9 yr old told off for calling non-binary teacher Sir

Man in a skirt is a sir. It’s not a 9 year old’s fault or responsibility. World’s gone fucking mad

They need to be careful as they are making themselves unemployable with their narcissistic demands.

Adults should not be disciplining children for slipping up on complying with their identity demands that go against everyone's natural instincts.

We don't have any cross-dressers (this is what these adults used to be called and they all knew what they were regarding their biological sex/gender) or confused teachers at my child's school. Even if we did, it's not fair or ok to expect a child to coddle an adult's feelings.
If the adult is a teacher, he should have control of his feelings, words and actions, and not need validation from minors regarding their identity situation.

I did a bit of supply at a former place of employment - a secondary school.

One of the absent teachers was a 'Mx'. There was a laminated nameplate for the classroom with the title, name and a cartoon pic of the said teacher - clearly a bloke with a beard.

The kids dutifully referred to him as 'Mx', but kept automatically calling him 'he'. Apparently, he'd gone off work with stress because of the constant 'misgendering'.

What does the SC ruling got to do with this? Teacher wants to be called Mx. It is no different to a Mrs wanted to be addressed by her title as opposed to Miss. Or Dr being addressed as their title as opposed to Mr. The SC ruling talks about biology, it does not support day-to-day nastiness and allows people to be whoever they want to be in peace.

The teacher is a man, so should be called Sir.

This narcissistic delusion should not be indulged.

Good for you OP but ‘that shite’ shouldn’t include a child using a perfectly correct word for the man he sees in front of him. ‘Non binary’ is an identity statement of a very contested ideology and teachers should not be forcing children to participate in that.

My child uses male pronouns for everyone! It’s a learning process.

This is happening though. There’s a Mx in a local high school who gets mad if referred to as a miss (she is female and presents as such). Hopefully this BS will have died off by the time my child gets there.

Well surely the teacher can see that the sky hasn't fallen just because a kid called him sir🤷 but no, we should make kids lie and ignore reality because of an idiots feelz🙄🙄🙄

That is disgusting behaviour from the teacher and the school.

Children should not be gaslit by teachers in this harmful way. People are either male or female and the words we use like Sir refer to their sex.

I’d advise your friend to make a complaint to the school OP.

"put up with" - what do you mean?

I think you'd have to go a long way to find a teacher who hasn't been called Mum, Dad or Mr/Miss something else but a distracted/tired child. It's never resulted in more than a raised eyebrow or a mild giggle. Where children's struggle to remember that Miss Brown is now Mrs Smith post marriage or something, you may hear them being gently reminded.

That's it though.

None of those teachers would describe that as something they're struggling to "put up with" would they?

So by referring to this scenario in those terms you are putting the responsibility for validating this teacher's fragile identity on a 9 year old. And that it not ok.

Am v glad my 9 year old is in a school staffed by adults who relate to the kids in a developmentally appropriate, child centred way, with reasonable and age related expectations.

When you say that this teacher might have to ‘put up with this daily’ what exactly do you mean?

’Put up with’ his students being polite and calling their male teacher Sir?

‘Put up with’ his student being able to accurately discern that the person in front of them is a man and using the correct words for his sex?

It is quite stunning that grown adults think it is ok to gaslight and abuse children in this way. Everyone in the world is either male or female (yes even the people with birth anomalies) and we use words that refer to people’s sex as many people don’t subscribe to the notion of ‘gender’ - it being based on stereotypes and undefined as a concept.

I'd encourage your child to see a minor telling off as just that. The sky hasn't fallen. He should presumably say 'Mx Brown' rather than Sir or Madam. Children usually adapt to this sort of stuff pretty easily so I'd think it was at least possible that he was taking the mick, which whatever the circumstances he shouldn't do.

Was this little boy an annoying teenager?

It's her friend's son. I don't see why the OP is concerning herself about it at all. She'll have only heard it third hand anyway.

If it was my child I would say ‘Don’t worry. I’m not cross with you at all. And I’m annoyed they told you off. The situation with Mx Smith is very confusing. I’m confused too. Don’t give it any more thought.’

When I was teaching, I was called Miss, Mam, some times Sir and one memorable occasion, Gran. Teachers are used to been accidentally given the wrong title.

I got called 'nan' a few times while teaching, while I was in my early 20s. A sane adult would just move past an error, even if it's not a flattering one!

If this really happened then the teacher needs to grow the fuck up. I am generally supportive of schools but not when it comes to this sort of bollocks. ‘Mx’ indeed. How do you even make pronounce that? 😂