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5 year old in the ladies. Is it okay?

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LoveFridaynight · 13/05/2025 08:52

At what age would people feel uncomfortable to have a child of the opposite sex in the "wrong" toilet?
I was told off yesterday for taking my nearly 5 year old son in to the ladies. A woman in there said he should use the men's. No-one has ever said anything like this to me before. I could understand if he was a teenager or something but a young child?
Really? On his own? At 5? Not that he could anyway as he's autistic and not toilet trained so I needed to change his nappy.
I thought afterwards I should have used the disabled toilet but I try to avoid that incase someone who can only use the disabled toilet comes along. I think I will just do this in future though.
But regardless of disability I don't think children under the age of 9 should be in the toilet on their own.
What are your thoughts on the age a child should be using the "right" toilet?

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Andnowthisagain · 13/05/2025 08:59

She’s daft. Five is fine.

Your kid will soon get to an age where he will not want to go in the Ladies anyway. This happened with both my boys. Not sure what age they were 7 or 8 maybe.

ZaZathecat · 13/05/2025 08:58

She's an idiot

chipshopElvis · 13/05/2025 08:57

5 is fine!

verycloakanddaggers · 13/05/2025 08:57

It has been 'juniors' forever, so about 8.

Tbrh · 13/05/2025 08:57

Tell the woman to get fked. Of course you can take your 5 yo to the ladies!

TheGoogleMum · 13/05/2025 08:56

A 5 yr old in the ladies is fine in my opinion. I'm not sure what the cut off age should be though.

MoveYourSelfDearie · 13/05/2025 08:56

At 5 they need to go with an adult, if the kid's a boy and the adult is a mum, they go in the ladies.

I think mine was around 8 when we let her use the ladies by herself.

LoveWine123 · 13/05/2025 08:56

No way would I let my 5 year old son go in the men’s toilet on his own. Ignore the woman.

AmateurNoun · 13/05/2025 08:55

I think 8 years old is the standard

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