to think most women are still doing the majority of parenting?

Not here, and neither of my 2 sons behave that way. Full on fathers. I’d not have married a man who I thought would be too selfish or hopeless not to be, and I’d be ashamed of my sons if they were.

How does it prove 'most'

I also had long chats with DH pre DC about how DC need two parents and that I wasn’t mentally or physically prepared to do it alone. We discussed openly how it would always be a shared enterprise and it always has been.

but I’m aware that I speak from a position of massive privilege not every woman meets a man like my DH (and before I sound too smug don’t worry he has plenty of flaws). Lots of women don’t meet reasonable men you see it around all the time- although be wary of confirmation bias and the fact that competent men getting on with things are less obvious

I saw my husband as a joint parent from the moment they came out of the womb. He has completely stepped up to it and they are his world. I think whenever you see a dad who abdicates responsibility, you need to look at the circumstances of why he’s been allowed to get away with that.

No way would I dutifully crack on dealing with a sick child while he sat relaxing reading a sodding book. Some women are their own worst enemies.

Yes agreed.
i actually work full time and my husband does the majority of day to day ferrying and parenting. However in every office I’ve worked in I’ve never seen a part time working dad. And I mentally handle all the child/ school stuff.

No not here, mu children's dad dotes on his kids, he is currently out chasing a ball around a field with the youngster and when he gets home he will be helping the elder with Comp Science revision.

When they were younger he comforted, dressed, changed, fed, you know the things they needed, spent hours playing in the garden and park with them, did most of the bedtime reading. He always has and still adores his kids.

And he is working like a bastard to pay off the mortgage so we can use that money to fund university and in time help them out with housing deposits.

It would be sad to think he is a minority.

I'm separated from exdp for over 6 years now. He will only see them when he has the time/money/energy to do so. It's currently been 6 weeks since he last saw them. Excuses were no money, he had to work, bad back, and this weekend he couldn't come because 'his back was still a bit stiff' and he couldn't face the drive.

I do all of the parenting. He's basically just the free babysitter that has them occasionally. He doesn't know their shoe size, teachers names, and wouldn't know how to pick them up from school. The dc are thriving, even the youngest who has sen, but I am a broken shell. I dont have any parents, siblings, or aunts or uncles so it's just me and the dc. He knows that but doesn't give a shit. Sadly my experience is not unique.