Next door neighbour asking daily for my parking space

Put your big girl pants on and tell her you won't be moving your car for her again. It's up to her to speak to the council about a disabled space if she wants one.

Haha, she’s a chancer!

Should show this thread to the people on MN who act like every parent of any child with any degree of disability is a saint who only does their best. Chancers in every walk of life, and this woman is indeed, a chancer.

Shut her down or you’ll never get rid.

No is a complete sentence.

I’d not have been best pleased to have Simeon knocking at my door at 11pm to move my car. I think I might have just told her to fuck right off

Knocking at 11pm?
I would be very firm in my NO.

Be straight with her. It's your parking space, you chose a house with a convenient space because you wanted to make things easier for yourself. You should not have to give up YOUR space. It's up to her to sort things out for herself.

She needs to place with allocated disabled parking or a private drive wau

It's clear from you post that this is making you very anxious.. especially after the 11 pm calls, and the thought that she could pop up at any moment when you set foot outside.
It's also daunting to think of having to say No to such a persistent person, because I'm sure she's the type that simply doesn't take no for an answer, however firmly you word your opening sentence.
As a pp suggested, write a script. Pare it down, shave off any "because" or other excuses..or polite apologies. and make the instruction as clear as possible. Being clear and simple as possible is not rude, its effective communication.

Pick a time that suits and say your piece... I promise you that it will probably be MUCH easier than you anticipate and you will feel like a mill stone has been lifted from your neck. I had to do similar. They expected me to check my emails at 11.30 pm at night and always started them with a "Quite by chance I need you to do xyz tomorrow morning, See you at 8 am." it was the same thing. I agreed to helping in emergency and then every time from then on they pretended it was an emergency for guilt tripping purposes- which is why they would email at the last minute, quite by chance.

You clearly want to be a helpful person, but your NDN is taking advantage to the point that you feel harassed and can't park near your own front door without her popping out. This is too much. Saying no to her doesn't make you a bad person.
What's the worst that can happen?

1. She takes offence and won't talk to you? - Problem solved or 2) She tells other neighbours that you are unkind and unreasonable not to give up your parking space whenever she needs it - Then she will start asking them instead and they will completely understand why you said no. (and anyway SO WHAT? if she says anything)

If It helps.. I'd look up the Council parking space department's contact details.. Print it out and have it handy to recommend again that she needs to apply to solve her problem. This could also put her off finding solutions to any excuses you may have given her and it is actually the most helpful thing to do.
You have nothing to lose- and peace of mind to gain. Good luck!!

Just say no, politely but firmly, followed by "and please don't ask again". Don't engage, explain or apologise any more. If you feel you must do something, print out the details from the council explaining how to apply for a space, and give her that.

You can request a disabled space outside your house. If the disability is severe enough it will be numbered to the corresponding badge. If not it can be used by any blue badge holder. I have just done this prior to the holiday season when we get cars parked for two weeks!

This. Hard as it will be, you need to be firm.
And if she knocks at 11pm again (or any time after about 8.30 in fact) I'd give her VERY short shrift.

Dear neighbour,
Please stop asking to use my car park. I understand how difficult life is with a disabled child. You are going to have to go through the right channels to organise a space of your own.
x

You did the right thing helping her at first - most people wouldn’t have responded the way she has by taking advantage. Now she has you just need to make it clear you won’t be helping because she’s been so unreasonable.

Just tell her your child also has a disability so no sorry you can’t move your car any more.

as to the disabled space you do know that it’s won’t be just hers, anyone with a blue badge can park in it

Why? You go online and fill out a form. Each local authority has an easily found link. Google doesn't hide them

Can you rehearse with yours Dh, a friend or the mirror, saying exactly what you say in your post?

The first time but it seemed an emergency and I was happy to help. But my child has disabilities too. Maybe you should apply to the Council for a designated Disabled Bay?

You could even be kind, and do a bit of research & tell your neighbour how she could go about this.

Friend of mine has a physical disability, a Blue Badge, & a Motability car. There is a Disabled Bay right outside her house, which I think she requested.

The spot is not "hers" - if there's another Blue Badge user, they are legally OK to use it, but mostly she gets an easy parking spot. Which is great, as getting up her front garden steps is enough of a challenge for her some days.

If she’s that entitled and cheeky frankly I wouldn’t want to be involved with her more than absolutely necessary.

I would first acknowledge her problem with spaces, say she needs to find other means of solving it, like the suggestion you have made about getting a disabled spot allocated for her residence. But as well, I would tell her quite clearly that you're not a public resource and that continuing to ask you to move your car for her benefit is starting to feel like harassment, especially at late hours like 11pm.

You didn’t give her your keys did you?! Hope not!

YANBU. I would block her number and refuse to open the door.

I have neighbours that insist they are entitled to block me in for the past 18 years
you have to clamp down quickly and never explain
mine get nothing now apart from “move your car”

Write a big note and laminate it and stick it to your front door that says NO - I WILL NOT MOVE MY CAR FOR YOU.

I wouldn’t get into your reasons for needing to keep the car close, or needing that space, as technically it is not your space, and neither of you have ownership or priority for it.

However, I would absolutely stop the requests for you to move your car, would definitely recommend focusing on that aspect only.

Plenty of really good suggestions for wording on here, but I would definitely do it in person initially, not when she’s knocking ask you to move your car; just next time you see her anyway. Easier said than done, but well worth it so that you can actually relax in your own home!

This is great: short, unambiguous, direct!

She is a CF who sees you as a pushover. Why doesn't she ever ask any other neighbours to move their cars, so she can have their spaces? Presumably because she knows that they will tell her to 'go away'.

This!

Like I’d be awake at 11pm!! That’s a real nerve. Definitely stand up for yourself and do not allow her to bully you into this.

Unless the child is coming home from hospital, do not oblige again.
Explain that as a one off you were happy to move but from now on you need to inform her that you will keep your car close for xxx reasons. Discuss with her some helpful options like a wheel chair, scooter specialised for her child, asking her DP to assist, writing to the council, etc