MIL trying on my engagement ring

It's just like that, me in my head thinks it would bring a bad energy as it was purchased on a day something ( bad/ negative) happened and I would say, oh I got this on a day XY died.
Same with clothes, If I wear new item into certain environment, in my head I believe I will be always end up using the item to go to that environment .
Like once I wore a new jumper to a dentist and it happened everytime I end up going dentist I worn that item, even I didn't plan on it as I have another 50 jumpers.
As try to avoid to use new items to wear them for the first time to hospitals, cemeteries and similar places etc as you end up always wearing them just going there. This is how my brain works..

Bit of an anecdotal aside, here. I originally come from what was once a seafaring community. These are people known for their superstitions - some of them well-founded in common-sense, others a little more eccentric. You only have to look at some of the supposed omens surrounding the doomed Titanic to get a sense of this.

Those among us of a less spiritual, more materialistic bent will deny to the hilt they they are in any way superstitious, or that they believe in any form of mysticism whatsover. As a test, a ladder was left up against a wall (this was in NYC I believe) - no one working at the top or with any risk of paint spillages, etc. - its bottom end protruding just slightly off the end of the pavement and into the road. The placers of the ladder then sat and watched what happened.

The overwhelming majority of people, with very few exceptions, preferred to walk into the line of traffic than walk under that ladder.

It seems that a great many people are more superstitious than they care to admit.

She didn’t just touch it, she tried it on! Trying on someone else’s jewellery without permission is rude and inappropriate.

Or call the...

Have you tried fighting fire with fire?
”Oooo and now my turn to try on yours!” All doe eyed and enthusiastic.

However there are plenty of people that DO believe in this stuff, and lots of people's attitudes on here come across mocking for it. That is completely rude and close minded. Let's be respectful of the fact that some people take that as seriously as believing in a God and not try to ridicule anyone for it.

This is an anonymous internet chat forum. People can express whatever views they want - within reason obviously. Personally, I don't feel the need to be open minded towards what I consider to be absolute nonsense. If I knew you in real life, I would not verbally undermine your right to believe in positive/negative energy flowing via inanimate objects. I would keep my thoughts to myself. That's because I am polite and respectful. But, as I said, this is an anonymous forum and there should be plenty of room for expressing doubt about the veracity of such belief systems.

Just give it a wash. In hot soapy water.

If you’re spiritual: Then leave it on a windowsill when there is a next full or new moon for its energies.

It’s not tainted. Please don’t be ridiculous. Are your chairs tainted because she’s sat on them? Are your mugs tainted because she’s drank from them?

My friend's friend tried on her wedding ring & it got stuck. She had to have it cut off. Friend was gutted!

YABU. MIL likes the ring, she has been complimentary about it. I don't believe she has done anything wrong in this situation. It makes me wonder if you have contributed to the strained relationship more than you realise. Everyone's boundaries should be respected but if yours go as far as not touching your engagement ring it could be very difficult for your MIL to know how to act.

Does anyone else really want to see the ring?

I'm not even into jewellery but I come over all magpie/Gollum on an engagement ring thread.
(ETA I know I'm missing the point of the thread, sorry OP!)

YANBU. Someone once asked if they could try on my engagement ring shortly after I got engaged. I said no. It’s a highly personal piece of jewellery and I completely understand you not wanting your MIL to try it on. She crossed a line.

I can see it as being something that is yours and very special to you and she took it for a moment.

I can see why you feel the wqy you do.

Superstitious habit is impacting your life need to address it.
Mad OCD? Or bad habit. Depends how debilitating it is and if you feel compulsion
what would happen if you didn’t get rid of the item? What would be the consequence

I heard there are studies that show Dawn is the make effective against negative energy.

@Onering I agree this more about how you feel about MIL and how she keeps pushing boundaries. You obviously need to continue toe work with your DP to put boundaries in place with her but the ring is not tainted.

You can actually bring the negative energy into your relationship when you over dwell on it and let it eat you inside and build resentment. This should be a happy time for you so focus on that.

Does your DP support you when it comes to his mother or is he one of those mummy’s boys who thinks his mother can never do any wrong?

Yes I was thinking ocd. Definitely look at CBT. I'm not suggesting that in a snidey way. It has completely changed my dds life for the better. She is free of all these sort of rituals now

My first engagement ring was antique. That marriage ended in divorce. My second engagement ring was also antique. We've been happy married for 22 years. Karma/ bad energy from someone else wearing something is nonsense.

Burn sage.

Get one of those ring necklaces and then pop it on there rather than leaving it on the side for MIL

Totally weird for someone to do that and I definitely feel she's done it to annoy. However she's sneaky because if you raise it, you can sound very sensitive and the woo won't help either. I'd be far more concerned about how she might be at your wedding.

Its just me being stupidly superstitious about stuff like that.
I wish to be so carefree I wouldn't get bothered about it.. I guess it's just some mad ocd kind..I can't control.

Life must be very very difficult for you. Honestly, you should seek out a good CBT therapist.
By the way, something bad or negative happens to someone in the world every second of every, single day so this thought process is completely illogical.

Well you need to let that go, because it's rubbish.

Please elaborate. Get rid of item as it was purchased on day something iffy happened?
Do you have a value tariff
Lipstick, Gone
Washing machine, nah you can stay

I have read a lot of nonsense on mn, but this is most unnecessary and daft by a big measure

No, you have good manners and you know that to try someone else’s jewellery on without permission- let alone an engagement ring - is wholly unacceptable.

But just give it a good clean and put it on. It doesn’t have any ‘karma’. Tell your DP that you’re not impressed by what she did. He should have a word with her.

My MIL has never tried on my rings, not in 30 years, and I wouldn’t dream of trying on hers.

I’d send it to an exorcist.

Strained relationship? Why are yiu getting engaged to a man when it’s strained.You should be exultant and in love. Is this an engagement to save the strained relationship eg if we make a big gesture that will sort the underlying strains