Neighbours coming back late every night and get up 5.30am

11pm is pretty late especially if you have kids who are tucked up on bed sleeping

Our neighbour is like this especially if she's coming home from the pub she makes a right holy show and a riot on the street then who where dropped her off beeps their horn as they drive off at 1am
But woe betide anyone who disturbs them

This 👆 100%

I would say:

• YABU to be annoyed by a bit of noise at 11pm if you've not said anything. 11pm isn't late, so they could reasonable expect everyone to still be up at that time and therefore not need to make any effort to be quiet.
• YANBU to ask them nicely if they could make a bit of an effort to be quiet when coming in at that time
• YANBU to be annoyed if, having been asked to be quieter, they're still noisy

Sound like my bfs neighbours. 4am smoking and chatting on the phone in the garden
Off to work at 7am with a motorcycle that never starts on the first try.

I think you’re just going to have to sell up. They sound like an active and busy household, they dont have silence like you must have to listen to hear you in your house. Im not surprised they laughed at you. it is extremely odd you can hear so much given youre detatched!

If they have ignored / laughed at you when spoken to them then I would (if you can ) start doing the same.

Once you think they are in bed all quiet, slam your car doors (if you have one) then your house doors.

Then get up a bit earlier than their usual time and do the same. Obviously you will be tired but I would try it a few times see what /if they complain.

Can you also slam some doors and yell about your bowel movements to show how the sound is travelling?

"DAVE! DAVE! DAVE! I'VE DONE A SHIT, DAVE!"

I feel your pain OP.

We have noisy feckers over the road from us. A nice, quiet cul-de-sac until 4.30am when said neighbour's mates all rock up in their cars. Cue doors and boots slamming shut, shouting, cars being moved around, then they all pile into one car and disappear off to work.

Absolutely no thought for anyone else they frequently disturb. Inconsiderate barstewards! 🤬

The problem with loud people is that they are by nature inconsiderate and it’s not worth talking to them. Like the knobs who play phone videos out loud on public transport.
I live in a flat so hear my neighbours constantly as they are shouters and have children, but it’s quiet between 8pm and 7am so I don’t really mind.
Bas I don’t have an answer, but you do have my sympathy OP xx

Oh gosh i hate noisy neighbours. Me and my husband bought our first terraced house years ago and thr neighbour down from us had sound proofing so never heard a peep unless we were parked in 'his' space and then I'd hear him muttering under his breath outside our front room window and the house on the opposite side would play ill stand by you by girls aloud every Saturday night on repeat. We named her plastic tits as she had boobs as big as the sun. Not that that's relevant 🤣

Anyway our second house we bought in a secluded area away from everyone. Apart from a few rumbles of big artic lorries on a nearby road we don't hear a peep. Its bliss. Although I do miss curtain twitching and seeing people walking by

It can be done. When I moved in here I was constantly woken up by the nesting seagulls from 4am in the summer. At some point over the last eighteen years I learnt to sleep through it. I used to have a fan on for the white noise but don't need to bother anymore.

I sympathise.

I live in a one way in and out street. It’s one of those that’s one street but has a few cul de sac type roads in it iyswim?

my neighbour behind me runs a recovery truck business. He’s often out in the night. Then returns and the beep beep BBBEEEPPP of his lorry reversing can be heard. If there’s no spaces you get it constantly why he turns around (so at front and then back of house) and goes and parks at the road entrance (on the double yellows).

He often parks at the space behind my drive on a bend. So then I have 2m of flat bed sticking past the dropped curb that I need to navigate at 4.30am when I leave the house after he’s woken me up int the night parking there. (Made even more challenging now council don’t switch the lights on until 5am instead of 4am)

I know it’s a public road and he’s doing nothing wrong - and I’d never say something - but it does annoy me. (Probably a bit more because he’s brought a property in one of the cul de sac areas so cannot park it outside his own garage in this off road space!

You need better ear plugs and white noise in the background.
Slam some doors and roar yourself at 5.30

I don't think there's any point asking again.

I think you have to work on trying to sleep through it. People can learn to sleep through quite disturbing noises - train lines and airports for example.

I'd try white noise perhaps, to mask it.

I think you need to be firmer with them rather than just ask them to be less noisy, say what you’ve said here and that you are getting no sleep and can they stop shouting and slamming doors late at night and early morning.

I wouldn’t mention the child making noise, that’s not unreasonable. I suspect that’s just grating because it’s on top of all the other noise that’s affecting your sleep.

How the bloody hell are they sleeping if they aren’t getting home until midnight and then getting up at 5:45 consistently plus getting up early at weekends? I’d be absolutely shattered. Unless you’re hearing different people who live there each time.

That would annoy me too. How new are your windows? Is it worth replacing the bedroom one at least? You shouldn’t have to go to expense, but they likely won’t change. Triple glazing cut the noise from my Mum’s neighbour washing his car listening to the bloody Venga Boys on full blast every Sunday morning.

They don't get much sleep, do they?

I guess the houses could be close together? I mean my neighbour has had to remove all photos from the wall adjoining the car door slammers house as they just come off the wall or rattle because of all the banging
some people are just SO fucking loud

these houses have fire doors and if you let go, they slam. Most of us realised this within a day but some people still let go of them constantly. It makes my bathroom cabinet fly open!

It all sounds very tiresome, and you have my sympathies. Shouting and door slamming late t night is inconsiderate, plain and simple. But how on earth can you hear someone running up the stairs next door if you are in detached houses? I’ve lived in flats where you couldn’t hear anyone running up stairs!!

Oh, I will join - my neighbour loves slamming doors, no matter what time it is.