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Husband wearing expensive aftershave into office

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Kelly997 · 14/05/2025 18:29

He works in a big office for a national company, doesn’t have to dress up wearing a suit or anything - its fairly casual.

AIBU to say wearing Creed Aventus aftershave in every day is a bit OTT?!

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Coffeislife · 14/05/2025 23:25

I wear mine to bed

Clafoutie · 14/05/2025 22:59

OneFineDay13 · 14/05/2025 22:03

Oh jeez...typo I meant posh

Pish-Posh 😆

LaughingCat · 14/05/2025 22:51

Clafoutie · 14/05/2025 22:47

Thank you very much, you sell it well ( perhaps you should get some commission!) I am very tempted to look into this. Glad you found something you like. I think once you’ve found, that’s it! 😍

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Ooohhh…I’d take commission in the form of the odd free stick of deodorant! Maybe I should put myself forward 😁

Clafoutie · 14/05/2025 22:47

LaughingCat · 14/05/2025 20:54

@Clafoutie - It’s Cashmere Mist. It lasts all day, with just a hint of a musky fragrance that seeps through into your clothes but not so much that others would be overly aware of it. It’s a roll on but doesn’t leave marks on your clothes (great if you’re into dark colours like me!). It lasts through workouts and music festivals and heatwaves and even overnight. The perfume notes are bergamot, jasmine, amber, sandalwood and vanilla, with lily of the valley running through - all deep and musky but feminine. They’re all my absolute favourite scents.

I don’t get my nails done, my clothes are permanently jeans, t-shirts and hoodies, I’m rubbish at hair, skincare and makeup as I tend to be really minimal but I can’t find another deodorant that comes close in terms of scent and staying power.

But it’s a hell of a lot more expensive now you can’t get it in the UK anymore - I have to buy it in from the US 😭

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Thank you very much, you sell it well ( perhaps you should get some commission!) I am very tempted to look into this. Glad you found something you like. I think once you’ve found, that’s it! 😍

FairViewRosie25 · 14/05/2025 22:45

Creed is gorgeous. Love it when my drivers wear lovely smelling scent makes my office smell great☺️

Gyozas · 14/05/2025 22:28

I buy insane perfumes. But my god they make me feel amazing. I love knowing I am beautifully scented and I wear it everywhere. Even to ride horses.

OneFineDay13 · 14/05/2025 22:03

Oh jeez...typo I meant posh

OneFineDay13 · 14/05/2025 21:59

Atarin · 14/05/2025 18:35

Creed wouldn’t be my definition of a ‘posh’ aftershave, why can’t he wear it daily, seems a normal thing to do? I wear scent even when wfh!!

Sounds like you don’t like the smell of it (and I don’t blame you), so surely it’s better if he wears it when not with you?

I would say Creed is a pish aftershave, doesn't it cost quite a lot?!

outforawalkb · 14/05/2025 21:48

I wear expensive perfume to bed so.. Blush

RedRoss86 · 14/05/2025 21:44

You only live once.

Wear the fancy dress.
Wear the nice earrings.
And use the God damn expensive aftershave.

ChampagneBlossom44 · 14/05/2025 21:32

There’s got to be more to this.
Are you worried he’s wearing it for somebody else?
Has he (or you) had history of self improvement or better grooming which had coincided with flirting / EA / physical cheating?
do you think he’s not going to work?
Aftershave on its own is nothing, but it must be something to you, if it’s bothered you enough to raise it here.

I had an ex who I felt a twinge of suspicion one morning when the hair gel & joop came out, it wasn’t just the aftershave but something I couldn’t put my finger on. He told me that Saturday morning he was going in on overtime but something in the set of his shoulders when he said this, I knew he was lying. (He was. Went round his ex girlfriends house for coffee who we’d had a few rows about) but yeah it wasn’t just the aftershave, after years you know someone’s nuances.

ForkyDorky · 14/05/2025 21:32

Is it new behaviour?

otherwise he just likes it

We’re Dior and YSL most days in this house

Lovelysummerdays · 14/05/2025 21:32

I think perfume / aftershave can go off after opening (air affects the smell) so once opened I wear every day till done.

OnTenterhooks · 14/05/2025 21:30

Does he police what perfume you wear?

EndlessTreadmill · 14/05/2025 21:29

I started wearing Givenchy when I was a teenager at school (was a BD present), and have worn Chanel or Kenzo ever since (always on my present list, I rarely buy). I wear it every day, I only stopped my kids were very small as I didnt want them breathing that when I was carrying them in a baby carrier or whatever.
For me, it's as much a part of my routine as deodorant and facecream.

It's about how it makes him feel. You are being ridiculous.

TheOtherSide21 · 14/05/2025 21:20

I wear Creed Aventus into the office and when I’m out travelling - regardless of it’s a business smart or jeans, blazer and trainers day. I rarely wear makeup bar eyebrows and mascara. Smelling good is my ‘thing.’ I don’t think it’s weird.

namechangeGOT · 14/05/2025 21:18

I wear Penhaligons Empressa every day to work! I also spray the stuff half way through the day too!

tuvamoodyson · 14/05/2025 21:17

I was wearing Chanel perfume today….I was doing housework.

alimac12 · 14/05/2025 21:15

There is never a bad moment for good hygiene and personal care. Plus if you have to wait for special occasions to use certain thing you will have it for ages or it will go to waste.

TheyFuckYouUpYourMamAndDad · 14/05/2025 21:13

I only ever wear expensive perfume…why would anyone wear cheap stuff for work when so many people would smell it? Who wants to ‘smell cheap’?

You are being ridiculous.

ItGhoul · 14/05/2025 21:10

LittleMousewithcloggson · 14/05/2025 20:56

I recently got bought a bottle of Baccarat Rouge and wear it most days at home at and work
i like the smell of it so I wear it for me

I wear that often and so does my colleague! She was wearing it when I interviewed her for the job.

ItGhoul · 14/05/2025 21:08

Kelly997 · 14/05/2025 18:32

It’s a going out/posh aftershave isn’t it, just seems a bit ridiculous to inflict that on colleagues 😂

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You’re being really weird about this. He’s not ‘inflicting’ an expensive aftershave on them any more than he’d be ‘inflicting’ a cheap one on them.

I wore Tom Ford Neroli Portofino to the office today. That’s not cheap either. So what?

Changedasouting · 14/05/2025 20:58

Kelly997 · 14/05/2025 18:32

It’s a going out/posh aftershave isn’t it, just seems a bit ridiculous to inflict that on colleagues 😂

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I didn’t know there was such a thing as going out aftershave 🤣🤣

LittleMousewithcloggson · 14/05/2025 20:56

I recently got bought a bottle of Baccarat Rouge and wear it most days at home at and work
i like the smell of it so I wear it for me

LaughingCat · 14/05/2025 20:54

@Clafoutie - It’s Cashmere Mist. It lasts all day, with just a hint of a musky fragrance that seeps through into your clothes but not so much that others would be overly aware of it. It’s a roll on but doesn’t leave marks on your clothes (great if you’re into dark colours like me!). It lasts through workouts and music festivals and heatwaves and even overnight. The perfume notes are bergamot, jasmine, amber, sandalwood and vanilla, with lily of the valley running through - all deep and musky but feminine. They’re all my absolute favourite scents.

I don’t get my nails done, my clothes are permanently jeans, t-shirts and hoodies, I’m rubbish at hair, skincare and makeup as I tend to be really minimal but I can’t find another deodorant that comes close in terms of scent and staying power.

But it’s a hell of a lot more expensive now you can’t get it in the UK anymore - I have to buy it in from the US 😭