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Husband uses my towel!!

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ExhaustedPigeon37 · 13/05/2025 21:45

Exactly that!

Am I being unreasonable to think DH should use his own towel when showering/bathing?

We hang our towels on the back on the back of our bedroom door, my towel is usually pink or purple as I bought them for me and my daughter when we lived together, just us two, a girls house. DH’s towel is usually blue or green, from his house when he lived by himself!

I’m suffering tonight with cramps and back pain and it may be because it’s TOTM but DH had a shower and then came downstairs with my pink towel around his waist and it really annoyed me!! I’ve told him so many times to use his own towel. Tonight he just said in his nonchalant male tone “sorry I just grabbed the first one I saw!!”. He just doesn’t seem to get it. I only changed the towels this weekend and now he has used both of ours, so I’m going to have to get another clean towel tomorrow morning!

YABU - get yourself some chocolate and get over it he is your husband!

YANBU - he should be more understanding, send him out to get you chocolate!

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terracottatuesdays · 13/05/2025 23:08

Mine does this and it gives me the RAGE! I get out of the shower to a cold damp towel instead of a lovely dry fluffy one. He thinks I’m being precious but it ruins my shower either before (if I have to make an unnecessary trip to the utility when I just want to crack on) or after (when I have to dry off with a manky towel)!

2chocolateoranges · 13/05/2025 23:05

we all have our own towels , always had since we got married and then had our children.

I hate the thought of using someone else’s towel. 🤮🤮
We all have our own colour of towel.

Nevertrustacop · 13/05/2025 23:05

I don't think I have ever used a towel after a shower. On goes the bath robe, I potter about for a few minutes and I am magically dry. DH doesn't use my robe, nor I his, so we are all good.

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ExhaustedPigeon37 · 13/05/2025 22:56

@ItGhoul each to their own!

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ExhaustedPigeon37 · 13/05/2025 22:55

Yerdug · 13/05/2025 22:54

Oh no! I hope he's not using your vibrator too!

That’s a completely different topic 😂 but I bloody hope not! 😂

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ItGhoul · 13/05/2025 22:54

ExhaustedPigeon37 · 13/05/2025 21:50

Actually I don’t put my mouth anywhere near his genitalia! Bad gag reflex!

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I feel more sorry for him with every post

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ExhaustedPigeon37 · 13/05/2025 22:54

@nyancatdays 😂😂😂 yes! This too!

@LoveWine123 😂😂 if he hadn’t of made dinner tonight this option may have been on the cards 😂

@WhySoManySocks he hung his towel up in the bathroom once and he “forgot” where his towel was the last time he used my towel, so I made sure that when I brushed my teeth I left a toothpaste mark on his towel to show my annoyance!

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Yerdug · 13/05/2025 22:54

Oh no! I hope he's not using your vibrator too!

SL129 · 13/05/2025 22:53

My partner does the same, it used to really annoy me but I'm over it now. He's clean when he uses it and there's always two towels out so I just use the dry one. They are probably washed more regularly than they would be if we used our own.

RhaenysRocks · 13/05/2025 22:53

@Ace56 but then you just use a different one. What's so special about a particular towel?

Ace56 · 13/05/2025 22:51

This would annoy me, not for hygiene reasons but because what if you wanted to shower shortly after him? Then your towel would be wet! It’s annoying.

mumzof4x · 13/05/2025 22:50

I put two large clean towels in all the bathrooms every Friday
more clean in the towel cupboard for anyone who wants more
DH I don’t have separate towels . They are used to dry ourselves straight out of the shower fgs !

BeanQuisine · 13/05/2025 22:48

I'm surprised that people make do with just one towel after a shower. I always use two, even if I don't wash my hair.

RhaenysRocks · 13/05/2025 22:47

SpunkySquid · 13/05/2025 22:32

Exactly what I was about to say. Maybe @RhaenysRocks is into that though.

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🤣 no, I just don't get how you can be so freaked out by your sexual partner's clean skin touching a piece of fabric. I get the wet / damp thing I guess but in my household, there are loads of towels around the place, you just grab the nearest dry one. I've been on MN forever and am genuinely weirded out by how precious and OTT sone people are about all things laundry related. My household is one of the least prone to illness of any kind that I know and we have standards that many on here would consider shockingly lax.

FatLarrysBanned · 13/05/2025 22:47

We share towels with gay abandon in this house. We also both sleep naked, have sex and don't change the sheets every day! 😱

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ExhaustedPigeon37 · 13/05/2025 22:46

@ExtraOnions one large shower towel per person per week. Extras are kept in the airing cupboard but usually only swapped when the others are left on the floor (teenage daughter) or mine is used by my DH. I’m sure there are other reasons why they are swapped but I can’t think off the top of my head

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LoveWine123 · 13/05/2025 22:45

Leave the bastard.

ExtraOnions · 13/05/2025 22:43

Do people only have one towel per person, we have a big stack in the bathroom, and you just take the next one.

WhySoManySocks · 13/05/2025 22:41

Beachlovingirl · 13/05/2025 21:48

That would really annoy me too OP because it’s not hard just to reach for your own towel is it? My husband washes his hands in our bathroom and instead of using the provided hand towel uses my large bath towel that is hung on the bathroom door. When I use my towel it’s always got lots of wet patches!

I passively aggressively wipe my hands on my husband’s towel if he’s been SUPER annoying.

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ExhaustedPigeon37 · 13/05/2025 22:40

Babyboomtastic · 13/05/2025 22:35

Can't you just use his towel tomorrow?

I don't get the issue, aside from doing something he knew would annoy you.

But we are a family of towel sharers.

No thanks! I’ll get a clean one tomorrow!!

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Beachlovingirl · 13/05/2025 22:40

@nyancatdays exactly this. I see my husband fresh out of the shower with a towel and he gets right in that arse crevice 😅
I do not want my towel to go near that.

SandAndSea · 13/05/2025 22:40

No one else's opinion on this matters, OP. If its an issue for you, it's an issue. I would make a gentle/fun rule up about it and just tell him it's one of your weird things. We've all got them.

RosesAndHellebores · 13/05/2025 22:39

ExhaustedPigeon37 · 13/05/2025 21:56

The issue is his towel is next to mine. It doesn’t take a lot to pick his own! Also I have to be up earlier than him to go to work in the morning and my towel won’t now be dry by the morning. It’s not about cleanliness, it’s about his thought process!

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You could use his dry one.

Personally, I think it's a non issue especially when there is intimacy between a couple and they share a bed.

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ExhaustedPigeon37 · 13/05/2025 22:38

nyancatdays · 13/05/2025 22:35

Ditto, but there’s another thread running right now where this opinion is considered outrageously OCD! 😆

Anyone who believes a light sluice in the bath makes those areas “clean” is being rather optimistic! To be honest though my DP could autoclave himself in the shower and I still wouldn’t really want to rub my face on a towel where he’d been drying his arse crack.

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😂😂😂 I’m more than happy to be outrageously OCD for this matter!!

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Expensivecoffee · 13/05/2025 22:37

EffortlesslyInelegant · 13/05/2025 21:51

If you washed your towels every ten minutes like a proper Mumsnetter you wouldn't have this problem.

I wash mine after every use.
Clean towel every time i use one.