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AIBU to be irritated by long voice messages

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Nomad68 · 12/05/2025 22:39

I have a friend who leaves voice messages of 20-30 minutes on what’s app. Is it wrong that I find this irritating? It’s good to hear her news and she will ask about me and family. The messages are so long I have to listen and start my reply at same time. It’s like a monologue that I need to take notes on. Such an unnatural way of communicating.

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ChaToilLeam · 12/05/2025 23:37

I hate them completely and would have to tell her not to do it. Call me or text me but don't expect me
to listen to an extended monologue under any circumstances!

sundaybloodysunday12 · 12/05/2025 23:30

No way would I listen to that.

CocoChaneI · 12/05/2025 23:30

Fuck me, I wouldn't be listening to 20-30 mins. Two mins is pushing it.

Snugglemonkey · 12/05/2025 23:29

I seriously would not listen to that. If u saw a message that long I would reply asking if they had fallen asleep or something. Joking, but being clear I am not listening to that. I think 3 minutes is excessive.

Bitchesbelike · 12/05/2025 23:08

I hate voice messages. I don’t want to hear a monologue: just text me

TwistedWonder · 12/05/2025 23:08

Not unreasonable at all. I hate voice notes.

I have a friend who leaves long VN 3/4/5 one after another sometimes going on for 30/40 minutes.

I’ve told her so many times I can’t play them at work but it falls in deaf ears

stressedandamess · 12/05/2025 23:06

Ooops I pressed the wrong one. Sorry YANBU. 30 minutes is way too long for a vnote imo.
the longest I’ve left is about 6 minutes but that was covering a range of topics between me and my friend who also loves a 6 minute tops voicenote.
I have one friend who left a 15 minute one and it took me days to get through it because of my kids interrupting all the time lol

BlueMum16 · 12/05/2025 22:43

Just message and offer a call rather than voice notes.
YANBU

Trallers · 12/05/2025 22:42

YANBU! A relative leaves me 5 min ones and that's annoying enough! It is useful as a quick way to convey something that would take much longer to write as a message, but it still needs to be kept to the point like a message would imo.

MrsBeesBakedBeans · 12/05/2025 22:41

And I thought the three minute voice notes I received were long!

YNBA.

Apollo365 · 12/05/2025 22:41

Yikes! That’s too long - tell her 5 mins max and listen on sped up!