Things that don’t bother you that seem a big deal to other people

Haha, between 10 am and 5pm!

Exactly my sentiments when I wrote it

Wedding/hen do/honeymoon etc. Basically any kind of party. In my opinion every kind of occasion is more about the people than the frills. I'd put money behind the bar and sort a decent buffet - done.

If I had an issue that needed looking at and the only qualified person available was a man, I'd deal with it. But, if I had a preference I'd take a woman. Mainly because they actually understand those bits.

I’m not criticising anyone for being bothered by that. There’s no right or wrong way to feel about it. We’re all different.

But I, personally, am completely unbothered. My gynaecologist and my GP are both men and have poked plenty of things up my fanny.

During medical appointments, I mean. Not during a threesome.

Toilet seat up (someone has to put it up and down)
Toilet roll the wrong way round (so long as its there, and not soggy from being left in the sink, I'm good)
Announcements at weddings (if I love you enough to invite you, I love you enough to want to celebrate with you)
Child free weddings (have the wedding you want)
Wearing pale colours/ white to a wedding
Children playing on the neighboyrs garden/communal area
High spirited children/ teenagers
Transwomen in women's toilets

"Wifework" - it really isn't an ordeal to make a call every few months to make a dentist appointment or set up direct debits.

Toilets - I genuinely couldn't care less who's in the cubicles around me.

100% agree! Also what way the toilet roll hangs on the hook/holder, cannot give a rats arse 😅

Yes girl 🙌🏻 love this! Why are we made to feel guilty? I swear people who make a big scene crying etc when they leave their child are just attention seekers like if u feel that bad leaving them DONT lol

Nothing! I’m bother by it ALL lol but love this for you. It’s definitely the best way to be. Your like my husband. Nothing bothers him at all. He should live in Jamaica or somewhere more chill because all he says to me is “why are you bothered” “don’t let it bother you” lol Ying and Yang we need it all to make the world go around and all that

Jehovah's Witnesses
Cold, wet weather
Dogs wearing outfits
Dogs in cafes and shops
People working in coffee shops
DH going to the pub without me
Me going to the pub without DH
Our car being dirty
What model of car we or other people own
Dandelions and other 'weeds'
Other people's cats in the garden
People yawning and not covering their mouth
People having the weight loss jab

I think the people that get worried about home baked goods are those that know they're the sort of people that deserve to be fed The Help's chocolate cake.

I didn't mind people visiting soon after I had my babies. My last one i felt a bit lonely as I had to stay in hospital 2 nights cos I had a cesarean, my husband was home with our 3 kids. My sister came to see me that day and my mil came the next day as she couldn't the first day. When my 3rd son was born at home both my sister and in laws visited the following day

Yep. Holiday how you like, if you want to. Stay at home for annual leave too if you want. Do what makes you happy in your precious free time.

@ItGhoul

The only time I'm bothered about my doctor / HCP being female is for things like my smear test or those internal scans (had one once, hideous thing). I just don't like the idea of a man I don't know pushing instruments inside my vagina. Seems different when it's a woman.

Travel and holidays to (what are perceived to be) exotic and exciting places for social media clout.

Al fresco wee-ers.
The neighbours whose cats/footballs come into my garden.
Transgender people.

Live and let live! 🥰

Status symbols in daily life: who sits at the head of the table, etc

Getting the right sort of cards: I actually enjoy sending and getting cards, but I won't be offended if someone doesn't send one back, or sends a card that is too 'cheap'.

Being insulted by getting something too 'generic' as a present. If you don't like your box of Thornton's chocolates, don't get insulted; just send it to me!

I think I'm unusual in not wanting birthday reminders even from family; but I know other people who don't like friends and colleagues to make a 'thing' of their birthday,

Even as a kid, though I liked presents(!), I never liked being reminded that 'now you're 6', 'now you're 7', etc.

And I think in the past, adult birthdays; after 21, were usually celebrated just as birthdays; but recently there has been an increased emphasis on 'significant' 'milestone' birthdays where the emphasis is very much on your new age; and this has made me dislike birthdays even more,

Happy to celebrate other people's, however,

I am completely unbothered by:

Whether people who serve me in shops are smiley or not.

Whether my doctor / gynaecologist / nurse / radiographer is a man or a woman.

How other people choose to take their tea, pronounce the word ‘scone’, hang their toilet rolls etc.

Anything that other consenting adults do / enjoy in bed.

What other people wear. This includes people wearing thong bikinis or scrunch bum shorts in leisure centres, which really seems to upset a lot of people on Mumsnet.

My partner watching porn (I don’t know if he does or not, but I don’t care).

People posting loved up stuff, holiday photos, kids etc on social media.

Influencers. They’re just doing a job and nobody has to follow them.

People having preferred pronouns.

Rats. Provided they’re not inside my house, they’re not bothering me.

Wasps. See above.

Marriage.

Ultra processed food. I mostly cook from scratch because I enjoy it, but also don’t think I’d die if I ate a packet of Monster Munch and a Twix every day.

Dark humour.

How someone living on benefits chooses to spend their money.

Gaming. Not a gamer myself but it seems like as a valid a hobby as any to me.

My partner’s time consuming hobby.

Driving. Don't care for it. Have never wanted to learn.
Babies crying on planes, just doesn't bother me in the slightest.

Oh yes the illusive family time never must plans that do not include all three of us happen on a weekend because FAMILY TIME.
Nope!
Don't get me wrong, not out constantly but if a friend wants to go for a coffee or I want to go to the supermarket we don't all need to go for the event.

See also family shopping tripsd
Don't get me wrong sometimes it is genuinely a family outting - all need new specs, all need whatever they might need but if I just need to pop to Primark my toddler doesn't need to be dragged along for the journey!
I know for some if they can't drive etc it's a unavoidable but I know people who literally drags everyone just for the wonder round town.
No.
And no I will not pander to my toddler with what shape do you want your sandwich it comes in sandwich shape.
And no I will not be making shapes from any vegetables.

I'd have to wear chain mail if I did that-all my pegs are stainless steel!

Now, you're of course entitled to feel how you feel, but if I was your friend I'd respect your wishes completely, but definitely think you were strange. I've never met anyone who thinks a loving friend is being negative by reminding you that you're older, rather than as Tortie says they are celebrating how wonderful you are. Birthdays are to tell people how much you care for them/ love having them in your life & to spend time together. In fact, I smile as I'm reminded of my lovely friends when I use, or see, something they've bought me for my birthday.

Different strokes, and all that, but to think a birthday is negative is an out-lying point of view surely?

@ToWhitToWhoo Now knowing that, I'd back right off. It's no treat for you if you aren't comfortable with it and those persisting are indulging themselves - they certainly aren't pleasing you.