MIL trying on my engagement ring

I'd get the ring professionally cleaned to wash away the bad karma. Or buy one of those sonic ring cleaners.

If you believe in bad energies you may also believe in cleansing rituals.

In which case I advise waiting until a clear moonlit night is in the offing before mixing a pinch of salt into a glass of water, then dropping the ring into the glass and leaving it outside overnight, where the evil 'fluences will all be washed away by the cleansing rays of the moon.

Perhaps you should also use a new broom to sweep all the wickedness out of your home after she has visited, and then smudge each room with burning sage and sprinkle salt across all the thresholds to the outside world?

At the very least it will give you something else to do rather than mulling over the bad karma caused by someone trying on your pretty engagement ring without prior permission.

I understand exactly what you mean about it being "tainted'. It might be worth asking a jeweller to put it through their cleaning system. Then it will feel more like yours again.

It wouldn’t bother me but I like my MIL. I suppose if I didn’t, it would annoy me somewhat, but I wouldn’t think the ring was tainted.

Change your partner as he is carrying a lot of bad vibes and karma by being inside your MIL for 9 months.

I don’t personally believe burning sage or incense will literally change anything with the ring. But, I think it helps some people symbolically, and it’s harmless. A wedding ceremony itself is largely symbolic so it’s not that strange to do things because of how they make us feel or what they symbolise.
The problem with this is that every time the Op encounters something with " bad karma" because someone may have ' negative energy ' she us going to get herself worked up.
She would in my opinion, be better maybe having CBT or other therapy to help her mind to see things logically rather than go into an anxious state which is terrible for long term health.

A great many mockers will subscribe to superstitions of their own to some extent, but still strenuously deny doing so. It must make them feel good to inform others that they believe in 'sky fairies', but by the same token believe green is an 'unlucky' colour for weddings, or that it's bad luck for a bride and groom to spend the night before the wedding together.

Some superstitions and 'old wives' tales' are founded on basic common sense; some centre upon cultural identity or community bonding in the face of adversity. Humans are a social species whose historical survival has thrived upon storytelling and ritual, some of which surrounds particular superstitious beliefs. Anthropologists think that every society, from tribal to developed world, undertake the same structure of the rite of passage, often based around symbolism and ritual.

Aside from being a whole crock of BS, these cultural bonding activities have possibly been essential to our species' survival.

I wonder how many of the mockers would react to the rituals of non western people all over the world such as those who practice tribal rituals.

Pathetic western arrogance in full force here.

In fairness to the OP there is something weird about a woman trying her DIL ring, is she trying to make a point that she just as special to her so as his finance

It's AIBU. 'Give the OP a good kicking' is a spectator sport around here; as a forum it's notorious for it.

Your example of the wedding ceremony is a good one. Wedding 'traditions' are steeped in superstition. A good many are also sexist, anachronistic and reek of patriarchal oppression: discarding your own family name, being 'given away' like a chattel, etc. But some people who are wedded to those traditions get very defensive when this is pointed out.

As to personal beliefs, avoiding walking under a ladder makes a lot more sense to me than much of the above.

You're all so, so predictable. It's quite funny. I knew you would suddenly want to come for me for suggesting some politeness. But I guess you can't possibly handle tolerance for other world views, so you have to criticise straight away. Makes me laugh.

But the way some of you talk to others on here seems so unfriendly and rude.

Everyone should stand in a bucket and be ran under the tap water .

Come off it. Some of the comments deserve nothing but ridicule.

We’ve had suggestions such as -

Putting the ring in a sieve and running tap water on it.

Placing it in saltwater in the moonlight.

Performing a cleansing ceremony.

Getting the ring professionally cleaned.

Burning sage.

All because someone tried on a ring. 🤡

I really dislike seeing all the disrespectful and mocking comments here. It’s one thing to respectfully say you don’t agree. It’s another thing to ridicule someone. Can’t we just agree there’s no need? Some commenters seem to get satisfaction from being on their high horse and mocking others.

I don’t personally believe burning sage or incense will literally change anything with the ring. But, I think it helps some people symbolically, and it’s harmless. A wedding ceremony itself is largely symbolic so it’s not that strange to do things because of how they make us feel or what they symbolise.

But the way some of you talk to others on here seems so unfriendly and rude.

Good grief

Oh I see when you post,criticising my posts that’s you a being neutral observer
I post criticising woohoo stuff and it’s unkind and pointless
Being Kind etc isn’t purposefully ignoring illogical superstitions that are adversely impacting upon op. Being kind isn’t pretending that one can wash vibes.
Op should try to address the illogical beliefs that are affecting her relationships and behaviour . I recommend CBT

I've think the Op needs CBT rather than rituals to help her see a different perspective.

think of how many people tried it on in the jewellers - one or all of them could have tainted it
the ring is a piece of metal and a lump of carbon attached - you're being ridiculous.

Just a bit pointless though isn’t it @Zone2NorthLondon pulling other people’s beliefs down? Not very kind etc. but you crack on if that’s how you fancy spending your Sunday ❤️

You are being a bit mean imo. The older I get the more I realise how your perspective can change.

It was over stepping the mark and I wouldn’t like it either but it’s not the end of the world. Be sure to keep firm boundaries around your children / any future children but also remember one day you might be mil yourself. Balance is key.

Are You seriously saying I should only post affirmations about woohoo and cleansing the vibe
Make sure you remonstrate with other posters who’ve posted similar comments
I’ll Post as I wish, and won’t be moderating my responses

Is there any need? @Zone2NorthLondon to be so weirdly smugly dismissive. The OP had said she believes in this. I saw something else you mocked from @Bikergran earlier on too. Makes me wonder why you’re still here if you think it’s all shite?

yes undertake a superstitious act, chant an incantation
Pray to the gods of inanity Ant & Dec that mediocrity be returned to the ring and your life

I think you may find comfort in some ritualistic act to reclaim your ring, even if it's just symbolic. Have your ring blessed if you're religious or put it outside overnight, in some saltwater in the moonlight. People can laugh, but humans have been performing rituals since the dawn of time and there's no harm in it (as long as you're not sacrificing animals etc.)