To not pay for DSS to travel Business Class?

Selfish parents.

i agree he should be encouraged ti make a decision ptherwise he flies economy. But i disagree that it is normal for kids to travel in different class than their parents. Thats different.

it is shocking. Kids are no lesser than, i found that attitude pretty revolting actually

He’s 18 so it’s fuck off and support yourself as we won’t bother with any thing nice for you even if we are getting it for ourselves

Totally this. A long-haul flight and a paid holiday in Australia is pretty mediocre, and he should probably go NC.

What about his father? Why does only OP get slated, it being implied she's doing this because she's the step mother, whilst ignoring the boys actual parent, the dad?

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ffs, adults - even parents - are allowed to treat themselves sometimes! Kids don’t have to have everything their parents get

I’d give him the option - does he want to fly business or would he prefer the money to spend in the UK?

I'd tell him he had 24 hours to make a decision and if he didn't you'd be booking business class and you'll pay for an economy seat if he decides to come later on. I'd also make it clear that I would not be paying for a seat in any class for his girlfriend/friend so there were no misunderstandings further down the line.

I didn't say I don't "get" why anyone sould fly business.

I take a private jet and make my DC walk and swim actually.

I don’t send my DC to boarding schools (because it’s not right for us) but nearly all the people I know who do, actually do so because they went and absolutely loved the experience.

I normally take one of my private jets. I just didn’t want to sound boastful so haven’t mentioned it up to now ✈️ ✈️ 🥂 Quite frankly, BC sounds rather common 😜

Typical of some of the well off I think. Hence boarding schools.

You don’t “get” why anyone would fly business class so it’s natural that you wouldn’t believe other people do.

I'm not sure the posters who disagree with flying in a different class to their children fly business themselves.

He’s 18 so it’s fuck off and support yourself as we won’t bother with any thing nice for you even if we are getting it for ourselves

are any of you actually loving parents ?

I think there is a whole group of posters on here who need to check their privilege.
Flights to Australia from the UK are eye-watering expensive, even “just” economy, but the way people are bandying about how “immoral” it is not to put DC in business class?
Jesus. Most (well-brought-up) kids would bite your arm off to be given a trip to Oz, not be whingeing about the seat they get on the plane.

I think at 18 if he's getting an otherwise paid for holiday I would put him in economy class. He isn't a small child and I would personally never fly apart from my children when young. The 6k it would potentially cost can be used towards driving lessons, a first car, towards uni if he decides to go etc. Basically what I'm getting at is that there are lots of ways in which it could be better used.

He's at that transition from a child to an adult. It's an important lesson to learn over the next few years that he won't be able to have the standard of living as an adult unless he works hard.

If my 60+ partner can manage the flights to Australia each year in economy than an 18year old will be fine. He isn’t ready to book now and you are. All will be well.

I don't get why anyone would pay for business class if it is not "easily affordable" in the first place tbh. It's 1000s extra for essentially just a wider seat and better food for a few hours.

He is 18, definitely would not pay business class whether step son or my own! Not unless it was very, very easily affordable to us.

DC’s could afford it without our help but it’s a nice thing to be able to do.

those that wouldn’t dream of flying business and their kids economy do you not worry that you might be underlining their drive and ambition? Like if young people get everything handed to them on a plate what happens to their desire to strive and work hard? Surely it’s good for them to see that there are certain privileges etc that only come when you’ve earned them?

Same here - I’m enjoying being able to treat our grown up, working in their own careers, DC’s. - it’s a lovely thing to be able to do and they fully appreciate it.

This. He can chose whether to se all allocated money on business class. Or he might rather travel in economy and have the rest towards doing some travelling around Australia

I do understand your point and I agree however when we have felt like this, and maybe recognising the kids won't appreciate an upgrade then none of us go business class. I don't book myself and my husband on business and the kids into economy. We all travel together and we all sit together. Yes it's good to teach your kids the importance of valuing money and luxury however not at the expense of making them feel cut out as well.