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To think a grown man should be able to remember to lock the front door?

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Elisabeth3468 · 15/05/2025 14:51

So many times I come down in the morning and the front door is unlocked. My partner is the last to come home and goes the gym later in the evening and often I'm already in bed feeding the baby.
Do you think it's reasonable that he should remember to lock the front door? I sometimes message him to remind him but then I think he should be able to think for himself. But he doesn't.... he also leaves the lights on downstairs too which infuriates me. He's not generally a lazy person so it's not that.
Am I being over the top? I just get exhausted having to think for everyone. A toddler and a baby to care for and have to think for my partner too.

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Gustavo77 · 15/05/2025 14:55

We rarely if ever lock our front door so I'm not sure what the issue is. People forget, it's really not worth getting in a stink about.

MauraLabingi · 15/05/2025 14:55

Does he manage to remember to do some things, OP? Such as setting an alarm for work, or brushing his teeth every morning? If yes, then it's merely a case that he remembers the things that matter to him. He doesn't care enough about locking the door, or doing it because you have said it's important to you. If he can't remember anything at all, I'd be more forgiving.

Splain · 15/05/2025 14:54

What is his take on it? Does he just not think it's important?

I mean on the face of it yes, he's a grown man and he should be able to remember using phone reminders or whatever if necessary. So why isn't he?

It sounds lonely for you OP. Hope you are doing ok.

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