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Am I misreading tone?

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 13/05/2025 22:17

Therapist of a year that I visit regularly asks for deposits pre appt. Very normal. I rarely mess with anyone’s money so I send it.

My bank is frozen out due to 3 fraudulent transactions so I can’t pay anyone. I booked my slot she said “please pay deposit via the link” i said “sorry Sandra my bank is frozen at the moment. Please could you remind me again in a couple of days and I will transfer you the money straight away.” Her response was “Hope nothing serious x

Would you mind setting a reminder for yourself please and message me once done so that I can confirm receipt 😊💜
Thank you”

I just read that as unnecessarily difficult. I run a business tutoring and I’ll remind clients. It’s no issue. I just think it was really standoffish for no reason. It upsets me because I’m a regular client and appreciate the therapy get.

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ThePerkyCoralPoet · 13/05/2025 22:22

financialmuddle · 13/05/2025 22:20

It's weirdly infantilising of yourself to ask her to remind you - an adult - to pay your bill. Why would you ask that?

No. I meant in the sense can you sent the reminder for payment again. It’s not infantialising when the cha cows of me remembering are slim to none! I run a business and have 0 issues saying to a client “payment reminder of x amount please send by ….” It’s no problem. It’s my business so.

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Hercisback1 · 13/05/2025 22:21

You're the adult, set a reminder yourself.

RunningJo · 13/05/2025 22:20

I don’t think what she said was wrong. Only you know when your bank issue is resolved and you can make payments again. Just make a note yourself to check and then pay her.

financialmuddle · 13/05/2025 22:20

It's weirdly infantilising of yourself to ask her to remind you - an adult - to pay your bill. Why would you ask that?

KatyaKat · 13/05/2025 22:19

Why is that unnecessarily difficult? Surely it's easier for you to remind yourself via a calendar reminder anyway? If I was her, I'd think it cheeky of you to ask me! She's your therapist, not your PA.

midtownmum · 13/05/2025 22:19

Why should your bank issues create extra work for her, though? I think it's a bit rude to expect her to remind you. It's not her problem or responsibility.

MereNoelle · 13/05/2025 22:18

Why is it easier for her to remind you than it is for you to just set a reminder for yourself?