Next door neighbour asking daily for my parking space

When she calls - press the red button. When she texts - ignore it. If she knocks the door, pick up your phone pretend to be on a call. She’ll say ‘Can you move your car? Whisper ‘On the phone to hospital, sorry, bye’. Shut the door. Keep ignoring her. If she corners you say ‘Oh Sally, I wanted to help that first day as I knew Emily was unwell, but you have to stop asking me to move the car, it’s daily. I’m not doing that.’

You did a kind deed, and now she's using you and your car as a place marking service for her car! What a loon.

I don't think it matters if you write a note, send a text, or tell her to her face. Just tell the woman somehow, soon.

People always want others to go-the-courageous-route and tell them to their face in these awful situations - but if you found that sort of thing easy, you would have probably told her to shove her parking 'problem' a few demands ago.

Is there a disabled ( as it marked with the blue badge logo ) outside your house ?
Or just the spot you park your car on ?
I'm a blue badge holder and as long as a permit is displayed , anyone with a blue badge can park there .
Also no-one actually owns the space outside your house including you , but I 100% agree with you she is a cf expecting you to move your car . Stop being so accommodating and just say not convenient .

I think the OP is just parking on the road outside her own house, and doesn't have any legal entitlement to it - but neither does the neighbour!

I think I'd just say next time she knocks that you were happy to help when you thought it was a one-off emergency but you prefer to park as close to your own house as possible, just like she does - so she should speak to the council about a disabled bay.

This is going to come down to how comfortable you are with being direct and managing conflict.

The best way is to tell her directly that while you were happy to accommodate her for what you believed was an emergency, it causes you considerable inconvenience and therefore can’t continue for what is not an emergency situation but an ongoing matter of convenience for her. While you appreciate the difficulties she has with a disabled child, the solution for making her life easier should not involve making yours harder. The better solution would be a designated disabled parking bay outside her house and you wish her the best in contacting the council to arrange that.

Far better to do that in person as it shows a firmness that discourages protest, although you have to be prepared not to get drawn into discussion if she tries to argue the case. If she does you have to say phrases like “and I really sympathise but you need to find your own solution to this instead of me having to move my car all the time. That’s unreasonable and won’t help you in the long run. A parking bay would be much better for you and doesn’t inconvenience me either.”

If you can’t handle a direct conversation, a note is better than nothing/hiding every time she comes
round, but care needs to be taken about what you say - less is more - and notes can easily escalate bad feeling among neighbours as it just feels very passive aggressive.

I would make it clear that the only conversation about this you are prepared to have is to check any application for a disabled parking space before it is sent.

Time to toughen up op!! If the space is definitely yours only, you need to say no and for her to stop asking, tell her your child is disabled too and you’ve recently had to carry him from the car, and that u need that space it’s legally yours. Tell her she must contact the council. Be firm and it’s a no every time

Don’t write a note. That shows weakness. Tell her to her face.

Diane, I moved my car because it was an emergency when your daughter was ill.

Now you are asking me all the time and it’s simply not on! I need to park as near to my home as possible, do not ask me again to move my car.

Definitely put a polite note through her door and state please stop knocking my door to move my car I won’t be moving it again for you

Yabu to post a note but you should definitely tell her to stop asking.

She's a bully and you are too soft op. You should respond with a flat "no" every time.
Do not apologize or try to justify yourself, doing so opens the door for her to push you into doing what works for her.

This.

She’s a CF, knocking at 11 would make me furious!

you didn't miss it, the other poster made it up!
OP says 'if she sees my car nearer the houses' which implies OP's car isn't always in the same place (i.e. not in a designated parking place right outside) - she just sometimes (including the 1st time CF asked) manages to get one closer than the neighbour.

OP you're fine to just tell her not to ask anymore but it would be better to do it face to face if possible - a note can come off unnecessarily passive aggressive. Just say as others have suggested 'Please stop asking, I did it once as a favour, but it's not practical for me to move my car so you can be closer. I also have a disabled child so I appreciate how hard it can be, but I would never ask you to move your car. If you need a designated space apply to the council.'

Get a ring doorbell or.similar so you can see if it is her at the door and.don't answer

Do you have an actual, dedicated space that's yours? Or is it just a public road?

If it's yours - tell her to piss off and get her own
If it's a public road, it's first come, first served, so still tell her to piss off.

What a cheek. Tell her to ask someone else and start walking with a limp whenever you see her. 'My sciatica is really playing up I can hardly walk for the pain'.

I wouldn’t put a note through the door. I’d say ‘No, and please don’t ask again.’

When she jumps out at you just say NO and go inside etc.

She needs to apply to the council and get a parking space painted on the road. She cannot expect you to be the solution here. She sounds very unusual if she thinks this is an ok thing to expect.

I think you’ll have to nip this in the bud. Next time she asks, say you’re in a rush/ in the middle of dealing with kids etc. if she doesn’t get the message after a few snubs, you could try explaining to her as you have here: that the expectation she could knock and expect you to move car at any moment is giving you anxiety. Even if that pisses her off, hopefully it’ll stop her demands. I really feel for you as you’re in a horrible position because of someone else’s entitlement.

Does she? I’ve reread the post and don’t see her mention it

OP doesn’t have a dedicated disabled spot. The issue is if she’s parked closer to the NDN home she is constantly being asked to move - the cheek of it!

Oh God, not the Mumsnet note please! 🤦‍♀️

She already sees you as a bit of a wet lettuce, which is why she happily puts all these demands on you.

The next time she knocks, tell her she's really inconveniencing you and you won't be moving your car again.

Be firm but polite and then she'll have to find some other mug.

Whoops, I managed to forget that between reading her post and typing my reply 🤣.

This. @Chocolatecoffeecream if you keep engaging then it keeps giving her hope and you headaches! Just go brutal NC. If she asks you why you’re not replying just say you’ve got nothing to add to your previous advice that she formally apply to the council for a dedicated space in front of her house. Don’t elaborate further re that you also have a DC as you’ve already told her that and she doesn’t care. Keep it simple. Good luck!

She can get a parking space designated if she applies to the LA, as the mother of a wheelchair user this isn't your responsibility.