Next door neighbour asking daily for my parking space

You are nicer than most. I would just tell her to move to a property with a private drive or reserved space if it's such a big deal.

She's being rude and demanding to you, unreasonable, and not taking the first steps to ask for a place she could be entitled to. She can bugger off.

No, and please stop asking

maybe this is all you need!!

OP, you need to start refusing her or it will never stop. I say that as a blue badge holder myself.

As PP have said, she needs to request a disabled space outside her house, but she does need to accept that any blue badge holder can park in it at any time.

this, short ,clear & simple

Give people an inch, they take a mile.

A simple ' no, please don't ask again, it's not up for discussion' is all you need. Then just don't engage. Don't answer door, messages, calls etc. Ignore her if she asks again, fade her out. It's not your problem or responsibility. She's a CF.

You did the right thing the first time. You had no idea that it would lead to her trying to take advantage and harass you over this.

Coming to your house at 11 at night is completely unacceptable. Many people are in bed by then.

It is also unfair of her to get irritable over you not handing over something that is yours but that she wants.

I wouldn't send a note though. I'd be very firm and clear and tell her that you were happy to help once in a while or in the case of an emergency, but she has taken advantage of your kindness and therefore you will not be moving your car for her going forward.

I'd stop answering if she keeps bugging you and if she tries to stop by at 11 at night again, I'd tell her off.

Text her. "Going forward, im not going to be moving my car. Please stop asking me. Here's a link to apply for a disabled space."

If she continues don't answer. If she knocks say "as I said, I'm not going to be moving my car for you".

She's a cf.

She is just going to have to learn to deal with this. The disabled spot isn’t the answer; anyone with a blue badge can use them. If it’s full of school parents parking, a whole bunch will have blue badges and it will become of their regular parking spots so it’ll only really work for her if she isn’t needing to park it during the school run time. And even then, she’d have to hope no neighbours nearby have a blue badge as parking sounds a nightmare so they’d happily use it.

It means you have to have a word and tell her to stop, because this problem wont go away with a disabled space or not.

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When I say no sorry I need the space she is getting really irritated.

I've just re-read the OP and I didn't fully notice this part before. This speaks volumes and proves that she doesn't see it as you doing her a big favour; she sees it as her entitlement if she is getting irritated at you for not rolling over and giving in to what she demands. How very dare she!

Next time she asks say you will not in any circumstances be giving up your space and she needs to stop asking you. If you’re feeling generous you can say you’d be happy to write a supporting letter to the council when she requests a space. If she continues to ask then give it a week, make a record of her contact (but don’t answer the phone/door etc) and write a letter at the end of the week outlining when you told her to leave you alone: what she has done a since and on what dates, and say that in your view it’s harassment and any continuation of this behaviour will be reported as such.

why wouldn't she?

Some men actually try to be nice and non-confrontational, and more likely to give in to unreasonable requests from insane woman than their wives.

she's bat shit!

When I say no sorry I need the space she is getting really irritated.
well done for saying "no", stick with it. She can be as irritated as she likes.

As we say on here
If you were a man would she be so persistent in asking?

Quite. It's because OP was considerate enough to move in an emergency so her NDN now thinks she's a soft touch and/or can be manipulated into agreeing to her NDN's demands.

road parking is first come first served. If that doesn’t work for her then she either needs to apply for a disability bay (as advised by many on this thread), the whole street applies for permit parking - or she puts up with it. Or if none of that is feasible for her then perhaps she needs to look to move. Her parking isn’t your responsibility OP (although understand why you moved in the emergency situation!).

It isn't a disabled space. It's just on-road parking outside people's houses and OP has been lucky enough to often get the space outside her own house whereas her NDN hasn't and thinks OP should keep moving her car for her needs, putting OP in the position of having to remind her NDN that the on-road parking is "first come, first served".

The OP has implied that she does NOT have an official disabled spot outside her house. Just parking on the public road like everyone else. Not said in so many words, but from what she HAS said, it appears to be public road parking only.

I wouldn't bother with the note, just tell her straight.

"Sorry, you might have got the wrong idea when I did you a favour a few weeks ago. I was just trying to be neighbourly. I'm entitled to use that space and unfortunately, as there's only one disabled space, it's first come first serve. I didn't mind being flexible as a one off emergency but I'm not willing to do it regularly."

Why is she asking you rather than the other neighbours? Say a firm no. The message above is a good one. Or just block her number. She will soon get the message.

@Chocolatecoffeecream YANBU OP and I don't see any problem with you writing a note either as it will give you time to craft it assertively and politely. In fact, I would have written such a note after she knocked on my door at 11pm - that is so ill-mannered! You could reiterate your suggestion that she ask the LA for a dedicated disabled parking space in it.

I agree with what everyone has said. I would also add that you should stop making excuses...as you have experienced, she'll just wiggle her way around them. Just be honest with her and say that your family needs for a parking space close to your house, too, and that you won't be moving your car to accommodate her. First come, first served, unfortunately.

Knocking on someones door at §11pm at night is totally unacceptable unless its a true emergency. What was she thinking?

This gives you and in to write a note

Dear PITA

I appreciate life can be difficult with a child who has disabilities, I have my own struggles.
After the other night calling on the house at 11pm I am going to have to put a stop to this car shuffling. If it was a one off in an emergency I would do it but you are constantly requesting I move my car. I will not be moving my car again. I have suggested you call the council and get a disability box put in for you to use.
Hopefully you can get something sorted to make your life easier.

It's difficult if you don't like confrontation but you need to tell her "no, sorry, I can't keep moving the car". If she persists then it's "sorry, I don't want to keep discussing this, I won't keep moving the car".

Yanbu to tell her to stop asking but I wouldn't do it with a note.

Practice saying it out loud : the first time you asked I thought it was an emergency, but now you are asking every day it has become harassment. Please do not ask me again. All car parking spaces on the road are first-come-first-served, and I will not move for you again