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Am I wrong?

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Myhubbyisadickhead · 11/05/2025 10:02

Found out last night that my DH allowed our DD to drive our fairly powerful car up the residential street despite us discussing it several times previously and saying she couldn't. She's had 5 lessons and is not insured. There's loads of parked cars and imo anything could have gone wrong. I've gone ballistic. With both of them. Now this morning he's defending his actions saying she kept asking me (she has me too all week and I said no) and she was actually a good driver. Car is automatic and so easier to drive so this apparently makes it ok. DD says everyone's parents do it apart from. Am I overreacting?

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Butchyrestingface · 11/05/2025 10:45

Well, she’s not insured so YANBU on that front.

Do you intend to put her on the insurance so she can practice with her dad in between lessons?

TY78910 · 11/05/2025 10:42

Were they both in the car? Or did she just go out on her own?

nomas · 11/05/2025 10:22

They’re both idiots but he’s the bigger idiot.

Who is paying for DD’s lessons? If it’s you/dh, tell her if she does it again, she has to pay for her own lessons. And mean it.

LoveWine123 · 11/05/2025 10:09

You are not wrong and you have made your point. Hopefully they will both listen and not do it again. And hopefully you will be able to let it go and move on without making it a huge life problem.

Sirzy · 11/05/2025 10:07

She isn’t insured so shouldn’t be driving. It’s that simple!