Next door neighbour asking daily for my parking space

i voted YANBU but a conversation (or even a text) is probably a better option in the longer run. Don't want the awkwardness to get worse through (forgive me if this is just my opinion), but a note through the door comes across quit passive aggressive.. just explain about requirements etc.. and it's public space! Neighbour definitely BVU

She will start using 'it's an emergency' as an excuse.

She will start saying it's an 'emergency' each time.

You seem like a nice neighbour and she is taking advantage. Tell her you and your child has a disability (it's got nothing to do with her what the disability is) and you need that space. She could try and council to paint a disabled bay outside her house (my neighbour had just got one).

"No, I'm not moving my car and stop asking me". Don't get into it, just a no.

You're too nice @Keyfob23 . This type of cheeky fucker will ride every reason in the letter off into the sunset. The "no" needs to be much harder in my opinion; she doesn't need nor deserve the "why", just clarity that the car isn't moving.

Could you approach her and say something like this? Or if you feel it’s confrontational pop a note through her door?

NDN,
I wanted to address the parking situation with you. I understand how difficult things must be with your daughter’s needs, and I was more than happy to help out by moving my car from my space in your emergency. However, I’m finding it increasingly difficult to keep being asked to move my car, at short notice or late at night etc

My own child also has additional needs, like you, I too need the closest space available.
I really think it would help if you reached out to the council about applying for a designated disabled space. It could give you the consistency and access you need long-term.

I hope you can understand, it’s not that about being unkind, it’s that moving my car regularly from my own space isn’t sustainable or fair, especially when I also rely on that space.
I’d appreciate your understanding and hope we can both work around each other as best we can.

A note is fine. "CFNDN, I was happy to help you with parking as a one-off emergency some weeks back. You've since been turning up almost daily so it has become intolerable. I will not move the car for you again and please do not ring my doorbell unless it's an emergency at the level where 999 are genuinely needed. Cheers, Chocs."

If it’s public parking, what’s the issue? Just say no.

If she’s a good friend she’ll understand. If she gets nasty, she’s not a good friend x

I wouldn’t do a note because then she might start on about ‘why couldn’t you say it my face?’. No one ever says ‘why didn’t you write me a note instead of having this conversation. I would just tell her ‘because I need it’. You don’t need to elaborate

This would really annoy me, she’s taken advantage of your kindness. Just say no.

I wouldnt bother with a note. Id say no sorry and keep saying no. And ignore if necessary.

People who happen to have a disability are no more or less liable to be CFs than people who don't.

Some people with BB spaces outside their homes that they are entitled to use will deliberately park in a nearby standard space to save it for a family member, before moving into the disabled space when the family member gets home - reckoning that anybody could take that space, but the competition for the disabled space is much, much less.

It's kind of a similar principle to eating somebody else's favourite biscuits or chocolates that you don't mind first when sharing a box, knowing that they don't like your favourites.

I'm a blue badge holder and as long as a permit is displayed , anyone with a blue badge can park there .

This is the same in our area.
People can apply for a bay with disabled written in outside their house on a public highway but they don't always realise that any blue badge holder can park there, so technically the bay doesn't belong to household.

She's a CF. Just say no its inconvenient

”disabled” can mean many things so it’s your discretion how friendly you want to be but it’s public parking and you either need to arrange designated parking or ask her to stop.

I would send her a proper letter because that’s legally binding. I would be very upset if someone knocked at 11 pm and consider it harassment but I don’t know your history with her.

in our area anyone with a blue badge can use them, but anyone with a blue badge can park in ordinary residents bays so it pretty annoying when they ignore spaces and use ours. I don’t need to park right outside my house but OH really does. I’ve managed to get spaces for children but it’s very hard. The council are prone to telling parents that ‘it’s not allowed’ which is nonsense

Yep. It probably won’t. They’ll end up arguing about who is more entitled/disabled and gets to use it !!

I did correct myself upthread. What you’re describing isn’t a standard blue badge space - they’re what’s known as PDB’s and the blue badge is not valid in them. Not all councils offer them but a few do in cases of profound disability. The designated individual has to display a valid permit instead of or in addition to the blue badge. Councils who offer them have strict criteria significantly above that required for a standard blue badge, and the spaces are strictly enforced - hefty fines and the possibility of your vehicle being towed.

Even if she applies and gets a disabled space, they're still first come first served so anyone with a blue badge can use them. So getting one may not solve the issue.

The white marked spaces are normally not enforceable if they’re council provided at the request of residents. PDB’s however, are. They’re for specific individuals with profound disability and there are hefty fines for parking in them even with a blue badge, because they’re not standard spaces and require an additional permit.

Central London councils have their own Blue Badge roles, my mum has v different parking rights in Richmond where she lives compared to further in London

Get one of those ''DO NOT DSITURB '' signs and put it on your door as and when required.

Well the rules must have changed then. I had my car lifted from a numbered blue badge space very near to the ideal home show. Today I was asked if I needed exclusive use of my bay by my council (South Central).