To think that a 35 year old man setting his dating range to age 21+ is revolting?

Sorry way too young for you 😂

I'm 47, that would put me at 30.5. My DP is 29, but he's a doctor and as much of an adult as we ever get to be, so it'd be a shame to kick him out on this basis😅

Yeah I have just seen their 2nd response. On MN people quote the half plus 7 as a minimum age however in fact its an optimum (as well as being a load of nonsense)

I am assuming you are joking!

I don't think Oona was being serious.

The half your age + 7 years is a metric that's been around for ages. From AI:

The dating rule "half your age plus seven" is often attributed to French author Max O'Rell (Léon Paul Blouet) in his 1901 book, Her Royal Highness Woman. In the book, he stated that a man should marry a woman half his age plus seven, which was meant to be an ideal age for a bride.

You would have had to wait until he was 40 and you were 27.

The law is an ass, but thankfully, not usually THAT much of an ass.

Thats ridiculous. I met my DH at 25 and he was 38 so really i should have been 26. But if he was 39 then I would have had to be 26.5. How does that make any sense at all!!

There should be no law for this, or certainly not if someone is over 18. I do agree under 18 though.

The law should be half your age plus seven. And in reverse, your age minus seven and then doubled.

I don't see a problem? I don't get how it concerns you.

I didn't say it wasn't problematic. I said that at 21 women have agency to make choices. I had my heart broken by a much older man at 24 and the fact he was older and financially stable definitely played a part in how easily he swept me off my feet. I dusted myself down and carried on, ended up meeting my husband a few years later.

The lines where it's unacceptable are when one party really isn't aware of what they are getting into.

Look at the videos of Andrew Tate etc talking about young women and see why its problematic

The point is that there is no clear start to ‘adulthood’. 18 is just an arbitrary figure.

I'd say physical maturity plus a few years is already a generous interpretation.
Im not saying a 20 year old brain is the same as a 50 year old brain, as these change through our whole lives. But both are the brains of adults.

Where on earth did you go to University? I went to University in 2007 and was easily the least "worldly" student in my block by a country mile. I can say with 99% certainty (those walls were thin!) that by the end of Freshers year there wasn't a virgin, male or female, in the block.

Some are vulnerable, some aren't- just like some 30 yo women and men.

At 21, you are able to make a decision about who you want a relationship with.

When I was at uni I lived in a block where there was about 20 young women. The vast majority were virgins when they started uni (and I was shocked to find that a fair few had never even been to a club). When we graduated at 21, I would say that more than half still hadn’t slept with anyone or had a serious relationship. SOME young women may be sexual instigators and worldly in their knowledge of men, but I don’t think it’s the majority by any stretch of the imagination. At least it wasn’t when I was at uni in the 2000s

According to who? You?

I don’t care what you think either!

Let me guess, you’re dating someone with a massive age gap 😂

No more insulting than comparing the maturity of a 35 year old to that of a 21 year old.

The point is that there is no clear start to ‘adulthood’. 18 is just an arbitrary figure.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-47622059

Again, I’m not saying that they can’t make rational choices, I’m saying that they are more vulnerable to being exploited. The only reason that men in their 30s want to date much younger women is because it gives them more power and control.

Where did I say that no-one under 30 should be employed with responsibility? Weird post!

I also didn’t says that a 21 year old can’t be trusted to have sex with who they want. I said that they are more vulnerable to exploitation by older makes. I’ve seen it happen countless times.

I don't think maturity depends on age. It depends on personality and also life experiences.

I know a 40 year old man who has never left home, never worked. He gets his mum to do everything. His father wasn't around for him at all, so i think that made him have less self confidence in himself, and become more dependant on his mum.

Then, I know a 26 year old who is a manager and is very mature.

He had a loving father and mother, which gave him more confidence in life

You are painting all women with the same brush.

I wonder if the same people arguing that 21 year-olds are fully fledged adults say the same about young adults who want to modify their bodies. She's 21, if she wants to hack her breasts off and fashion a penis put of her arm, she can!.. right?

I don't think any doctor should be allowing any person to unnecesarily mutilate their body, no. It's unethical.

The amount of people who identify as trans is hugely worrying and something is very wrong in society that we pander to this ideology
but wether you like it or not a 21 year old is an adult and has the same rights and privileges as any adult
I would hope any adult who wanted extreme surgery to become their desired Gender, would have to go a long period of counselling and adjustments,such as living as a " male" / "female" ,before they would be considered for such surgery