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Colleague reported me for phone usage - awkward!!

158 replies

AmyRuby · 14/05/2025 17:34

I work in a fairly large office and there’s a very much ‘common sense’ approach to personal phone usage. No one sits at their desk and takes lengthy personal calls, but management accept there will be times people need to check/use their phones briefly and that for anything longer, they’ll step away from their desk or wait for breaks and lunch.

I had my 1:1 with my Manager today who told me that someone has reported to her that I’ve conversed with delivery drivers using my ring doorbell whilst at my desk - I simply say ‘please leave that round the side’ if no one’s in. I try to schedule deliveries for my WFH days but can’t always control that so it’s only a handful of
times this has happened.

My manager was clear she doesn’t have an issue with my phone usage and obviously she can’t tell me who reported it, although I have an idea.

This person will have known our manager will have had to say something to me - am I wrong to find them reporting this a bit pathetic? It just risks an awkward atmosphere when we are generally a fairly harmonious team.

OP posts:
Didimum · 14/05/2025 17:45

Your manager did not have to bring that up if she sees no issue.

loobyloo1979 · 14/05/2025 17:43

I think your manager sees this as more of an issue than you do, or else they wouldn't have mentioned it and shut it down when the complaint was made.

babystarsandmoon · 14/05/2025 17:42

Your usage must be fairly high for somebody to notice.

Tartanboots · 14/05/2025 17:42

Managers do sometimes say that "someone" reported something when actually it's them that have an issue with it. So I'd be a bit careful if this could be a possibility.

Mayflyoff · 14/05/2025 17:39

I'm not sure why your manager had to say anything about that. If someone reported one of my team for a non-issue, I'd probably just tell them it was a non-issue and leave it at that.

PansyPottering · 14/05/2025 17:39

I think if it’s clear that your manager doesn’t have an issue, she should not be discussing it with you at all. She should have put an end to it.

It’s like if someone had reported you for having two thumbs or for being called Jane. It’s not relevant so the manager should have made that clear to the reportee.

Stickortwigs · 14/05/2025 17:39

But why did the manager have to say something? If that was me about an employee I’d have internally rolled my eyes and not bothered raising it.

Zone2NorthLondon · 14/05/2025 17:37

Well clearly you’ve got a colleague who has a gripe against you. Don’t expend any energy trying to guess who it is
So long as your manager is ok with moderate use it’s fine