Hi I've changed my username just in case as this could be outing. Just as the title says really, literally no intimacy for five years (well 5.5 now). Been married 14 years and together 17. No children together but three grown up boys between us.
DH is semi retired, 10 years older than me and I'm a mature student studying towards a degree. I have raised this issue many times and DH will break down in tears and insist it's not me but him, that he feels fat and old etc etc. Despite me reassuring him it hasn't amounted to anything and now I am feeling pretty rejected (not to mention very lonely). I have woken up once or twice in the night to him pleasuring himself so I'm assuming everything is in working order, but clearly not for me.
What the heck do I do? I've never felt so undesired. I'm in good shape, look younger than my 50 years and make an effort with my appearance.
In a fit of anger, last time I brought the issue up I asked if he would consider an open marriage as I needed to feel closeness with someone. As you can imagine, this was met with complete disagreement. Any advice?