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Boyfriend ignoring texts

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Atlas2022 · 15/05/2025 14:44

Completely happy to be told I'm being unreasonable but would this bother you..
Been with new DP for several months and we talk almost every lunchtime, which is fine. Today I hadn't heard from him 30 mins into his break so I gave him a call. He didn't answer. Fine, I assume he's doing his hobby which he sometimes does at lunch. I text him saying nothing important, hope he's having a lovely day and I love him and I'll see him tonight. (We don't live together)
Anyway, he calls me for 10 mins before his break ends and he has been doing the hobby so all good. We speak and say see you tonight etc. After, I notice that he has read the 'nothing important ' text but not reacted to it at all. I just feel like I would never do that! I would never not acknowledge a message he sent me or anything, even silly memes I respond to.
OK, after writing this down I realise it sounds crazy! 😅 but would it upset you having the text ignored??

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riverislanjeans · 15/05/2025 15:17

He did react, he called you? 🙄

Maddy70 · 15/05/2025 15:15

You sound the stuff of nightmares. If he were my son I'd be advising him to run for the hills. ;) do you always over analyse everything?

Humanswarm · 15/05/2025 15:10

It's not funny though is it? ' You saved his evening 🤣'. So, strangers had to talk you down on the Internet or you would have given him a hard time later for not 'hearting' a message?? I know what you said there was tongue in cheek, but imagine the uproar, if a females posted on here that her partner kicked off last night all because she didn't respond to a text, despite having a phone call?
Your relationship will turn toxic if you can't get past shit like this. And frankly, he deserves better. And don't blame peri..that's bonkers.

Delphiniumandlupins · 15/05/2025 15:05

Do you end phone calls with
"You hang up"
"No, you hang up"
"No, you hang up"
.................?

FOJN · 15/05/2025 15:04

Your relationship won't last long if you don't sort out your unreasonable level of neediness.

babystarsandmoon · 15/05/2025 15:02

Relax or he will feel suffocated.

user1498572889 · 15/05/2025 15:01

Oh Dear you sound like hard work.

Henbags · 15/05/2025 15:01

Wow, just wow.

RosaMoline · 15/05/2025 14:59

Jesus. 🙄🙄🙄

Wishimaywishimight · 15/05/2025 14:56

Is there anything that can't be blamed on 'peri'? 😏

skippy67 · 15/05/2025 14:53

The phone call was the response...

CloudywMeatballs · 15/05/2025 14:53

Stickortwigs · 15/05/2025 14:51

It doesn’t require any response.

I wish WhatsApp would ditch those damn reactions. They’re so mindless. I have some chats where there’s a response on every message so they mean absolutely nothing.

Nobody mentioned WhatsApp! This was via text.

Stickortwigs · 15/05/2025 14:51

It doesn’t require any response.

I wish WhatsApp would ditch those damn reactions. They’re so mindless. I have some chats where there’s a response on every message so they mean absolutely nothing.

Crunchymum · 15/05/2025 14:50

Atlas2022 · 15/05/2025 14:46

For context, I feel like he should have at least 'heart' reacted it or sent some kisses faces 😅
Do I sound mad though?? I'm Peri so feeling completely unhinged now and again.

Peri? I thought you were going to say you were 15.

Sorry OP, your expectations sound very suffocating and if it were someone posting "my BF expects me to acknowledge every single message he sends, even if we speak after messages have been sent" we'd all be telling them to run for the hills.

SunshineAndFizz · 15/05/2025 14:50

If my partner kicked off about this I’d think they were nuts.

Olika · 15/05/2025 14:48

so much drama about nothing.

KrisAkabusi · 15/05/2025 14:48

He did react, he phoned you!

ilovesooty · 15/05/2025 14:48

Atlas2022 · 15/05/2025 14:46

For context, I feel like he should have at least 'heart' reacted it or sent some kisses faces 😅
Do I sound mad though?? I'm Peri so feeling completely unhinged now and again.

Yes, I'm afraid I do think this sounds strange. He spoke to you. He's now working I assume. Why should he be messing around with emojis?

kuromipal · 15/05/2025 14:47

If he called you, he probably didn’t think a response to the text was necessary.

YABU and overthinking it.

Nina1013 · 15/05/2025 14:47

You sound crazy.

Original poster
Atlas2022 · 15/05/2025 14:47

OK thank you guys! You've saved his evening 😅😘

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MiddleAgedDread · 15/05/2025 14:46

Atlas2022 · 15/05/2025 14:46

For context, I feel like he should have at least 'heart' reacted it or sent some kisses faces 😅
Do I sound mad though?? I'm Peri so feeling completely unhinged now and again.

in the nicest possible way......yes you do! (and i say that as peri-menopausal woman who doesn't live with her boyfriend)

Dvdlove · 15/05/2025 14:46

Surely the phone call was the response?

Chicken5ausage · 15/05/2025 14:46

I literally have no idea why he’d reply to a text when he spoke to you on the phone.

MiddleAgedDread · 15/05/2025 14:46

you've spoken to him, why does he need to reply to the text as well?