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Colleague reported me for phone usage - awkward!!

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AmyRuby · 14/05/2025 17:34

I work in a fairly large office and there’s a very much ‘common sense’ approach to personal phone usage. No one sits at their desk and takes lengthy personal calls, but management accept there will be times people need to check/use their phones briefly and that for anything longer, they’ll step away from their desk or wait for breaks and lunch.

I had my 1:1 with my Manager today who told me that someone has reported to her that I’ve conversed with delivery drivers using my ring doorbell whilst at my desk - I simply say ‘please leave that round the side’ if no one’s in. I try to schedule deliveries for my WFH days but can’t always control that so it’s only a handful of
times this has happened.

My manager was clear she doesn’t have an issue with my phone usage and obviously she can’t tell me who reported it, although I have an idea.

This person will have known our manager will have had to say something to me - am I wrong to find them reporting this a bit pathetic? It just risks an awkward atmosphere when we are generally a fairly harmonious team.

OP posts:
TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 15/05/2025 12:25

FenywHysbys · 14/05/2025 18:46

I’d be more concerned at the member of staff who had taken it upon themselves to police everyone else’s behaviour rather than getting on with their own work. I worked nearly twenty years with colleagues like this, it was exhausting

I agree that it can be a bad thing, but it's usually the sign of a bigger problem - projects not going well, bad management culture etc.

I raised an issue with my manager about a particular team in the company having a spat over email with my colleague. This team behave very aggressively towards lots of people, and because of their position in the company, they can act as a blocker to progress almost all of the time.

I don't have the clout to say to the CEO, hey, have you ever considered that this team ruin everything? I can report where they've been nasty to an individual.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 15/05/2025 12:07

notnorman · 15/05/2025 10:22

Haha no, I own a business with 22 employees. It’s unprofessional to be messing on your phone when you’re supposed to be working.
im guessing by your sarky attitude you are an employee who likes being on your phone?
maybe you’re at work now lol

Agree with this.
Most people won't complain on the first instance as you'd assume it's a one off.

It's probably been more disruptive than OP realises.

notnorman · 15/05/2025 11:24

HelplessSoul · 15/05/2025 10:35

"It’s unprofessional to be messing on your phone when you’re supposed to be working."

Is it?

Tell that to an employee that may have cancer, waiting for a call from their oncologist etc.

Not all phone use in the workplace is detrimental or bad.

Thank god I dont work for you.

I would suggest that waiting for a call from your oncologist is quite niche and of course you would be allowed to answer your phone in that situation.
How ridiculous.

HelplessSoul · 15/05/2025 10:35

"It’s unprofessional to be messing on your phone when you’re supposed to be working."

Is it?

Tell that to an employee that may have cancer, waiting for a call from their oncologist etc.

Not all phone use in the workplace is detrimental or bad.

Thank god I dont work for you.

notnorman · 15/05/2025 10:22

HelplessSoul · 15/05/2025 10:08

Seriously - have a day off.

Any office brown noser can whine about colleagues doing things they dont like.

Clearly whoever made the complaint is a sour cunt that should be doing their own job rather than monitoring other peoples fone use.

Are you one of these jobsworths too?

🙄

Haha no, I own a business with 22 employees. It’s unprofessional to be messing on your phone when you’re supposed to be working.
im guessing by your sarky attitude you are an employee who likes being on your phone?
maybe you’re at work now lol

HelplessSoul · 15/05/2025 10:08

notnorman · 15/05/2025 09:59

Well if her phone is away in her bag all day, why is she getting complaints about phone use!

Seriously - have a day off.

Any office brown noser can whine about colleagues doing things they dont like.

Clearly whoever made the complaint is a sour cunt that should be doing their own job rather than monitoring other peoples fone use.

Are you one of these jobsworths too?

🙄

notnorman · 15/05/2025 09:59

HelplessSoul · 15/05/2025 04:52

Suggest you re-read the OP's post.

OP isnt sat there all day faffing with their phone - so unless you have proof that they are, have a day off and do us all a favour. 🙄🤦‍♂️

Well if her phone is away in her bag all day, why is she getting complaints about phone use!

Renabrook · 15/05/2025 05:02

MooMooMoooove · 14/05/2025 22:29

Feels like there’s far more to this than your post ..

Yes this, how many times a day?

HelplessSoul · 15/05/2025 04:52

notnorman · 14/05/2025 22:55

Or- just stop using your phone so much at work.

Suggest you re-read the OP's post.

OP isnt sat there all day faffing with their phone - so unless you have proof that they are, have a day off and do us all a favour. 🙄🤦‍♂️

Yel · 14/05/2025 23:42

I wonder is it specific to the doorbell rather than phone use? Ring conversations are on speaker, not like a phone call, so the colleagues have to hear the delivery driver also. And if it's like my crackly staticy one you usually have to speak quite loudly and repeat yourself for the delivery person to hear you. I would find that irritating in an office personally.

sunshineandshowers40 · 14/05/2025 23:13

My manager would have done the sane as yours and also wouldn't have had an issue with the phone use. However, I would rather they didn't tell me as it makes me second guess everyone!

Angrymum22 · 14/05/2025 23:13

We have a no phone policy at work. It’s unprofessional and we’d never get anything done. Emergencies can be done through the landline and staff are encouraged to give school and family that number.

As an ex-employer I used to get very irritated when staff were missing calls for the business when making or taking personal calls. In fact in the early days of WiFi, I discovered that they had all signed in to the work wifi which we only used for the card payment machine and it was interfering with payments ( low data speed and limited data). What they didn’t know was that I could see who was using the WiFi. So we had a blanket ban. They had to use their own data.

I also discovered they were using the business wifi for personal email accounts, after a major virus took out our system when someone opened their email that too was stopped.

If you are using the works wifi to make calls etc it may be that IT have informed her of your frequent use. It’s very easy to monitor who is using data. Even easier if you use a works mobile.

Lassango · 14/05/2025 23:09

Non event.

If you are using your phone moderately your manager will side with you.
If you are not they will catch you eventually.

Your colleague is within their right to voice any concern they have to management and the manager has dealt with it. This is what happens in the workplace probably more often than you realise.

It is a bit odd that your manager has mentioned it to you. When I was in management I only relayed complaints to colleagues if thought that the complaint was well founded.

Perhaps your version of moderate use is not the same as most other peoples.

OnTheBoardwalk · 14/05/2025 23:08

All this snitch talk is rubbish. Your manager is annoyed with you

we've all had the 'put it in the blue bin' conversations at work. This seems more than this

thestudio · 14/05/2025 23:07

notnorman · 14/05/2025 22:55

Or- just stop using your phone so much at work.

But why? She's clearly not abusing the privilege, just being a normal person who takes under a minute to resolve life stuff every now and again.

notnorman · 14/05/2025 22:55

HelplessSoul · 14/05/2025 17:58

Easy solution.

OP, tell your manager you want to launch a grievance on whoever reported it.

Either your manager will fess up the asshole that complained, and if they do not, well, we know then that its your managercunt that has the issue.

Ergo, do the grievance on your manager for bullying and harassment.

Or- just stop using your phone so much at work.

Treesandsheepeverywhere · 14/05/2025 22:53

HelplessSoul · 14/05/2025 17:58

Easy solution.

OP, tell your manager you want to launch a grievance on whoever reported it.

Either your manager will fess up the asshole that complained, and if they do not, well, we know then that its your managercunt that has the issue.

Ergo, do the grievance on your manager for bullying and harassment.

Don't do this.

MyKeenAquaPlayer · 14/05/2025 22:53

If she doesn't have an issue why is she telling you

Loulo6098 · 14/05/2025 22:50

spoonbillstretford · 14/05/2025 22:39

Christ, I'd be looking for a new job. Can't be doing with treating employees like they are at school.

But that's exactly the problem, it is childish. Even if decent managers want to act grown up, companies can opt to conveniently forget all discretion/common sense and take issue with small misgivings, especially around the time of financial struggles. Scenarios like this have become formal warnings, and worse. It's pathetic, but some workplaces are very pathetic.

memoriesofamiga · 14/05/2025 22:48

To add another perspective, my manager would (and has) absolutely tell me if someone else had complained about me. Not because it's actually what the manager thinks, but because the manager loves drama and wants to be seen as 'supportive' when actually they're a poor manager.

I had this last year for refusing to do some work that would have been illegal and compromised me. Someone (I know who even though I wasn't told a name) complained and my boss made a big fuss of flying in to 'back me up', when it was just her feeding into the drama she loves so much.

I would pay it no mind.

spoonbillstretford · 14/05/2025 22:39

Christ, I'd be looking for a new job. Can't be doing with treating employees like they are at school.

cherrycola66 · 14/05/2025 22:33

If you have an idea who it is, casually drop into the conversation that you got pulled up on it and your manager doesn’t see an issue, let them know subtly that it’s not an issue

MooMooMoooove · 14/05/2025 22:29

Feels like there’s far more to this than your post ..

nomas · 14/05/2025 22:25

I’d tell the nosy twat politely that if s/he has any views on your phone calls, s/he can come directly to you.

hotandpermi · 14/05/2025 22:23

The thing is the person who was annoyed with op taking the call, could (if they exist) have said to op by the way I find it really distracting could you take your call into the hallway etc.

i think it’s being called snitching because if someone’s really annoyed by op actions the grown up thing to do would speak to op in a polite respectful manner. Rather that running to op manager straight on the off. It feels childish to me.

But what I find more bizarre is the manager refusing to manage the situation either way. Odd