To think brides should organise their own hen weekends ?

I think it would take away a lot of stress if the bride organised her own hen.

It’s often the ones who want the surprise who are the most difficult to please in my experience. The ones who organise it themselves are usually more straightforward.

I wish I'd organised mine, what they chose for me was bloody awful, like literally the worst they could have chosen for me! I really did not enjoy it at all and upset me at how little they knew me. They all love the same thing, which I hate.

In this case, as she has such fixed ideas about what she wants to do, it does sound like it would make more sense for your sister to organise it herself.

That's not how it has worked on hen dos I've been on. Usually the bride gives a rough idea of what she'd like to do. The bridesmaids work out the details and throw in a few surprises.

I arranged my own hen. I told everyone we were going down the pub on X day and please join me. Bloody good night.

SiL asked me to organise her hen do, luckily in the UK, and only 10 people. I managed to get a good price on 2 nights in an hotel, organised an Edwardian barge with luxury pic-nic, and club for the evening.
I sent out a breakdown of costs, which worked out to about £150 each, everybody was happy; then other SiL declared that it could be held in her holiday home. By the time we had all paid for food that we needed to supply, then a meal out, travelling to and from by taxi, and of course, had to pay SiL for the electricity and use of her home, we all had to take our own bed linen and towels, it actually cost more. I vowed I would never organise another hen do.

I actually wish I'd organised mine, my friend offered and then did something totally different to what I'd wanted (basically dinner at mine with my friends, not out doing kareoke),

Exactly,read my post!

Agree , let the bride go through the mental gymnastics or even better ,just have a night out at local pub ,few drinks ,a good laugh and everyone goes home and compare hangovers the next day !! I have brilliant pics of my hen night from 30 years ago!!
Met up with friends recently who were there and we had such a bloody good laugh! Crappy restaurant, Chinese Elvis singer ,all dancing ,karaoke with me singing Like a virgin 🥳and just bloody enjoying ourselves. My sister dressed me up from a charity shop,with plastic bouquet. Such fun for everyone.
Cannot understand all the Instagram rubbish that goes on these days!!
Many years later my children from the pics and friends think my Hen night was a legend .

Brides are busy organising a wedding so I think it’s nice if the hens do some planning. That said, demanding brides with ideas that don’t align with the group’s budgets are the worst.

Organising a hen do these days is so much effort because it’s rarely a meal and a night club in your local town or city, like it used to be.

YANBU. I organised my own group meal in a lovely hotel restaurant and bar - reasonable prices, great atmosphere alongside river setting for drinks outside before/after, absolutely no drama. Most would say it’s boring to have a meal and drinks these days for a hen but at least no one was forced into spending £££, pressured into doing activities they don’t want to do, away from their home for days at a time, and taking annual leave etc - just to keep the bride happy.

Agreed! I have arranged two hen dos for my friends, when it was my turn to get married I openly said I didn’t want to put them through it 😂 I’ve also been in too many hen do group chats where everyone passively argues with each other over the plans. Causes so much bad feeling!

Yep agreed. I organised my own Baby Shower and some people were so shocked about that. I don’t get why the expectation is on others to sort stuff for you. I’d happily organise my own.