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Is there something wrong with me? I hate musicals.

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Ittakeslonger · 11/05/2025 20:21

AIBU? I'm 62 and all my friends seem to have developed a passion for musicals. I have been to quite a few with friends to be sociable and to see if I could get to like them but, with each musical, my dislike of them just grows. I find them contrived, and the music average and the whole experience very boring. I sit there hoping it's over soon. I go to be sociable but it's not an event where you chat or do an activity together. We simply sit, glued to a chair. Some musicals are better than others but overall I'd always rather be anywhere else, even home. Is there anyone else out there who gets my dislike? Am I destined to be a social pariah? My friends seem puzzled and a bit offended by my attitude.

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Ittakeslonger · 11/05/2025 21:42

At least I have a diagnosis now lol. Maybe I can share it with my friends but I believe there is no cure. Not even a spoon full of sugar...( Actually saying that I liked the film version as a child but have no desire to see it at the theatre!!)

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JudgeJ · 11/05/2025 21:39

Squirrelblanket · 11/05/2025 20:23

Nope, I hate them too!

Me too, with the possible exception of the original West Side Story! I didn't want to return to Phantom after the interval and fell asleep in Hamilton on the TV. I also detest Star Wars and am considered weird, I've seen more of Star Wars in the queue at Disney. Not liking Only Fools and Horses gets me lots of abusive comments too.

Vive le difference!

Pomegranatecarnage · 11/05/2025 21:38

I hate them. The only one I’ve ever enjoyed was the Rocky Horror. I find them a huge cringe.

nottheplan · 11/05/2025 21:38

Oh I detest them too! Always have, we were made to watch the practice runs of the school musicals and the finished show too. So we watched the same thing about 5 times in the space of 3 months. God I hated it , others in my class would be delighted to get out of class..not me, I wished I could get back to my studies 🤣 We also were made to watch videos of real musicals too..I just found then extremely boring and annoying. I even hated sitting through Mama Mia

WildFlowerBees · 11/05/2025 21:36

Hate musicals, always the same type of melody and a similar type of warble voiced singer.

I tried to watch the Willy Wonker film that came out, I got as far as the first couple of minutes. Waste of a good film.

WildFlowerBees · 11/05/2025 21:36

Hate musicals, always the same type of melody and a similar type of warble voiced singer.

I tried to watch the Willy Wonker film that came out, I got as far as the first couple of minutes. Waste of a good film.

Wigtopia · 11/05/2025 21:35

CharlotteLightandDark · 11/05/2025 20:29

I hate them too, except the South Park movie!

And cannibal the musical, also written by trey parker and Matt stone!

Musclewoman · 11/05/2025 21:34

I have a visceral reaction to musicals...they make me cringe, you can't get in to the storyline without someone bursting in to song, I hate it! Just letting you know you're not alone in your hatred 😅

Ittakeslonger · 11/05/2025 21:33

A kindred spirit. Hurrah!

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SeriousTissues · 11/05/2025 21:32

I love musicals but they’re not for everybody. I love how much joy they bring to my daughter!

iwentjasonwaterfalls · 11/05/2025 21:32

StupidBoy · 11/05/2025 20:30

I actually judge people who are musical theatre nuts. Anyone who says the highlight of their week is listening to Elaine Paige on Sunday could not be any friend of mine.

Elaine Page on a Sunday is amateur hour. The people you really want to avoid are the ones who have the car radio permanently set to Magic At The Musicals like me 😁

YANBU OP, everyone has different tastes. I've loved musicals since I was 12, trained in it at university, do amateur musical theatre now as an adult - there are still some musicals I don't like (can't get into Phantom and I find Les Mis a bit 🥱 and I hate Heathers!), so no one IBU to like musicals or dislike musicals or have specific tastes when it comes to musicals.

For what it's worth, when I was first getting into musicals it seemed really niche, no one in my school was into them and I was very much an outsider listening to my showtunes on an ipod 🤣 so you are far from the only one who's not a fan.

Nottodaythankyouverymuch · 11/05/2025 21:30

The absolute worst moment for me is in the cheerier ones at the end when the audience are expected to clap in time to the encore or curtain call. Actually have a visceral reaction and want to crawl under my seat and hide. I feel so humiliated for them which is ridiculous as clearly they are loving every moment but something about that clapping and grinning. Ugh

AhBiscuits · 11/05/2025 21:29

I adore them. My husband hates them.
Little Shop of Horrors has always been my favourite.

HiddenInCubeOfCheese · 11/05/2025 21:29

Good point on opera!

I like the opera, love theatre, hate musicals. As a PP observed, it’s the context of the songs. In a musical, it’s just weird. An opera is at least song throughout. No jarring shift.

CrystalSingerFan · 11/05/2025 21:27

"How do you feel about opera? For me it’s the best of the lot."

What @Calliopespa said! ( Possibly adding in operetta...)

Figgygal · 11/05/2025 21:24

Which ones have you seen op?

tartyflette · 11/05/2025 21:23

Actually, I tell a lie, there is one that i thought was truly superb; the Rocky Horror show in the late 70s at the Royal Court's Theatre Upstairs with the original cast -- Tim Curry, Julie Covington, Richard O'Brian, Little Nell et al.
A shining beacon in a sea of dross.

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 11/05/2025 21:23

eww yanbu, I hate musicals too!

I read somewhere that the marketing people didn't market the latest mean girls film as a musical because people wouldn't watch it 😄

GloriousGoosebumps · 11/05/2025 21:22

I thought I didn't like musicals, it was straight theatre only for me but then I discovered Hamilton and Six the Musical so I'm now much more open to musicals. I did see the Lion King about 20 years ago but I think that while the music is fantastic, the staging is a huge part of it's success.

AppropriateAdult · 11/05/2025 21:21

Littledidsheknow · 11/05/2025 20:38

I find Les Mis hugely overrated

We were on holiday in London a couple of years ago, and booked last minute tickets to Les Mis. My autistic DD (then 18) sat stony-faced throughout. Then after all the clapping had finished, simply stated “That’s the best thing I’ve ever seen in my life” so I have a bit of a soft spot for it now!

Oh, I love this! I have been a huge fan of Les Mis since childhood, I've seen it live umpteen times and pretty much know it by heart - but still if I happen to come across a stage performance while flicking through the TV channels, I still get the "This is the best thing I've ever seen" feeling.

ohyesido · 11/05/2025 21:21

Mrs Doubtfire was fun, but the songs were very boring

ManchesterLu · 11/05/2025 21:21

Everyone likes different things - though I would recommend seeing one or two from different genres just to make sure you haven't just seen a bad one!

Dinnerplease · 11/05/2025 21:21

Me too OP. I only like 3- Cabaret (where the songs are actually done in the club, so it's not weird), West Side Story (for the score and because I used to watch it with my gran) and I do actually like Hamilton- something about it all being sung with almost no spoken dialogue means it exists in a parallel universe (also got to love a legislative process done in rap). I have a feeling I might like Six as well.

I also loathe pantomime and have since I was small. Apparently I didn't laugh once.

We went to see Wicked at the cinema and thought it was bloody awful. The songs are 'really not very good' (DD, 11).

Anything Andrew Lloyd Webber can get in the bin. The increasing tendency to turn everything into a musical is annoying. It's a good story! You don't need to add songs!

NeverDropYourMooncup · 11/05/2025 21:19

I feel that modern musicals seem to favour a particular timbre of voice that is like nails on a chalkboard for me.

I do like some of the Golden Era musicals - and I'm quite fond of opera - but just want to rip out my hearing aid and replace it with maximum attenuation ear filters for every start quiet - open up - swelling bridge - modulate and BELT IT OUT - go back to a whispery, full of vocal fry, end.

In short, if it's going to end up in a book of 23 musical songs for female solo performance, it's likely to irritate the hell out of me. And the equivalent for male singers is going to be bland as fuck and too high for the warmest, richest male voices, too.

tartyflette · 11/05/2025 21:16

Far too many seem to be far too contrived, in a "hey, let's do the show right now folks!" way.
The last one I went to was the Book of Mormon as I was told how wonderful it was. It may have been but the OTT cringeworthy behaviour of the audience, whooping and cheering and drowning out the actors, shouting out the lines and even joining in with the songs utterly ruined it for me.

It seems loads of fans go to see it multiple times.... Baffling.