Husband uses my towel!!

We are all entitled to our opinions and in my humble opinion, people that reuse towels for a week cannot be clean. Just even the thoughts of drying myself with a towel that has been used twice a day for a week is disgusting.

People don't dry their toes? You're all blowing my mind today😂Do they just airdry?

Well I mean he’d be offended if I made such a massive deal about sharing a towel!

It’s not about being squeamish. I was brought up not to share towels, after 71 years of having my own towel for my exclusive use I’m not about to change. Why would I?

No, you’re not. But unlike the uber-squeamish MN cohort, we don’t have a horror of sharing towels.

I don't understand why people are debating whether it's fine to share towels or not. Some households do and some households don't. The OP comes from a non towel sharing household and doesn't want to share towels. She seems to be doing the washing. She has asked her husband not to use her towel, which is a perfectly reasonable thing to ask, when there is a clean towel for him to use, easily available. So it's shit that he can't even reach round for his own towel rather than use the OPs.

One thing I would do differently though OP is make him wash it once he has used it. At the moment you are dealing with the natural consequences of his actions and there is no impact on him.

On the occasions I’ve found out my partner has used my towel all hell breaks loose. I don’t want him flossing his arse with my towel and then me using it to it dry round my bits. It’s totally unhygienic.

You’re shocked people prone to athletes foot take steps to prevent it? Seriously?

I’ve never not dried between my toes! I had no idea people didn’t! 😮

I’ve also never dried between my toes and never had athletes foot. I’m shocked people dry their toes tbh

If you flush the toilet with the lid up then the towels in the room also get fecal matter on them.

Yeah I honestly don’t care who uses my towels after they’ve washed themselves. My mum, a friend, their boyfriend, a guest. It’s a towel… maybe wouldn’t love a stranger from the street walking in and having a scrub.

You’re extremely fortunate then. I was plagued with it when I was younger hence religiously drying between my toes every time my feet get wet.

I've never wanted to share a bath towel after watching Frank Skinner's standup when he talks about drying himself on a white towel. Plus, I admit that I am influenced by the articles saying that '90% of towels are contaminated with faecal bacteria, and that 56% of romantic partners spread faecal bacteria when they share bath and shower towels'.

We just have a load of grey towels. Dh and I share a bathroom so we just use the same ones. Dd and ds tend to keep theirs separate.

I was irritated the other day when I noticed a towel that had been used had a bit of blood on it (my totm) so must have been me the previous day and I hadn’t noticed. I put it in the wash and got a clean one (whilst soaking wet) dh later said “oh you noticed the blood on the towel?”!!!! So he had seen it and left the towel there! Whe I asked why he hadn’t put it in the wash he said he wasn’t sure if I had finished with it!

Wow. I do dry between my toes, I'm 44 and I've had athlete's foot once. There have been a couple of people saying they don't dry between their toes after bathing or showering, is this something I don't need to be concerning myself with? 🤣

Whatever the responses, I'm still drying between my toes.

I’ve never dried between my toes in my entire life and in my 49 years on this earth I’ve never had athlete’s foot.

Seriously? Have you never had Athlete's Foot as a consequence?

I'd argue you have an even bigger problem than the OP has then!!

YANBU.

We haven't shared towels since our DC were little over 15 years ago following a threadworm outbreak!!🤢 I can't believe anyone would share towels after going through that!

Plus my teens would be utterly grossed out to think they wiped their face on the same towel their dad wiped his (clean) arse on 😅..so would I come to think of it 🤣

It’s not necessarily a question of feeling squeamish- most of us don’t want to dry ourselves with a towel which is already wet.

Either he’s genuinely ignorant or he’s trying to get a rise out of you. Neither is great.

You can talk to him, or move your towel somewhere else to dry. But if you’re having to play silly beggars because he chooses to do something that bothers you, it’s not a respectful relationship.

Absolutely agree, I’ve lots of lovely towels but we all use them. I always put fresh towels out for overnight guests in their rooms but ap as rt from that I’m very confident my families hygiene levels are high enough to know when a fresh towel is needed.

I can see why it’s annoying but he’s your husband, without being crude you share other bodily bits, him wiping his clean body isn’t that big of a deal?

Don't be so stupid with the sarcasm....she's allowed to have a buggering bath towel to herself, we don't have to share everything in life ffs 😑