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Would you attend a wedding if your spouse wasn’t invited?

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Youstolemygoddamnhouse · 13/05/2025 20:17

So, would you attend a wedding if your spouse wasn’t invited. Interested to hear people’s opinions as there’s a few threads on this recently and I love wedding drama

There are many reasons why a spouse might not be invited such as

  • costs
  • limited capacity
  • at the bottom of the pecking order - might not have met the spouse or only met a few times and would rather invite another guest
  • Might dislike spouse
  • Might want the wedding to be a small intimate ceremony

is it normal to invite spouses? Is it considered rude if they are not invited? Would you be offended or not care? What about people that are in relationships but are not married? How long do people need to be dating for their OH to be invited?

YABU - No, I would not attend a wedding without a spouse being invited

YANBU- Yes, I would attend a wedding without spouse and don’t care they would not invited

OP posts:
user593 · 13/05/2025 20:21

It depends on the circumstances. My partner recently attended a wedding I wasn’t invited to, which I wasn’t happy about. It wasn’t a small wedding and I knew the groom well, but all the partners/ wives of his friends had been excluded (but not the partners/ husbands of hers!).

Edited to add I was particularly annoyed as the wedding necessitated an overnight stay!

BendingSpoons · 13/05/2025 20:21

If I was invited with a group of friends, then I would happily go without DH. He doesn't like weddings anyway!

fourelementary · 13/05/2025 20:21

Mostly I would say a husband or wife should be included.

Exceptions being if I was part of a friendship group where others werent married and we would go together and hubby would be left out…

Ceska · 13/05/2025 20:20

Yes

Have done

We are not joined at the hip

TeenLifeMum · 13/05/2025 20:19

If it’s a work colleague then totally fair. Only time it’s acceptable imo.

Overall, going to a wedding is boring unless you’re in good company. The bride and groom will be busy so they don’t count as company so I expect to bring a plus one.

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 13/05/2025 20:19

I would potentially go. Depends on whose wedding it was and how important it was, why DH wasn’t invited and if I knew other people there.

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