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To be nervous to buy a house with no immediate neighbours

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Mum2HC · 15/05/2025 12:30

Hello

we are house hunting and have seen a house that ticks all the boxes other than it is not in a village setting we are used to. My partner thinks it is perfect!
closest neighbour is about 200m down the road. Nearest town is less than 10 mins drive to the centre. There is a big Waitrose 5 mins away. Opposite (these are down a drive) a big golf course and tennis club.

would you be scared having no immediate neighbours?

thank you

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DrPrunesqualer · 15/05/2025 17:30

feelingbleh · 15/05/2025 17:24

It looks like the scene of a horror movie where nobody can hear you scream 😱

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Anyone lands on my beach and I’ll be screaming at them for all the right reasons
😄

oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 15/05/2025 17:29

If you don't go for it, let me know where it is , please !

feelingbleh · 15/05/2025 17:24

DrPrunesqualer · 15/05/2025 16:02

Taking the dream of no neighbours to the extreme there’s always islands for sale .
I could easily put up with the cold for one of these

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It looks like the scene of a horror movie where nobody can hear you scream 😱

Reliablesource · 15/05/2025 17:21

I wouldn’t like it if I was going to live there alone, or if my husband was going to regularly be away overnight.

Also maybe depends on your age. You can drive now but may not be fit to drive in your later years and then you’ll be more isolated if you can’t drive to the nearest town.

However, 200m is not that far away - is the neighbour’s house within sight? If they were a mile away, that would be different.

On a positive note, there’s a LOT to be said for having no neighbours close by: no neighbour disputes/ noise/interference/parking problems, etc

Cookiecrumblepie · 15/05/2025 17:11

Yeah this sounds fab. Get a dog to protect your house. Live in peaceful bliss.

Chilldrill · 15/05/2025 17:11

Is it just that you're getting bad vibes? If so think twice, otherwise get security lights cameras etc. and you're good, very jealous btw

godmum56 · 15/05/2025 17:10

Buy it and give it to meeeeeeee

okydokethen · 15/05/2025 17:08

This is exactly my set up and I LOVE it!

I always saw no neighbours as a real perk, kids and dogs can be noisy, DH can do building work without worry, I can potter without feeling overlooked, no polite chit chat required, no taking in parcels or other people annoying noise and no difficulty parking - it’s my dream come true!

ChristmasFluff · 15/05/2025 17:07

I would hate to be so far away from people! I'm quite isolated here, but it is a small town community and I have neighbours.

It's one of those communities where people pull together. They are not so uncommon even now, and I grew up in one. I've just got back from cleaning for one of my elderly neighbours, and I do shopping for another one. My neighbours were invaluable when I had a flood one Christmas at 2am.

I would feel a little uneasy being so far from others because at the moment, if I scream, there are plenty of people who might hear, and if I disappeared, my neighbours would wonder where I was. I actually have a neighbour who texts to see if I am ok if I forget to open my curtains!

Generally I've always had lovely neighbours my whole life though - with a couple of notable exceptions!

Itsjustgonenoonhalfpastmonsoon · 15/05/2025 17:06

I’d love to live in a house with no immediate neighbours. However, I’d rather live in a house with nice NDNs just so it didn’t feel too isolating,

Yerdug · 15/05/2025 16:57

Scared? No, I'd be delighted.

Rosesanddaffs · 15/05/2025 16:52

@Mum2HC if you don’t want it, I’ll have it 😜

It would be lovely to have no neighbours xx

PinkCatInATree · 15/05/2025 16:45

Nirvana!

Thisisittheapocalypse · 15/05/2025 16:29

Only if you're prepared to run your children around to their friends' homes/events all the time. Not fair to park them in the middle of nowhere and expect them to do nothing.

Augustus40 · 15/05/2025 16:28

My idea of a dream home. No neighbours would be bliss! No cars parked near our home no noise when visitors sit in their garden no messy unkempt gardens to look at plus overhanging trees to put up with over the fence.

I noticed our neighbour one side has started putting up flashing lights along her fence that come on at night. Does anybody actually do this except for Xmas! So unbelievably tacky! Looks really shite.

Woofie7 · 15/05/2025 16:24

Been in this situation. As long as you have friends somewhere within an hour you can call in an emergency. Go for it !
I loved it .
there can be a lot of wind noise in the winter time . It’s hard to move back to civilisation afterwards.
I’m assuming you drive .
if a neighbour is 200m and a shop is ten mins then that’s not really alone .
get an Alexa then if something happens you can just shout … Alexa ring husband/ friend etc . It rings them and then you can get help .

DrPrunesqualer · 15/05/2025 16:18

Well @Wednesdayisme

Ive spotted an island with
seals !!!!
7 properties
A lighthouse and
A pub

We could have 3 houses each.
Split the other house and lighthouse and fight over the pub 🤣🤣

£2.5mill

Meadowfinch · 15/05/2025 16:18

It sounds perfect.

I live with my DS in a house on its own, with meadows behind the house and woodland opposite us. It's lovely.

Our village is about 300m away, an easy stroll to the pub. No street lights but we have head torches. There are people within running distance should we ever need help but we've been here 15 years and no problems so far. We have a lot of owls & foxes though so it's not quiet.

Who owns the land around you? Have you checked the local council planning site?

outdooryone · 15/05/2025 16:14

200m and basically in a village? Blimey, that is a teeming metropolis.

FWIW, I lived in one house with next neighbour nearly a mile away...and that was a single farm yard...

Wednesdayisme · 15/05/2025 16:12

DrPrunesqualer · 15/05/2025 16:08

Yay
Promise my goats won’t stray

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Ahh I love goats especially mini ones I'd have a farm if i could lol

DrPrunesqualer · 15/05/2025 16:08

Wednesdayisme · 15/05/2025 16:05

We are considerate neighbours so fancy going halves on a island we could live opposite sides 😂

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Yay
Promise my goats won’t stray

Jump Goat GIF
FrodoBiggins · 15/05/2025 16:07

You need to hook this house up with the other poster who can't deal with neighbours in their garden

DrPrunesqualer · 15/05/2025 16:06

Springtime43 · 15/05/2025 15:59

DH and I were interested in a similar-sounding property. But after consideration, DH (who never usually bothers about this sort of thing) commented "we'd need to spend at least £10k on security, and are the police likely to turn up if we get an intruder in the night?" We didn't take things any further.

I WFH for 3 days per week, and I'm not sure I'd want to be quite so alone?

Dogs are great for security and company

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Wednesdayisme · 15/05/2025 16:05

DrPrunesqualer · 15/05/2025 16:02

Taking the dream of no neighbours to the extreme there’s always islands for sale .
I could easily put up with the cold for one of these

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We are considerate neighbours so fancy going halves on a island we could live opposite sides 😂

Whoarethoseguys · 15/05/2025 16:04

I would love to have no neighbours. I wouldn't want to be anywhere with no shops or facilities in walk-in mg distance though

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