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AIBU to have been stern with my neighbour’s toddler?

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keke2605 · 15/05/2025 13:45

Long story short I live in an upstairs flat. My neighbours live below and we have to share one garden.

Every time I take my toddler (nearly 2yo) out the neighbours 3yo daughter comes out.

Each time I’ve been taking him out she goes straight over to him either pulls him hard, grabs him, pushes him or yanks his hair. I always have to move her away or take my son back inside. I always watch over but she does it so quick sometimes.

The family know what she’s like as I’ve mentioned it before. Today I’ve been stern with her and told her to not touch my son and to leave him alone. Her mum came out and said ‘sorry she’s very naughty’ and took her daughter back inside.

I know toddlers will be toddlers but this happens every single time I go out, even when I’m just putting washing out. My toddler isn’t like this. It annoys me and I feel like I have to avoid going in the garden.

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EggnogNoggin · 15/05/2025 13:54

EggnogNoggin · 15/05/2025 13:51

Ah, your poor son but poor girl too, her mum sounds like she can't be arsed to parent and teach her and facilitate a meaningful bit of play.

She'd rather just not bother and call her naughty.

Eta- could you pop by one day and say you know you caught her daughter on a bad day last week but it would be lovely if they wanted to join you at the park at the weekend. Then if its terrible there is no garden play precedent set but you might find she was stressed and overwhelmed. Only you can make the judgement though based on what you saw x

Gundogday · 15/05/2025 13:54

You did the right thing. Advocate for your child.

EggnogNoggin · 15/05/2025 13:51

Ah, your poor son but poor girl too, her mum sounds like she can't be arsed to parent and teach her and facilitate a meaningful bit of play.

She'd rather just not bother and call her naughty.

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