Mum talks over me

It doesn’t make any difference! I must say this 3/4 times a visit and I get an eye roll or “oh okkkk” and then it continues. It’s certainly not sufficient to go NC (especially as she is mine and my DD’s only living family member).

I don’t understand why you can’t just say ‘Mum, you’re not letting me get in a word edgewise, please can I say something now.’ Repeat until she gets the message.

If she still does it, when she won’t stop taking, get up and leave the room. Every time.

It's so reassuring to know it's not just me!!! I love my Mum to bits. Despite travelling extensively I'm incredibly invested in her well being and life. I chose to live 8 doors away but sometimes, very very occasionally I am envious about others who can just dip in and out of their mother's lives!

Oops I'm the verbally full on DM.
I'm awaiting an ADHD assessment this week.
Also I do it out of excitement, loneliness and a desire to connect with my dcs.
I would plan to visit others and remember it's only twice a year.

I think it's quite a common thing as our parents age sadly, both my mum and MIL do this. Both of them are pretty deaf but won't admit it and conversation is so difficult because they lose the thread and can't follow what people are saying. They tell the same old stories as I think those memories are stronger in their mind than what they did yesterday or last week. They also tell me mundane details about people I don't know which is very dull! I just smile and nod along and keep visits shortish 🤷‍♀️

My dad does this to me too. I hate it too. Especially when it's in front of others

Is she physically much smaller by any chance. No more than a child, some smaller people who are surrounded by much bigger people all the time, can start acting like a child sometimes because they feel a bit taken care of or protected by the biggies. You could make sure you're listening to her when she talks too in case she's finding it hard to get heard herself, putting up boundaries and repeating them where necessary. She could also be excited to see you too and can't stop herself. I agree that it is annoying though and disrespectful whether she realises it or not. You could gently repeat yourself, are you listening to me at all, in a kinder voice. She might get the hint if you repeat it

My dad used to do this - I HATED it!

’Dad, I’m just going to -‘
’Tesco’
’post a letter, actually.’

YANBU, @Creek2025 , not sure why people of a certain age do this, but they do!

I have the same issue and it drives me MENTAL especially as I’m partially deaf. Every so often I break and snap at her about it but I can only take so much. It’s got to the point where if I have something to tell her, I have to pre-construct my sentences to make sure the important part is within the first few words, otherwise it won’t be heard because she will have jumped in by then. It’s exhausting

I symapathise. When i see my mum she can't do the normal pleasantries she just launches into whatever she needs to say, all about her, like a massive download. I've been back from holiday nearly a month now and she's not once asked about it, not even did you have a good holiday. The first time I saw her which was unexpectedly when i was out and about , she didn't even say hello, just launched into a tale of woe as she had a cold, started crying in the street.

I wouldn't keep talking over her, just stop talking. She won't notice or care but you will expend less energy. And as other posters have said, limit you time with her even more, don;t stay with her. Do whatever you need to in order to stop getting wound up. Accept the behaviour, its not right but you won't change her.

Same here. Medication helps me from losing my shit and saying something I can't take back. Tried everything else but didn't work.

My mum talks over me and it’s really frustrating. She also finishes my sentences, which is something it has taken me years to shake as I picked up the habit from her. I just wait until she has finished and then pick up from where she has interrupted me.

I would limit the time spent in her actual house. So stay in an air bnb or hotel say two nights and catch up with all your friends etc, stay with her one day and one night and then do more of the catching up with others. If you need to stay for 5-6 days to make the trip worthwhile then simply lesson the time with her.

It is ingrained behaviour and she has probably always been like that but you could actually tell her you are not finished talking yet or get up and leave the room if she keeps doing it. It sounds infuriating.

You only visit twice a year, so it's not it's a daily thing.

Plan your visits in future if you want to catch up with other people.

Arrange to stay with your mum on Saturday night and Sunday night. Suggest you get to her Saturday evening. Stay elsewhere on Friday night and see other people on Friday and Saturday.

It's fairly easy to resolve.