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Husband uses my towel!!

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ExhaustedPigeon37 · 13/05/2025 21:45

Exactly that!

Am I being unreasonable to think DH should use his own towel when showering/bathing?

We hang our towels on the back on the back of our bedroom door, my towel is usually pink or purple as I bought them for me and my daughter when we lived together, just us two, a girls house. DH’s towel is usually blue or green, from his house when he lived by himself!

I’m suffering tonight with cramps and back pain and it may be because it’s TOTM but DH had a shower and then came downstairs with my pink towel around his waist and it really annoyed me!! I’ve told him so many times to use his own towel. Tonight he just said in his nonchalant male tone “sorry I just grabbed the first one I saw!!”. He just doesn’t seem to get it. I only changed the towels this weekend and now he has used both of ours, so I’m going to have to get another clean towel tomorrow morning!

YABU - get yourself some chocolate and get over it he is your husband!

YANBU - he should be more understanding, send him out to get you chocolate!

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Valeriekat · 14/05/2025 04:52

ItGhoul · 13/05/2025 22:54

I feel more sorry for him with every post

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Women are allowed not to enjoy certain sex acts. How dare you criticize.

RhaenysRocks · 14/05/2025 04:50

AlmostLate · 13/05/2025 23:23

🤢 and pretty stupid.
Use clean towels ..

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Why stupid? I think all the washing after one use, "yuk" comments and worrying about skin infections is a bit stupid unless you actually know someone has something. Equally, the comment about drying between your toes..do people actually sit there and methodically do that? By the time I'm putting my socks on my feet are air dried.

No wonder the stress levels and anxiety in adults is so bloody high if something as mundane and every day as a shower and a towel requires a routine, a laundry rota and health anxiety about accidentally getting skin cells on you from the person you sleep next to in bed.

Valeriekat · 14/05/2025 04:49

Do people not have their own preferred towel? I prefer my magenta towels to my orange towels. I prefer my more expensive towels to my cheaper towels and I like them all to be very dry!

thepariscrimefiles · 14/05/2025 04:48

Expensivecoffee · 13/05/2025 22:37

I wash mine after every use.
Clean towel every time i use one.

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Is that just bath towels or hand towels as well? Surely if it's hand towels and you use a clean one every time you wash your hands, you must use loads of towels every day.

Valeriekat · 14/05/2025 04:47

Do people genuinely not understand why you would want a nice dry towel?
He isn’t listening to you.

RhaenysRocks · 14/05/2025 04:35

Delphiniumandlupins · 14/05/2025 01:47

I wonder if the men people who think it doesn't matter which towel they use would notice if they were left with a damp one?

But that's why you have a stack of them ..some of mine are older than my teenagers but they are all perfectly serviceable and in the bathroom cupboard so it's really not a problem to just grab another.

dottiedodah · 14/05/2025 04:12

It's just not on .pp saying don't see the issue. 1 you have made it clear you don't want to share your towel,he needs to respect that.2 it's unhygienic, our skin sheds all over towe.any skin irritation may be passed on .

PoopingAllTheWay · 14/05/2025 02:53

We have different towels

Partner uses his more than once

I use fresh clean towels every time so no chance he would use mine but i know not to use his
Anyway, why would i want to use his towel, its horrid to be sharing towels

But we have different towels to dry hands too. So 😂

dayslikethese1 · 14/05/2025 02:52

Surprised at the amount of ppl who all use the same towel😮I guess it's not a big deal but I prefer to keep mine to myself so I'm with you OP.

LadyPenelope68 · 14/05/2025 02:32

TheChosenTwo · 13/05/2025 22:05

😂 I hang mine on the spare room/my office door hook for this reason! I share a bathroom with dh and ds, the dds have their own bathroom but it’s on the top floor and I can’t be arsed to go up and use theirs but they have a healthy respect for towels!! The boys I share with most definitely do not. I also have my own bath mat that is pretty and scalloped that I only put down and remove again when I’m showering otherwise there’s spots of toothpaste where someone misses the sink or it’s just soggy when I come to use it.
YANBU imo, I don’t want to share towels or bath mats and in our next house I will not only have my own bedroom but my own bathroom too!!

@TheChosenTwo my own bedroom and bathroom is my idea of heaven!! My DH snores ridiculously and is messy, plus sharing a bathroom with 3 males (him and DS22 and DS25) is no fun! I just want nice towels, candles etc etc. 😂

Delphiniumandlupins · 14/05/2025 01:47

I wonder if the men people who think it doesn't matter which towel they use would notice if they were left with a damp one?

Delphiniumandlupins · 14/05/2025 01:40

I think everyone should use their own bath/shower towels. I think DH wouldn't mind sharing so his towel is easy to find, on the back of the bathroom door. Mine dries on the bedroom radiator. I have to remember to take it to the bathroom but it's a small price to pay.

StarTwirl · 14/05/2025 01:37

What would annoy me is that he’s been asked to stick to his own towel and he hasn’t

it’s disrespectful

We all have our own towels in different colours here

I’d hate to reach for my towel and find it damp from someone else using it for a start

WhenICalledYouLastNightFromTesco · 14/05/2025 01:22

Nevertrustacop · 13/05/2025 23:05

I don't think I have ever used a towel after a shower. On goes the bath robe, I potter about for a few minutes and I am magically dry. DH doesn't use my robe, nor I his, so we are all good.

What about drying in-between your toes though, and other areas that need properly drying? Do you dry them on your robe?

WhenICalledYouLastNightFromTesco · 14/05/2025 01:16

ExhaustedPigeon37 · 13/05/2025 21:50

Actually I don’t put my mouth anywhere near his genitalia! Bad gag reflex!

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I do perform fellatio and I'm a swallower, but I'd also be slightly irritated if DH used my towel.

chaosmaker · 14/05/2025 00:57

ExhaustedPigeon37 · 13/05/2025 21:56

The issue is his towel is next to mine. It doesn’t take a lot to pick his own! Also I have to be up earlier than him to go to work in the morning and my towel won’t now be dry by the morning. It’s not about cleanliness, it’s about his thought process!

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Hang his towel on top of yours? He would then have to grab his own. If he didn't then it would be deliberately using yours to piss you off.

BeanQuisine · 14/05/2025 00:42

Happyearlyretirement · 13/05/2025 23:18

I’m with you weird ones. Been married nearly 40 years brought up 2 kids and have survived sharing towels. No nasty diseases or ill health, so must just be the lucky few.

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Surely couples have more than two towels per household, anyway. I live alone and have about a dozen bath towels.

Eenameenadeeka · 14/05/2025 00:34

We only use each towel once and then wash it, so we don't have our own personal towels, I was confused as to why it mattered so much which he used. I actually didn't know that some people didn't wash them every time, now I think I've been doing far too much laundry 😂

Chocolatelabradorsarethebest · 13/05/2025 23:27

God these constant towel threads are tedious, must be the 5th this week.

AlmostLate · 13/05/2025 23:23

RhaenysRocks · 13/05/2025 21:48

Don't be ludicrous. You let him ejaculate inside you, I imagine you put your mouth on his genitals.. he's just come out of a shower and is clean. What on earth is the issue?

🤢 and pretty stupid.
Use clean towels ..

pizzaHeart · 13/05/2025 23:22

mugglewump · 13/05/2025 21:54

Well I never realised that people in a family household had their own towels. We just have shared towels. Are we the weird ones?

Yes.
Apologies if it’s money issue.

I would be annoyed too OP.
I don’t want to wrap myself in a wet towel after shower, I want my nice dry one .

Happyearlyretirement · 13/05/2025 23:18

BillStickersWillBeProsocuted · 13/05/2025 21:57

I was thinking the exact same, just wondering if its worth it's own thread! 😂

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I’m with you weird ones. Been married nearly 40 years brought up 2 kids and have survived sharing towels. No nasty diseases or ill health, so must just be the lucky few.

EilishMcCandlish · 13/05/2025 23:13

Where is the voting option for this wouldn't bother me at all, but send him out for chocolate anyway?
I genuinely don't see an issue with sharing a towel with a spouse. But if he knows you don't like it, he could be more considerate of your preference and get you chocolate as an apology.

rosyvalentine · 13/05/2025 23:10

I would rather walk to the airing cupboard naked and dripping from the shower than use my DP's towel!! And I would hate it if he used mine. You're not BU at all OP.

4444223e · 13/05/2025 23:09

We each have our own but I would imagine the wrong one gets used on occasion and no one's died yet. The kids have about 12 each as far as I can tell. No idea who's using what in there when everyone's home.

Heated towel bars are the invention of the gods, however. Ours seem to dry in about 15 minutes.

We also keep a stack of fresh towels in the bathroom, so it would be unusual not to be able to just grab a clean one.