Next door neighbour asking daily for my parking space

Most of that is correct but some DPS are enforced. We have resident parking permits in our area. Since they bought this in the have also enforced DPS. If you don’t have a blue badge or a virtual blue badge you can get a ticket.

OP's disabled child is not relevant here. Even if she lived alone and was a keen marathon runner in perfect health, she would still have just as much right to that first-come-first-served space on the public road.

Why should OP have to justify using a free and unrestricted parking space on the road when apparently none of the other residents have had to - having either not been asked by CF in the first place once she saw OP as her regular go-to doormat, or otherwise having told CF to bugger off if she did ask them?

If CF qualifies for a disabled space, she needs to apply for this with the council. If it's granted, she will then only have to compete with others blue badge users for it, and will likely get to use it a great deal of the time; if she is turned down, I'm afraid it's tough bananas.

Id say to her your not moving anymore and give her the link to apply for a disabled parking bay (usually on council website)

The only way to guarantee yourself a parking spot is to have a driveway with a no parking box in front.
Does she have room to put in a drive? Otherwise it's the luck of the draw, even with a disabled space.

This is one of those no good deed goes unpunished situations.

The coming over at 11pm would have gotten her a raised voice what do you think you're doing bugging me for my parking spot so late go home and no. Block her # and if she asks you in person, look her dead in the eyes and tell her not today, Satan.

Time to get out the big guns, throw a few swears in and tell her not to knock at your door again for any reason. She can arrange a disabled bay.

She's thinks she's entitled. What a cheek! If her daughter is that disabled she should, as others have said, apply for a disabled parking space. Do not give in to her any more.

Ah, you’re talking about permit holder bays - PDB’s sorry. There are a few councils who offer them in cases of profound disability but the blue badge alone is not valid in them - the designated individual has to display a permit instead of/in addition to the blue badge. Councils who offer them will require applicants to demonstrate disability significantly above that required for a standard blue badge, and the spaces are strictly enforced - hefty fines and the possibility of your vehicle being towed.

Some councils do offer personalised disabled parking bays to individuals with mobility impairments who have a Blue Badge and meet specific criteria. These bays are designated for a particular vehicle and permit holder. I don’t know how legally enforceable they are, but they do exist. In our city, people do respect them and don’t park in them.

agree with everyone else. Next time you are asked say ‘I’m sorry that you are having problems parking. I also have a child with additional needs and know how difficult it can be. I really think you need to about to the council for a permit. It’s making things quite difficult for me and my children that you keep asking me to move my car and, I’m sorry it’s not what you want to hear, but I won’t be moving it going forwards because I need to put the needs of my own family first. ‘

then block her number and IGNORE!

Again not correct. There is no on street blue badge parking exclusively for the use of any individual and neither are they numbered to corresponding badges. On street disabled parking bays are provided by the council on request - some councils charge a fee. The space is then marked out in white with the disability symbol also in white. These bays are not legally enforceable, so not only can any disabled badge holder use them, but those without a disabled badge can also use them without attracting a fine or any other action - it’s left to other users and residents to police them.

The only legally enforceable disabled bays are those marked out in yellow and with cross hatching to denote a wider space. These appear in on street pay and display parking and in various car parks. They are exclusively for the use of blue badge holders and misuse can attract a fine of up to £100.

I meant to reply sooner, not sure if you have a reserved space for your house or one due to a disability space, but NDN’s needs do not trump those of you and your DC. If you don’t have a blue badge already, I would apply for one now (just completed my application. DD has ADHD/ASD with significant issues, so am told that once I’ve verified her ID with her passport, it will be allocated. We want it for uni.) I think it is technically easier to apply for a disabled parking bay outside your house once you have one - though not a done deal.

Your NDN can do what the rest of us parents of SEN and otherwise disabled children - sort her life out and get the admin in hand. If she rolls her eyes at you, roll them back.

Just be direct.

”I know it is tricky, but I also have a disabled child I need to carry in quite often. Parking on the road is first come first serve, and I am afraid I will not be moving my car for you again”

If she has a DP she can stop outside her house with her flashers on, her DP can collect child from car and then she can walk back after parking.

Don’t make excuses, tell her her request is unreasonable and you won’t be doing it.

I'd have been really cross if she'd knocked my door at 11pm for a non-emergency. I'm either in bed or ready for bed at that time of night so I wouldn't have been out moving my car. She's a cheeky madam!

If she knocks, I'd do a really exasperated/grumpy 'What, again!? I don't know where I'm supposed to go, there's traffic/cars everywhere!'

Or 'Sorry, can't, I'm in the middle of something right now' Then, ignore the door in future.

For phonecalls, press the ignore button then switch the phone off for a while.

To a text, I'd reply 'What again? I'm not driving around the block again, I had enough trouble finding a space last time!'

One way or another, she'd get the message. I appreciate its a really awkward situation for you. You sound like you're trying to be really nice and not offend her, and she's quite selfish and not too bothered about putting you to an inconvenience.

In the UK the equivalent of the parking permit you mention is a disabled parking permit, commonly referred to as the blue badge. To obtain one you apply to your local authority along with copies of any supporting medical evidence you may have. They may want to see you in person if it’s not clear from the application whether or not you meet the criteria. Some elements of disability benefits like personal independence payment may automatically qualify you for a blue badge. The badge then confers the right to park in a blue badge space and also free parking in on street pay and display car parks, or where certain parking restrictions are in place.

Block her so she can’t keep calling you first of all, and then if she shows up at your door just say, ‘No, my child is disabled and I need that space’. That’s all you need to say.

Thank you @Rosscameasdoody

What’s the expression? “no good deed goes unpunished” 😂

I would just ignore her. But changing your car would throw her off the scent ;)

Well maybe don’t post incorrect information then 🤣

On street blue badge parking spaces are not exclusively for the use of any one person. They can be used by any blue badge holder regardless of whether or not they are a resident. So, providing OP has a valid blue badge for her child she’s just as entitled to park there as her neighbour. First come first served.

YANBU to want the space.

YABU to put a note through the door instead of speaking to her

No, I can’t. I need that spot. On repeat

Btw, not from UK, but moving there. I also have a disability and require a parking permit.

Doesn’t matter whether parking is residents only. It’s a public highway and a blue badge space marked out by the local authority can be used by anyone with a blue badge, regardless of whether they are resident or not.