MIL trying on my engagement ring

You know the woman, she's either put it on innocently just to see what it was like, but with no malicious intention, yes she should have asked but on the grand scheme of things I'd let it go , and it's probably clouded a bit by your rocky relationship. Or, she's done it to annoy you and be invasive, with the intention of making you feel how you do.
Either way , you are the one with the beautiful ring and will have it forever. Try not to think of it as tainted, try to enjoy your ring and engagement and move on

It really isn't

Putting the ring through a repeated cycle of boiling and then freezing it might cleanse it. Not sure whether it will damage it at all but then again if it's tainted you haven't got much to lose by tring I guess. Some people would leave it overnight in vinegar as well, others swear by burying jewellery in a field for a few weeks so that the ground can neutralise the bad karma. The risk of that is someone with a metal detector will find it of course. You could try doing each thing in turn, checking whether it has been cleansed sufficiently after each step?

But YANBU it's incredibly rude to try someone on without asking permission. It's good that she likes it rather than hates it but it's unforgivable to try it on like that.

Some people are less bothered about personal property... especially when it comes to other people's!

so she complimented you on the beautiful ring and it's tainted now because she tried it on briefly? If you were my DIL, I'd have a strained relationship with you too. You sound like hard work and a princess who is looking for a fight. She had only nice things to say. Get a grip! and don't get me started in this karma BS!

As long as they’re not about to nick it and pawn/sell it, I’d be fine with it - it’s flattering that they admire it so much they want to try it on. Rude not to ask you first, but otherwise I think you are being very unreasonable.

You're surprised that so many people don't believe in made-up nonsense?

I hope your DP was extremely careful about the history of the ring and where the diamond came from ensuring it was ethical. Because if you believe in bad energy, that stone could have absorbed a lot of pain. Just saying.

Because it’s nonsense.

Bit Jocasta, I would agree. And it also sounds very like boundary-pushing if the relationship isn't a positive one.

But I'd file this one in the drawer under 'small stuff'. The best way of purifying the energy surrounding this object is to ensure that in future you leave it in a place where she can't find it, and work on establishing the healthy boundaries which are key to a cordial relationship in the future. You're marrying this man: there will be a lot of it.

A PP upthread recommends a cleansing ritual, given you believe in universal energy. Charge it with the moon, purify it in the smoke of with rosemary incense, or wash it in a natural spring. Other people's negative energy cannot harm you unless you let it.

It's a bit weird that she tried your ring on. It isn't 'tainted' though. Bigger issue is your relationship with her. If you're marrying her son she's going to be around a long time. Think of what your boundaries are and start putting them in place now. I've read threads on here where the MiL gets worse after the wedding. And even worse after kids.

You are massively overreacting

This would irritate me but feeling that the ring is tainted feels a bit excessive. I agree with the people saying that if you have a woo side and feel that inanimate objects can absorb bad vibes then do a cleansing ritual with it , smudge it with sage or put it in a little bag with a rose quartz crystal. ( for love).

I’m glad you’re not my future daughter-in-law . What nonsense.

Um why? She sounds a horror.

I totally understand Op, quite suprised that so many people don't believe in good/bad energy.

Do a cleansing ceremony to free the ring from bad juju.

FFS, get a grip. Your MIL admires and compliments your ring and your response is a bunch of drama. You sound like hard work.

How on earth would that seem worse? I am rapidly losing patience with this woman. What on earth is up with her? Yes, her future (maybe) MiL was misguided but for goodness sake, she didn’t steal or deface the ring. Onering really does need to get a life.
incidentally, it is definitely not a good idea to put the ring in the dishwasher. For heaven’s sake!

Poor poor mother in law

Every ❄️ is unique

Have you considered consulting a ouija board rather than mumsnet.

Strange

You’re being utterly ridiculous. I would suggest you need to grow up.

That was very cheeky of her but to let it taint your view of your ring seems a terrible shame. Would getting it professionally cleaned help with removing her from your ring in your mind?

Ah I see there are suggestions of cleansing rituals in other posts.

it’s annoying but you are being ridiculous.