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Rattles1 · 13/05/2025 23:39

I have a bit of a weird question I guess - I have a mum school friend , and we are part of a small group of friends who meet every couple months etc. She likes to have a couple drinks every evening, but it has to be one of those cocktails ( can or bottle ? ) or like a flavoured gin or vodka, but she can’t manage anything ‘strong ‘, but does have the flavoured stuff each evening.
I’m asking as otherwise we are similar with drinks on our nights out, no wine as it’s headache , no strong spirits etc. it’s just that I couldn’t handle it more than once a week etc. Would this be a concern at all to need such a drink each evening, I’m just curious as there doesn’t seem to be a need for any strong alcohol etc

OP posts:
Thistimearound · 14/05/2025 11:13

Redpeach · 14/05/2025 11:09

Regular drinking is very frowned upon, on mumsnet, which i believe is how you feel

Yes and it feels like the faux concern in the post just wants to start a barrage of “if you’re drinking every day you are an alcoholic” posts.

Redpeach · 14/05/2025 11:09

Regular drinking is very frowned upon, on mumsnet, which i believe is how you feel

OrangeCrushes · 14/05/2025 11:05

I think that anyone needing a drink every night probably has a small dependence. Whether this impacts anything at all other than their mental and physical health (longer term) is the subject of a great deal of study and debate.

loropianalover · 14/05/2025 11:02

Rattles1 · 13/05/2025 23:59

I don’t have concern as such, I guess I just wondered if this was an odd need. She’s lovely and completely always with it , I don’t have concerns , but not encountered before. I guess it’s no different to someone having glass of wine each evening

Sorry OP I really can’t make sense of what you mean - you’re wondering is ‘it’ a concern but you have no concerns? And you think it’s reasonable to have a glass of wine every evening but a canned drink seems different and like an ‘odd need’? But you don’t see it as hard alcohol so you’re not concerned…. but you made this thread because…?

Can you elaborate on what the issue is, are you noticing bad patterns with your friend, are you concerned for her children? You’re going to have to lay it out properly if you want advice or thoughts.

mmsnet · 14/05/2025 03:21

none of your business

BeyondTheReef · 14/05/2025 02:06

You need to phone 101 and log it with the police. It starts with a can or two of JD and Cokes in the evening, progressing very quickly to being a serial killer. Her methods are likely to stealthy, offer her a straw, if she accepts, run!

Starzinsky · 14/05/2025 01:54

Some people have chocolate everyday and others every now and again...who cares. Definitely better things for you to spend your life worrying about.

Boredonafridaynight · 14/05/2025 00:17

If she wants to have one or 2 a night of these drinks then it's absolutely none of your business... I don't see why your so concerned unless she's necking loads of the stuff

Rattles1 · 13/05/2025 23:59

I don’t have concern as such, I guess I just wondered if this was an odd need. She’s lovely and completely always with it , I don’t have concerns , but not encountered before. I guess it’s no different to someone having glass of wine each evening

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loropianalover · 13/05/2025 23:57

What is your concern exactly - do you think she has a drinking problem?

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