Is sending me money a red flag?

I saw same thing on youtube. Dont think its genuine

If you are getting unwelcome phone calls which you cannot block, the police are there to help you.

Just ask. I don't know why the op asked us anyway. She is suspicious enough to have reported the matter.

I was just responding to people querying the use of online banking.

But she can block him from sending money, I don't think he has done anything that would warrant calling the police on him, she is choosing to stay in contact, she likes the drama.she is the red flag.

Yes but we are talking about op and explained how op could recieve money without sharing account details.

No. That she asked him to stop sending it and he ignored her.

OP clearly stated they used cash app so he doesn’t need her bank details. He just needs to know her cash app name or number.

I know what cash app is as I have a lot of American friends and visit the U.S. once a year, but it’s not that weird for a British person not to know as it’s never really been a big thing here . Apparently it did used to be available to UK residents but it was never popular AFAIK

When I was over last year the hairdresser kept asking me to send her a deposit via cash app. She struggled to understand why I wasn’t able to get the app.

Anyway OP, be careful of this man. I was talking to a man in the US once and he was insistent he would pay for my trip over there. I go there a lot anyway so I paid for the whole trip myself and I’m so glad I did because I know he’d have felt entitled to sex.

And as it happened I didn’t feel like sleeping with him when I met him.

If you’re able to send the money back next time, do so. He sounds controlling and this is him in his charm offensive stage as well so it’ll only get worse.

And next time you meet a man don’t “joke” about asking them for money. It doesn't build respect and from my experience of American men many of them so willing to send money to a woman straight off the bat aren’t so great at treating them like equals in the long term.

I didn't say it's easier i said it's more convenient. When I use Revolut I have to transfer money in and out of my bank account to my Revolut account. If I used Revolut as my main daily transaction account then it wouldn't make much difference. But I use a specific current account for my day to day spending so I don't want to faff around moving money to/from Revolut into my current account when I could just do bank transfer via app.

The red flag initially is you asking for money. Who on earth jokes about asking for coffee money??? Moreover when he sent you some (how? how on earth does he have your bank details etc for that?) you could and indeed should have likely immediately returned it.

Why on earth are you telling him to buy you a watch? Urgh. From your description of what's been going on it seems you are money focused and also seem to be testing him: first with the coffee money suggestion, and then with the watch money suggestion. This is not appropriate behaviour at all. It also makes you seem very materialistic and also suggests that you can be bought. Stop it.

As for him offering to buy you stuff: you can't tell someone that you want them to buy you something and then be surprised that when they listen and then do that or offer to do that. Stop giving him mixed signals. If you don't want him to buy you things then stop asking him to!

Seems like you need to grow up and be more mindful of what you say to other people. Don't give people mixed signals: if you want something, then ask for it. If you don't actually want something then don't ask for it. But don't blame a man (or anyone else) if you tell them that you want something, they act on that request, and then you decide that you were actually joking. It's not fair to them - and it's very manipulative.

Tell the Police what exactly? She said she needed money and he sent it, if she's worried about him just block but she hasn't...she's the red flag!

How is it easier to bank transfer? With revolut it's instant and you only need phone number or email.

You were being weird asking for money. He sounds just as bad so probably best to just block him.

Tell the police.

Why the hell are you still messing around with this! Cut the contact and block him from sending you money, until you do that, you just come across as a desperate gold-digger! If he's vulnerable and someone his end notices it and reports you, you end up with a criminal record! Is the money that important that you'd keep taking all these risks to keep getting it! You aren't carrying on with this because it feels healthy or like it has a future, you are doing this just for the money!

You’re both red flags… if this is real. You don’t sound ready to be in a relationship.

I do wonder if these posts are real...

And he had her bank info to send it. He didn't stuff it in her letterbox

What do you mean he sent it without asking? You asked at least 3x.

So he's buying your tears/pain.

Return it then

This is a major red flag.
It is WAY worse than merely 'disrespectful'.
I'm sorry, no matter how physically attractive this man may appear, he is a controlling person who wants your 100% attention on him. And he 'can hear your nails tapping' when you are messaging someone else? WTAF??
However innocently you did it, it seems that he may think he can now buy you and also he thinks that in return he has the right to monopolise your attention. This is not normal. That way lies coercive control.
Do NOT give him your new address.
Your instincts are right-he IS a red flag.
And JFI - in future don't even hint to men you barely know that you'd like them to buy you things, however small.
Personally I would be cutting off all contact with this man. If you do that-be polite to him and stay safe.

I lost probably about half a dozen iq points skim reading parts of this thread.

I'm just saying as so many people commented about she must of given bank details but with revolut and others you only need phone numberor email. She is still wrong though, after "joking" about coffee money she then mentions a watch that he might want to buy! Then she asks if him sending her money is a red flag? I think this is a wind up.

Asking him once for money is a joke, why do you keep asking him? you appear to be taking advantage, it's not a joke when you keep asking and when he gave you some you asked for more