ask for them to be taken down at any time)

I run a business and regularly gift some of the things created to children of my friends and family. I would never post of photo on my account, let alone my businesses, of other people children. I am considering asking a few friends if their children will model some items. However, I would never be annoyed by their choice/answer, would still have them okay each post/photo and would be happy to delete if they changed their mind at any time!

She is completely out of order to use photos of your children for commercial purposes without parental consent - and worse share private information about them. Unbelievable that she has done this twice. This is not a friendship worth saving however upsetting that may seem.

Sorry OP but this person is not a good friend to disregard your wishes when you've been quite clear you don't want images of your children used. It's ok to feel sad that the friendship is over but you didn't do anything wrong.

Believe me someone who hates you enough to disregard your wish for your children's privacy hates you, she is not your best friend, your vague friend or any sort of friend.

What sort of a friend doesn't give a flying fuck about your boundaries with regards to your children's online safety? She is no real friend.

This is bang out of order OP.
If she was really a best friend she would have asked you, you would have said no and she'd respect that. Once might be a bit naive and yeah she might have thought you might be OK with it. Different parents have drastically different views on kids photos on social media. But it sounds like you handled that first one amicably. But to do it AGAIN!

She's stopping out of embarrassment.

This.

huge over reaction op

You're not unreasonable, but your ex friend has clearly decided that this is a make or break matter as far as your relationship goes.

So the best thing to do now is stop crying and think about something else. It can't be salvaged, she isn't trustworthy, she doesn't respect you ... let her go.

Of course it's a safeguarding issue if she's shared the child's picture plus a load of personal details. What are people not getting here? Additionally, with the advanced in AI people can use images of children to create all sorts of foul material so it's really best not to make that possible.

I would also cry if my trusted friend treated me this way. Sorry OP. At least you know now.

I'm amazed that so many people think you are overreacting about having her image and information available to AI. Your friend doesn't understand the issues but that's not your problem. I can see why you're upset.

Apart from anything else you are protecting your child's privacy. The images belong to her.