Would you attend a wedding if your spouse wasn’t invited?

Of course. I'm an individual and can't imagine refusing to go because of that.

I would go. I also wouldn't have an issue with dh attending a wedding that I was not invited to. In my experience its generally down to the couple having a very small, intimate ceremony or just wanting to keep costs down so not giving plus ones where they are not close to both of the couple- it's not personal.

For the most part, I wouldn’t be even slightly bothered not to be invited, and neither would my wife.

That said, the only wedding likely to come up any time soon is if my nephews or niece get married. They lived with us when they were young, and see us regularly, so I would be surprised if they only invited their aunt (their mother is my wife’s sister) but I wouldn’t make a fuss.

Depends on how close I am to the bride/groom as to whether it’s ok not to invite spouse. If it was my sibling or best friend getting married then I’d expect my husband to be invited to the wedding as well. If it was a work colleague who I was friendly with at work but didn’t see outside of work then I wouldn’t be offended if I was invited but my husband wasn’t.

Like most - of course I would, (and have done) presuming I knew other people there.
So, as per the examples above - cousins in a big family not inviting spouses, but obviously you know all the family, or work colleagues. I've been to old friend from school's wedding without dh. dh has been to University friend without me.

Do you think each guest should have a plus one regardless of their relationship status?

No.

Isn't that the same question as above ?
I mean, I wouldn't invite someone to come on their own if they didn't know other people, but (as per the example above) when I went to my old school friend's wedding, I went with another school friend. Neither of our dh's were invited, which was quite understandable and quite a relief for dh . We had a lovely day. My dc have been 'on their own' to friends they were at University with's weddings, but, obviously they knew the other friends from that friendship group at University.
If there were someone I really wanted to invite, and they didn't know other people, I probably would offer a 'plus one' in that exceptional circumstance, but I can't imaging anyone being close enough to me that I wanted them to come to my wedding, not having spent lots of time over the years with either friends or family members.

Yes, no problem at all so long as I knew other people there

I'd be fine going if it was a work or hobby friend that DH doesn't know. We've been married 35 years and most of our friends we know as a couple so I'd be very surprised if one of us was invited without the other by a friend we both know. We're quite independent though so I don't think it would be problem for either of us.

We must have been to about10 weddings separately and about 20 together. I never mind going alone or him going alone unless special people.

It's always dependent. If it wasn't a snub then it's just practical decision amd i can't get angry about a practical, logical decision.

If its a wedding of 10k people and my sister hasn't invited my husband of 20 years, yeah, it's a problem! But a work colleague inviting me alone would be fine and I'd be quite touched to be invited. But then I'm not the sad stereotype of a woman who can't leave the house without "my partner".

We had a wedding 6 months ago. As it was a twilight wedding at 4pm straight into the evening it was same guests for the ceremony and evening. We had work mates without spouses and we had certain friend groups without spouses. Ive still never met some of my workmates spouses and i class them as good friends after 14 years. It seemed very normal for us to do as we socialise that way with them too. We struggled to keep the guest list to 150 so that was a factor too. I've known some of my group 40 years and tbh when the wedding was mentioned, most of them were looking forward to a girly day with friends and no partners just catching up as well as helping us celebrate. As a sidenote, my nephews x 2 had new partners and they also attended so they could meet the family though I'd never met them before.

Maybe would have been ok in my twenties, just out of uni. Age 50 ish, no, can't think of a scenario where it would happen. Maybe a work colleague? It wouldn't be someone close so would probably decline.

Yes because the wedding is not about me

I attended a COVID wedding of old schoolfriends solo.

It was really fun, most others had come solo too, except one couple - all old guy friends. The bride and groom asked all the couples up to the floor to join the slow dance. I said to the guys, "so who's coming up with me then?" - and the one guy who was there with his wife jumped up to dance!

She danced with one of the other guys there without their partners. She was looking fucking daggers at me, and I don't blame her.

It depends whose wedding it is. If it was a work colleague then I’d go without. There’s been times when a none mutual acquaintance has got married and OH has been invited in the night and he’s gone to that without me. Mutual friends and family then I wouldn’t go without.

DH has been invited to one of his friends weddings later this year without me. I know said friend, but not the person he's marrying. DH has known him for years (20+) and they have been really close up until the groom and bride started dating 3 years ago and basically turned into a recluse. DH has only been invited to the evening do which I can tell he's a bit hurt by, especially as he was asked to plan the stag do
Both groom and bride came to our wedding. Him as a full day guest and her as an evening one (we'd never met before) and she snubbed me.

Waiting for this topic with comments from MN to appear on Buzzfeed or Lad Bible considering it’s asked every other day at the moment.

Even your replies sound like a journalist probing for more information OP

Yes. Have on a few occasions. Never bothered me or him.

If it's a work colleague/distant relative/acquaintance that my spouse hadn't met/didn't know well, then I think a solo invitation is acceptable. If it's your best friend, not inviting your spouse then WTF? (Unless they are sworn enemies or something).

I did last year. Wedding was in a beautiful castle in Italy. I had a wonderful time.

Only if there were other people besides the bride and groom I knew well enough to attach myself to.

Yeah, 100% would attend (as long as there were other people I knew there - if it were a huge wedding and I didn't know anyone I might think of a polite excuse). DH and I have both been to weddings without one another and we had a very small wedding where a couple of spouses of guests weren't invited because we didn't know them really, it was fine.

Yes, if I wanted to go anyway. It wouldn't make me more or less likely.

I guess if it was his best mate or a member of his family and they excluded him due to animosity then out of solidarity I'd not. But I can't imagine that happening. Well, I can on here!

Weddings are highly personal and whatever the bride and groom are having or wanting then you either go along with it or decline. I wouldn't get into a tizz about it as it's not my day.

YABU

It was acceptable aged 23 for a uni friend to not invite my then very new boyfriend of 10 months to her wedding, no expectation of an invite, went with a friend.

Fast forward almost 16 years together and almost 11 happily married and being almost 40, nope absolutely not. I would feel like I’d reverted to being a single teenager and find it bizarre! 😂 Neither myself or my DH would attend without the other. I disagree with how dismissive people seem to be of their spouses nowadays, my DH is top of my pecking order and me his, not other people.

At our wedding we invited spouses, long term partners and even children! There’s no way after being that generous and accommodating to everybody we know I’d accept poorer treatment from them.

As a side issue, the cost of weddings is certainly appalling, but I think we could all push back more against that and be less concerned with the insta perfect wedding than disregarding long held conventions regarding guest lists just to save money.

Ultimately it would depend - a work colleague’s evening do, I wouldn’t expect him to be invited. A friend or family member I would be offended. DH and I are married (obviously) and been together for a decade. He is extremely involved in my family it would be very rude not to invite him imo and I would take it personally. When we got married we invited the partners of everyone in established relationships at the time the invitations were sent out