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To be nervous to buy a house with no immediate neighbours

212 replies

Mum2HC · 15/05/2025 12:30

Hello

we are house hunting and have seen a house that ticks all the boxes other than it is not in a village setting we are used to. My partner thinks it is perfect!
closest neighbour is about 200m down the road. Nearest town is less than 10 mins drive to the centre. There is a big Waitrose 5 mins away. Opposite (these are down a drive) a big golf course and tennis club.

would you be scared having no immediate neighbours?

thank you

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whitewineandsun · 16/05/2025 21:18

Plmnki · 15/05/2025 21:50

Have you not read the the THOUSANDS of threads on here about how people hate their neighbours?? Grab that house! Grab it!

Exactly this! There's one today about toilet smells... buy the house with no neighbours. Sounds ideal.

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Mum2HC · 16/05/2025 21:16

Wtafdidido · 16/05/2025 20:18

it takes time to adjust but you soon will and will love it!

Ah I’m just not sure! It means an extra ten minutes each way in the car for school drop off, activities, friends etc and we are worrying about not being in a ‘ community’
such a tough decision

OP posts:
Wtafdidido · 16/05/2025 20:18

it takes time to adjust but you soon will and will love it!

Feetinthegrass · 16/05/2025 18:43

CheFaro · 15/05/2025 19:19

I used to live on an an otherwise uninhabited island! Just seals and sheep. Enough power from a small wind turbine to fuel a grudge and a plug socket. Cut off for weeks at a time in bad weather. I loved it. But if the OP is nervous at the mere idea of being 200 metres from neighbours, I don’t think the house is for her.

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That definitely beats our current situation!! I sympathise re power outages. We have got used to them over the years. The seals and sheep sound delightful.

I always look forward to preparing for winter.

GiddyCrab · 16/05/2025 18:39

With good security I would love it.

Feetinthegrass · 16/05/2025 18:37

Howmanycatsistoomany · 16/05/2025 10:14

A month's worth of food? It's not Antarctica.

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In the winter we have been regularly snowed in for weeks! We aren’t able to drive even in a 4x4 in snowy conditions and the nearest shop is too far to walk, so having a months worth of supply is good practice and standard, and the case with most properly rural communities.

You might live in the suburbs with a shop on every street but living more remotely requires organisation.

Redflagsabounded · 16/05/2025 18:00

Im single and I would bloody love it 😁

It sounds perfect. Quiet but not the middle of nowhere, shops, neighbours and public transport nearby.

If people think I'm an idealising townie, I live in a little village with no streetlighting within 100feet of me, no shop, or amenities other than a pub and church.

I also regularly stay alone at a house similar to the one OP mentions.

Howmanycatsistoomany · 16/05/2025 10:14

Feetinthegrass · 15/05/2025 19:07

I wonder how many of those posts actually spend the winter in rural settings?! There is a lot of idealisation going on here! Check it has WiFi op, and make sure you have torches, batteries, candies, logs and a month worth of food as standard.

A month's worth of food? It's not Antarctica.

JHound · 15/05/2025 21:57

Sounds perfect - I would be immediately organising my first party!

Plmnki · 15/05/2025 21:50

Have you not read the the THOUSANDS of threads on here about how people hate their neighbours?? Grab that house! Grab it!

TheGrimSmile · 15/05/2025 21:33

I've lived without neighbours and I didn't like it. When DH was away, I felt nervous. But everyone is different and it doesn't bother some people. Would you feel nervous home alone at night?

CheFaro · 15/05/2025 20:33

okydokethen · 15/05/2025 19:33

Ps - I love the dark and the silence, I find it really relaxing when it’s pitch black, it’s woodlandy and you can hear owls..but friends have said they would find it creepy, so it doesn’t suit everyone!

I loved that too, when we lived just outside a village on the edge of a wood. But when we had a neighbour’s daughter babysit for a rare night out, we came home (around ten pm!) to find her all nervy, with all the curtains pulled tight and every light on. She said the dark and the ‘noises’ (owls) scared her. She lived literally about 250 metres from us as the crow flies, but in the village, with streetlights and neighbours.

Admittedly there were times when hunting owls were deafening at 2 am, when it might have been more restful in the Tottenham Court Road.

CheFaro · 15/05/2025 20:28

CheFaro · 15/05/2025 19:19

I used to live on an an otherwise uninhabited island! Just seals and sheep. Enough power from a small wind turbine to fuel a grudge and a plug socket. Cut off for weeks at a time in bad weather. I loved it. But if the OP is nervous at the mere idea of being 200 metres from neighbours, I don’t think the house is for her.

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Sorry, fuel a FRIDGE! There was no one to have a grudge against!😀

okydokethen · 15/05/2025 19:33

Ps - I love the dark and the silence, I find it really relaxing when it’s pitch black, it’s woodlandy and you can hear owls..but friends have said they would find it creepy, so it doesn’t suit everyone!

CheFaro · 15/05/2025 19:19

Feetinthegrass · 15/05/2025 19:07

I wonder how many of those posts actually spend the winter in rural settings?! There is a lot of idealisation going on here! Check it has WiFi op, and make sure you have torches, batteries, candies, logs and a month worth of food as standard.

I used to live on an an otherwise uninhabited island! Just seals and sheep. Enough power from a small wind turbine to fuel a grudge and a plug socket. Cut off for weeks at a time in bad weather. I loved it. But if the OP is nervous at the mere idea of being 200 metres from neighbours, I don’t think the house is for her.

DrPrunesqualer · 15/05/2025 19:10

Feetinthegrass · 15/05/2025 19:07

I wonder how many of those posts actually spend the winter in rural settings?! There is a lot of idealisation going on here! Check it has WiFi op, and make sure you have torches, batteries, candies, logs and a month worth of food as standard.

I do live in the country.
In fact I couldn’t reply to Wednesday earlier as I lost Wi-Fi and the electrics went out ( overhead cables ) 🤣🤣

Nb: candles and matches always in my pockets 😁

Feetinthegrass · 15/05/2025 19:07

I wonder how many of those posts actually spend the winter in rural settings?! There is a lot of idealisation going on here! Check it has WiFi op, and make sure you have torches, batteries, candies, logs and a month worth of food as standard.

kalokagathos · 15/05/2025 18:58

I would love this!!

thenarnianna · 15/05/2025 18:11

That sounds idyllic. Just put up cameras and make sure you have good locks.

Wednesdayisme · 15/05/2025 18:08

DrPrunesqualer · 15/05/2025 16:18

Well @Wednesdayisme

Ive spotted an island with
seals !!!!
7 properties
A lighthouse and
A pub

We could have 3 houses each.
Split the other house and lighthouse and fight over the pub 🤣🤣

£2.5mill

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Perfect... Deal!!!

12345mummy · 15/05/2025 18:04

Sounds like the dream AND you will never have to worry about neighbours hearing you shouting talking to the kids in the garden

mepipesneedlagging · 15/05/2025 17:38

Oh that sounds perfect. Parts of Cheshire are like that. I'll be moving when I win the Lotto 🥰

DrPrunesqualer · 15/05/2025 17:37

Springtime43 · 15/05/2025 17:35

Yes, a few people suggested that. My cat may have objected though!

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Oh well you have a cat
I find mine are much better at checking out ( scratching and hissing at ) strangers than our dog ( who just wants to make everyone his best friend )

So job done Springtime

mindutopia · 15/05/2025 17:36

This is very similar to our house except no golf/tennis club, thank god, and we are probably 1/4 mile down a track from the road. It’s fantastic! We specifically search for a house that wasn’t anywhere near anyone else. No one bothers you and if anyone does come down the drive at night, the security lights and cctv cameras turn them right around. I love it. Peace and quiet!

Springtime43 · 15/05/2025 17:35

DrPrunesqualer · 15/05/2025 16:06

Dogs are great for security and company

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Yes, a few people suggested that. My cat may have objected though!

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