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To feel these parent are not understanding ( WhatsApp and Sats )

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Bringmecookies25 · 12/05/2025 01:07

I will try not to drip feed.

DC clas have been preparing for the Sats with mocks/ practice and this has included doing it exactly the way it will happen on the day which has lead to other students noticing “ access arrangements “
today a parent queried in the class WhatsApp group about this
for example “ Henry has said that some people are not completing the tests independently and staff are writing/ reading for them and that a few of them do not finish at the same time and can leave the classroom “

it was politely explained by one parent and seemed to be accepted by parent of Henry - this thought triggered another mum who to be fair is often triggered to pipe up and go on a rant about how it’s always the children who get it easier and it will not be a fair judgement for secondary school sets etc
( area means most children will be going up to the same secondary school ) they then started rambling about GCSEs like what happens at GCSE they get an easier ride in them to get in to colleges ?
this then caused a trickle ( not most ) but a few of the other parents to join in agreement.
My DC is one of them who will be receiving the access arrangements and probably more so than the others as they will have extra time / breaks / scribe and reader in maths etc.
from mocks my DC is likely to get
WT nearly WA in spag - last came out at 97
WA in math - last was 102
GD in reading comp - last was 117
will score low in teaching assessment of writing.
one of the complaints was which I did take to it to beinf towards my DC that sole on the children are not even behind and it just means they will be benefit and have less stress than her DC.

I just wanted to shout at them they have no understanding of the situation and that the point of access arrangements is not to give them a better chance than others but to give them an equal chance !

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Bringmecookies25 · 12/05/2025 04:49

Idioticwoman · 12/05/2025 04:43

Interesting

my daughter is doing SATS and I have no idea what your mock scores below mean

from mocks my DC is likely to get
WT nearly WA in spag - last came out at 97
WA in math - last was 102
GD in reading comp - last was 117
will score low in teaching assessment of writing.

what do the abbreviations stand for? I’m assuming you’re at a competitive school as our school haven’t told us the mock scores (DD knows but didn’t communicate well to me) or any of the abbreviations you mention. I’ve not looked into it myself as I’m not remotely bothered about SATs or any formal testing for 11 year olds.

if you’re in a pushy parent type school then I think you’ve got unlucky with the comments.

I mean the abbreviations were as I say it 🤣

their practice papers were shared in their school report
so 97 is working towards
102 which I would call working at standard
117 would be working in greater depth.

so quite a mix of below average and ahead for my Dc.

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Crinkleybottomburger · 12/05/2025 04:45

Post this link to the JCQ’s access arrangements policy, all schools must follow these rules for GCSE, A Levels etc. Suggest they read all 124 pages to better understand the need for access arrangements.

https://www.jcq.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/JCQ-AARA-24-25_FINAL_accessible.pdf

https://www.jcq.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/11/JCQ-AARA-24-25_FINAL_accessible.pdf

Idioticwoman · 12/05/2025 04:43

Interesting

my daughter is doing SATS and I have no idea what your mock scores below mean

from mocks my DC is likely to get
WT nearly WA in spag - last came out at 97
WA in math - last was 102
GD in reading comp - last was 117
will score low in teaching assessment of writing.

what do the abbreviations stand for? I’m assuming you’re at a competitive school as our school haven’t told us the mock scores (DD knows but didn’t communicate well to me) or any of the abbreviations you mention. I’ve not looked into it myself as I’m not remotely bothered about SATs or any formal testing for 11 year olds.

if you’re in a pushy parent type school then I think you’ve got unlucky with the comments.

Morningsleepin · 12/05/2025 04:35

If their children inherited their stupidity...

Happyinarcon · 12/05/2025 04:31

People are losing faith in schools and in how their child’s learning is managed in comparison to others. While it’s obvious that some children need additional support I can fully understand how it can look unfair and confusing, especially as some kids are left on waiting lists for ages and ignored

Zanatdy · 12/05/2025 04:27

I’d be furious and have to make a comment that would humiliate them in that group. So ignorant.

ROHnotok · 12/05/2025 04:26

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To feel these parent are not understanding ( WhatsApp and Sats )
Bringmecookies25 · 12/05/2025 04:17

PyongyangKipperbang · 12/05/2025 02:46

Urgh had this when DS was doing his GCSE's. Thank goodness Whatsapp etc wasnt a thing back then.

Some kids and then their parents, kicking off at the school because he could use a laptop for essay exams and a scribe for maths. Thats because his cerebal palsy means his handwriting is illegible, but he can touch type with one hand.

He has fucking brain damage! He didnt get a single C grade! But no, he had it "easier". He is 34 now but it still rankles.

This is the same reason as us !!
Like dc has a scribe - well because dc literally can not use their right arm 🙈🙈

although I do find it funny like what were they expecting as an alternative 🤣🤣

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PyongyangKipperbang · 12/05/2025 02:46

Urgh had this when DS was doing his GCSE's. Thank goodness Whatsapp etc wasnt a thing back then.

Some kids and then their parents, kicking off at the school because he could use a laptop for essay exams and a scribe for maths. Thats because his cerebal palsy means his handwriting is illegible, but he can touch type with one hand.

He has fucking brain damage! He didnt get a single C grade! But no, he had it "easier". He is 34 now but it still rankles.

cheerupbuttercup · 12/05/2025 02:35

Equal isn’t always the same. End of.

BByMama765 · 12/05/2025 02:33

Becoming a parent doesn't make someone smarter or more empathetic. Those are examples of self centered idiots. Ignore.

MrsFrumble · 12/05/2025 02:11

Secondary schools don’t use SATs scores for setting anyway.
You could respond to the moaning parents by pointing out that if they feel their child could benefit from accommodations, there’s nothing stopping them from raising it with the school and pursuing a diagnosis 🤷🏻‍♀️

Allswellthatendswelll · 12/05/2025 01:57

This is awful! Honestly at my school about a third of the kids or more have something in place. It's just about getting the best out of them. Tests are such an arbitrary way of assessing anyway as some kids are good at them.and others aren't.

If its year six you don't have long in that WhatsApp group anyway. I am of the firm belief class WhatsApp groups are for factual information only and not random debates. I'd just mute.

tellmesomethingtrue · 12/05/2025 01:26

I completely understand why some children need a scribe, prompt, reader and extra-time. Please feel completely validated that your child is being given an equal chance of being successful. I hear you.
Thos other parents are ignorant morons. If you were to reply then you should just write the last sentence in your original post.

blueredpurple · 12/05/2025 01:12

They are a bunch of ignorant cunts. Ignore. You can’t argue with stupid people.

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