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Would this upset you? Mother of Groom

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Weddingspeechsad · 11/05/2025 14:12

Would you be upset if your son got married and made a speech and thanked both families. Thanks Mum and Dad for everything and brides family for welcoming him into it.

Bride then stands up and does a speech. Thanks both families and grooms parents for welcoming her into their family and being kind. Then does a whole section on her Mum and how much she loves her, how there’s not usually any special moment for mother of the bride in the wedding so special mention for all of the help she’s given.

would you feel upset and singled out as mother of groom? For context I’ve really tried with her, invite them over for lunch and takeaway but always too busy. She is always pleasant enough but quite prickly. Myself and his dad both gave approx £1k each (divorced) towards wedding. Feeling quite hurt but not sure if AIBU.

OP posts:
Poonu · 11/05/2025 14:15

Surely that would be your DS job to thank you? You didn't raise your DIL.

UncharteredWaters · 11/05/2025 14:14

No you had a thanks from your son. She thanked her mum, not her place/responsibility to do a gushy thank you to you.

Her mum will always be more special to her.

InkyOctopuswithLegs · 11/05/2025 14:14

Wouldn't bother me atall. I wouldn't like the attention and a thankyou would be enough for me.