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Am I the problem?

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hilaryy · 14/05/2025 07:03

My partner and I broke up in January because I found out he cheated while I was pregnant. I foolishly stayed and tried to make it work but it was making me miserable. I no longer trusted him I started to become insecure etc. When I decided to leave he moved back home with family 40 minutes away.

I have no issue with him seeing our son. I’ve offered to meet at a public place so he can get our baby and spend time with him. I no longer want him in my home. He is not ok with that he wants to come and go as he pleases. He has threatened to kick in my door and told me he would break my car windows. I’ve been called bitter & told I’m keeping him from his child.

Im trying to find the best solution for us all. He’s an adult he can get our son whenever he likes, but he just can not come back inside my home.

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hilaryy · 14/05/2025 07:10

Dreichweather · 14/05/2025 07:04

Nope he is.

You need advice from and domestic abuse charity and the police.

i have told him I will call the police on him. His response to me was he has money to get out. He won’t accept anything suggestions. As long as is son his here he will see him when he wants(his words).

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SparklyGlitterballs · 14/05/2025 07:09

No, he's the problem OP. This is a perfectly reasonable boundary for you to have. If he's making threats like this then involve the police for your safety. Also get a video doorbell to record any interactions or movement at the door.

SummerDaysOnTheWay · 14/05/2025 07:06

You should report his threats to the police op. You are NOT the problem.

GuevarasBeret · 14/05/2025 07:06

No, he is the problem. Kicking off when he control and bully you any more.

Keep doing as you are, you know it isn’t about your son. It is all about feeling power over you. He’s a cunt.

Dreichweather · 14/05/2025 07:04

Nope he is.

You need advice from and domestic abuse charity and the police.

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