Is this an awful wedding guest dress?!

I imagine the wedding has been and gone!

I don't really like it, too nightdressy, but that is just my taste and if you feel good in it you should wear it. I am also not into this idea of wearing full length dresses during the day, apart from bride and bridesmaids. I like the idea of sending a picture of something wild, a bodycon mini with cutouts or something!

Yes, I agree that it is not a great trend. But the onus is on the guests just to decline invitations, as long as everyone goes along with these demands they will continue to be made. Brides can demand anything they want on their own wedding day - our option is to politely decline the invitation.

People are always claiming normal, standard things are new behaviours on this site - but I have to admit I never knew of anyone at all being asked to run their guest outfits past the bridal party pre internet.

You've been told not to wear it. You don't wear it.

They'll tell you that a white veil and a sparkly white dress isn't bridal on this site, they really really (really) hate women having their own way on their wedding day, it's a real theme on mumsnet.

The answer to your question, to be clear is YES it is a bit bridal/bridal party.

And NO it is not overtly so and you could have worn it and nobody would have thought much of it as it is not overtly trying to upstage the bride.

But you have been told not to wear it, so that's that.

Now your option is to decline the invitation or wear something else.

I know you want everyone to tell you she's Bridezilla - and maybe she is - but so what? It's not your wedding, no need to make a drama out of a nothingburger.

If you don't want to be the centre of attention, as you claim, don't make a fuss about a stupid dress.

What happened to guests just turning up at a wedding and having a nice time? In whatever outfit they wanted to.

I find it odd as a guest you have to send a pic of what you’re wearing, why has the bride not just said to people not to wear a certain colour.

How patronising can you get?! I am so glad I don’t have to have anything more to do with you. You don’t sound very nice. And before you jump back and say it, I’m not nice either, at least on this post!

Are people really going to read that much into what any of the guests are wearing? Personally I doubt it...

The bridesmaids are wearing pink and green.

The more I hear about trying to control what guests wear to weddings (colours/styles/themes), the more I'm convinced that these brides are vulgar and have no manners at all.

I don’t think it looks bridal, but it could be mistaken for a bridesmaid’s dress and if the bridesmaids will be wearing pale blue it could look as if the OP is trying to make a point.

More and more people seem to wear long dresses at weddings these days. It’s not a trend I like. I accept I’m old fashioned but I don’t think anyone except the bride and bridesmaids should wear long dresses (unless there is a dress code that specifies evening wear).

This dress is beautiful and perfect for a wedding . Wear it and have a great time

There is a difference between maxi and full length IMO. Full length where the dress is just mm from the floor like this dress says evening dress or bridesmaid to me. Monsoon describes it as an evening dress. A maxi day dress would be fine but a full length evening dress is a bit much for a wedding guest (assuming it isn’t a black tie wedding).

I've worked a few weddings in the last few years - this doesn't seem to be the case now. There were plenty of maxi dresses at most of them.

Is it the length maybe? I mean I'm a 60 yo man so I've never worn a dress, I think that dress would look really nice if the skirt was 3/4 length and quite full and pleated, I know it's pleated already, I just mean if it was shorter it would suit more pleats.

There's no more for me to add, so won't bother checking for any more hysterical responses 😅

Glad the OP chose to do the right thing and stop pretending she didn't get it.

There were quite a few posters who pointed this out to you, but if you mean me I am glad you have decided not to just ignore what the bride wants and create drama for no reason. Excellent choice.

Oh, are your comprehension skills lacking? Ok, I will try to make it simple.

A batshit person stated that she thought I must be the bride to be because I said something that enraged her. In return I pointed out that projection is a very real thing and therefore I now know that she in fact has a personal interest in this thread.

Projection, hmm, how to explain this clearly to someone whose English is limited? Projection is when you see someone doing or saying something and you then displace - that is push - your own feelings and behaviours onto that person.

So, in this case I suggested that the batshit responder thought I must be the bride to be because SHE herself is personally involved in this scenario and is pretending to be someone she is not. She believes that other people behave like this because SHE herself behaves like this.

Is that clear enough for you?

To add another layer that might be hard for you to comprehend, I did not actually think the batshit responder WAS the OP. And she did not actually believe for a second I was the bride to be. She was enraged and using the sort of childish argument people use when they have nothing useful to add.

HTH.

This is the big problem with jumpsuits! I have 4 now (obsessive 🤣 I’m looking for a plain black one currently!), all of which are ease off, ease on. I bought one and the zip was up the back. I could just about manage it, but tbh, I have seconds to go to the loo at work (teacher) so sold it.

I find them extremely flattering. I was likened to Lady Penelope (🤔 not sure if that’s a compliment!) when I wore the pink one this week.

I’d personally ask for the dress parameters (tongue in cheek) and take it from there. Have they told you what the actual issue with the dress is? That’s the first port of call (ignoring the fact that it is utterly ridiculous to police others outfits)

If she is dishing out orders to her flying monkeys that's even worse

That is a great shout, I wore a navy wide legged jumpsuit from Next to a day wedding and got lots of compliments in it, only problem was I couldn’t undo it myself to go for a wee as the zip was awkward 🤦‍♀️

If you're anything like me (we're similar size/height) it's hard enough to find something you feel comfortable in without needing permission to wear it! Unless the brides friend is going shopping for you to find something I'd suggest she keeps her nose out!

Monsoon targets bridal parties its likely similar to bridesmaid dresses.