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To think that we are indeed an island of strangers, but…

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jewelcase · 13/05/2025 21:05

…it’s not to do with immigration.

I definitely feel like we have less sense of belonging and community than a generation ago. But I think it’s more to do with the atomisation and monetisation of our culture than immigration.

30 years ago we all watched the same TV because there were only four channels and you couldn’t watch whatever, whenever. Soaps and Saturday evenings and Christmas Day got 20m+ viewers.

We all saw the same films.

We all listened to the same music. The Top 40 was big news and everyone knew who was number one.

Going to a sporting event or a gig was relatively cheap, so available to all.

The news was the news. There weren’t ten versions of it to pick a favourite from, one for every political persuasion.

Now all that is gone. We exist in little bubbles. We have been gifted endless choice and have all chosen different things. Where groups do exist, they’re often online rather than in real life, and often goad from a distance rather than seek common ground in person.

We are an island of strangers. Nothing to do with immigrants though.

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Simplestars · 13/05/2025 22:46

After hearing Starmer's speech about being strangers on an Island, I have to ask WHAT are Labour now?

TheGrimSmile · 13/05/2025 22:43

Rampant capitalism, materialism and technology have killed communities and made us all feel like strangers. Nothing to do with forriners. So pissed off with Starmer for playing this immigrant card.

jewelcase · 13/05/2025 21:13

Octavia64 · 13/05/2025 21:07

Nope.

30 years ago was 1995. Lots of people were into garage or acid house and went to raves and didn’t care about the top 40.

I didn’t mean that there were no sub cultures, because obviously there were. I just meant that there were much bigger and more communal ‘mega-cultures’ which no longer exist.

Biggest selling single in 1995 was Robson and Jerome with 1.8m sales. I’ve just looked that up and was surprised given that it was Oasis v Blur that year, two other enormous, zeitgeist defining songs.

Biggest selling single of 2024? Stick Season, 35,000 sold. Obviously a ton of downloads too but the fact is that the shared experience has been much diluted in the name of broadened choice.

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Octavia64 · 13/05/2025 21:07

Nope.

30 years ago was 1995. Lots of people were into garage or acid house and went to raves and didn’t care about the top 40.

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 13/05/2025 21:07

Very true.

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