Is this too much to eat in a day?

You are not disgusting OP. You are being too hard on yourself. I would feel sick with eating the sweet stuff but sometimes we just need to get it out of our system. I do need to loose some weight so just eat 1 milkyway a day and the rest of my food has lots of what is considered 'good for you' food this has stopped my craving and I don't get heartburn like I did when eating more sugar. Be kind to yourself. 💕

Yes but she doesn't eat past afternoon so sounded like that was the day's food

Hi OP. You must feel awful reading all these posts, I hope you are OK.

I have a ND child which changed all our earing habits.
We don't eat as a family except on a blue moon.
It's totally fine to use sweets as a reward too.

I know a few people have skirted it but I think you are so intensely anxious about your child and your own digestive issues, you are too sick to eat.

I felt the same after an operation last year and only managed 1000 cals a day for many weeks. Not only did I lose weight, but I lost strength which I needed to recover and be healthy. I also ended up using laxatives because I completely screwed up my digestive system. I started my day with dark chocolate and coffee and painkillers and had one large salad around early afternnon, then coffee about 5 and that was it.

The more the behaviour continued, the more nauseous I felt.

There are lots of ideas above with merit and would be brilliant if you can start to involved some of them.

Just keep reminding yourself that your child with needs requires a strong mother and you will need more strength the older he gets. (niece is very disabled and approaching teen years and parents have to be strong physically).

I hope you are OK.

To be fair, the OP wrote this in the afternoon after breakfast and lunch only.

I've read this again and there's just no way you're eating enough, I know we're all different but typically in a day I would porridge/cereal with juice, fruit with something snacky like rice cakes mid morning, more fruit at lunch with bread and filling, possibly a yoghurt, a full dinner in the evening and then some chocolate/fruit again before bed, you've really only had porridge and a sandwich all day, it's no wonder you're feeling nauseous, it sounds like your stomach is craving food

To me it reads you're not eating nearly enough at all especially being constantly on the go with children..can you have a proper dinner at 6/7 or have it at lunchtime and then lunch in the evening?
When I was sick during pregnancy the nausea always ramped up when I needed food/coming up to a meal.
I just don't think you're eating substantial meals for all the going you're doing

Eating chocolate is not "disgusting "

Eating chocolate is brilliant! Last night I had a little snacking plate of strawberries, mango and dark chocolate squares. Delicious!

Eating chocolate is not "disgusting " and that sort of thinking will put you on the road to an eating disorder. You probably just need more fresh fruit and veg in your diet.

Edited to add, I've read your posts now. I wonder if you're obsessively controlling your eating because so many other aspects of your life are uncontrollable. It must be very tricky with a child with that level of need. I wish you well but you would feel much better if you ate better.

I agree. If it’s as it appears and this is how the OP eats regularly, she will be seriously undernourished and is showing serious signs of disordered eating. It is quite literally making her ill.
I hope you reach out to some more suitable help than the (usually bonkers) mumsnet diet zealots on here OP and get some proper help soonn

It sounds to me like your nervous system is out of whack. I expect you're feeling very stressed, probably find it hard to wind down? No wonder it sounds like you have a lot to manage. Our gut is like a second brain and when we are tipped into hyperarousal often appetite goes, and or sugar cravings appear. I'd be looking at your support structures, how you support yourself (yes nourishing food) and ways to soothe yourself.

Indeed. But you and I are the only ones.

I’d say go low carb and zero sugar, higher fat. Eat more protein and veg. Low carb is the thing that really helps my stomach particularly everything that is easy to grab.
I like apple and goats or cheddar cheese as a snack. Nuts instead of chocolate.
Full fat Greek yogurt and raspberries.
Nice fatty bit of steak with salad in a good healthy fats dressing.
Spend a couple of weeks thinking high protein, high healthy fats, lots of nice veg and an absolute minimum of carbs. See how that makes you feel. Prepare lots of stuff in advance so that it’s easier to be healthy. Boiled eggs keep for days for example. Homemade tuna cakes (not breadcrumb based ones).

I think people need to stop focusing on the sugar. It doesn’t matter. OP clearly has an eating disorder. She basically ate a bowl of porridge and a sandwich all day. And thinks that’s better.

OP you probably feel sick from hunger. I would advise getting help. And not from here.

I'm a carb junkie, but try to balance it out. I limit myself on processed things like biscuits and crisps but do enjoy porridge, jacket potatoes and new potatoes. Bread - stoneground wholemeal. I love veg, so no problem, there. I struggle to eat a lot of protein so try to eat that portion first in meals - which fills me up more quickly. We are all different. I would be constantly hungry on what you eat every day. I am only 5' and the heaviest I've ever been is 8st 10lb in the winter ( and that's only an once). It depends entirely on your own metabolism and level of activity (clerical worker for over 4O years).

It's an awful lot of carbohydrates with very little protein and fruit/veg.

It's not too much in quantity, but definitely too much if you factor in quality. I think you already know that. You seem to be craving sweet things - why not try to make some sweet things that have protein and fibre benefits as well? Flapjacks, for instance. Yes - they are FULL of sugar, but you can reduce the sugar and add in some dried fruit and nuts or seeds and they will still taste delicious! I make some with sultanas, pumpkin seeds and sunflower seeds. They're not 'diet' flapjacks, they still contain fat and sugar, but I reduce the fat and sugar down by 1/3 each and sometimes use honey instead of golden syrup, for the flavour as much as anything else. The oats contain soluble and insoluble fibre, the sultanas contain fibre and vitamin C (plus minerals) and the seeds contain protein as well as other stuff. Cut them into small pieces rather than big chunks and you should eat fewer of them. If you are dairy free (I note you are using oat milk on your porridge) you can use margarine rather than butter - they won't taste quite the same but you will be used to that if you don't eat butter anyway. If it's chocolate you want... Sometimes I will make flapjacks with chocolate chips and hazelnuts. Not often, as I actually prefer them with fruit and seeds.

Have some protein with your lunch. It will help to fill you up so you won't experience the sugar highs/loss that drive you to snacking. And keep some fruit around so that if you do feel hungry you can pick up an apple or something rather than buying yourself a sugar-laden snack when you're out.

Try to have lower carbohydrate vegetables with your evening meal. I'm not sure how you make your fishcakes, but they usually contain potato or another starch (carbs). Then the new potatoes are carbs, and the peas also.

I eat too much, definitely, and it shows..... but I do try to ensure that what I do eat is (mostly) doing me good rather than just empty calories/carbs.

Too much rubbish. Yes, far too much. One of the cupcake/ kitkat/ biscuit/ twirl bites would be enough.

Too much food? No! Not nearly enough and that’s why you’re eating so much rubbish. Why did you only have one fishcake and two new potatoes? I would have two fishcakes and quite a few potatoes and add another veg. And that’s just lunch. Where is your dinner? Where are your five+ a day?

I recognise what you say and feel so sorry for how your feeling. I wonder if the changes in your body after children mean you are struggling with your body image - my weight and shape wasn't that bad after my 2 children, but I was made to feel bad by my husband. At the age of 67 I've only just realised this, I've spent do many years feeling I'm disgusting and still find myself sneaking food when I'm.on my own. I just wish I'd learnt about being resilient then, and not let other people's issues have such a negative impact on me. Have you got a close friend or understanding family member you could explore what's going on in more depth? Sending you very best wishes

It's FAR too much processed sugar and fat. If you are slim, you could swap some of that chocolate for a handful of almonds, walnuts and brazil nuts which would be far much better for you, even though the calories are equally high.
I'd be grumpy with so little veg in one day. As you already cook a lot of your own food, could you make a batch of soup with veg that don't upset your stomach, and bake some seedy wholemeal rolls to go with it, or are you finding high fibre carbs difficult to digest?

I feel for you, I'm struggling at the moment to eat. Admittedly I was overweight but my (possibly peri meno) anxiety had gone through the roof and I'm struggling to eat. I have never been one for breakfast and work means I don't eat until after 3pm. Sometimes I feel sick and I'm not sure if it's because I'm hungry but it doesn't make me want to eat. Sometimes I get dizzy and think ffs get some sugar into you, woman, even though I don't have a sweet tooth I just can't be fainting everywhere.
I know I need to plan my day and diet better and maybe that's the key - to plan ahead on what you're going to have for breakfast/lunch/tea each day or do a weekly meal planner ensuring you've got a good balance of protein/carbs/fats/veg etc That way you won't crash and reach for the crappy food which invariably doesn't make us feel better with the sugar high/low. And I should probably take my own advice!
I feed my family well just cba with myself so as a pp said there is a bit of "martyring myself", I guess, although it's not a conscious thing and I certainly don't tell anyone in RL of my weird diet. You're not alone OP, that's probably all I can say that may be helpful.

I wouldn’t say it’s “too much” quantity wise as such, but it’s definitely not a nutritious day of eating.

I think you’re not eating enough proper food. There’s a lot of sweet stuff which will give bursts of energy but then slumps and not enough protein. I’m not sure if the toast was a meal. If so, you could add a poached egg, avocado, tomatoes etc. I’d aim for 3 proper meals and limit the sweet snacks. It might be worth thinking about why you want to eat them. I love chocolate but know I sometimes overeat it when I’m stressed and am trying to find ways not to do that quite so much (not always succeeding!). It sounds like you have a lot on your plate and I’m wondering if maybe you might benefit from other things to reduce stress eg yoga or a hobby or something, I just mean time that’s for you. You referred to yourself as disgusting but you are absolutely not that and no one eats purely healthy food all the time. Good luck.

Have you been tested for other things such a full blood count? Thyroid levels? H Pylori even?

Cut out the sugar crap, and eat raw fruit and vegetables instead
you won’t feel sick then

I'm sorry you're feeling so bad @SENSummer. It sounds like you have a stressful life and you need to nourish your body to stay healthy and keep your energy levels up.

Before anything else, I would get your entire blood panel done. Especially your thyroid. And definitely your lady hormones as well as iron/haemoglobin etc. There may be an underlying issue which could help you feel better.

You know you've been eating too much sugar but I think a little sugar is fine as long as it's part of a balanced diet.

Recommendations:

Breakfast: Greek yogurt, berries and about 20-25g of chia seeds (high in fibre) or nuts and seeds

Lunch: Eggs on wholegrain toast or a chicken and avocado salad, wholegrain pitta and hummus with a side salad, a hearty soup with added beans or lentils for protein and fiber

Dinner: Salmon/potatoes/salad, a hearty roast chicken dinner (meat can be used the next day), a yummy stir fry is easy to make etc etc

Snacks: Fruit, little bit of chocolate when you feel like it (only when you've eaten a square meal), cheese etc

Please get to the route cause of why you're feeling so rotten and then tailor your food around that. Sounds like you enjoy cooking so that's a great start.