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Have women become soft

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peeweehill · 09/05/2025 21:18

Hear me first ive just got in from having a chat to my neighbour shes almost 80 really sweet lady known her for years.
Well we was having a natter while she was waiting for her daughter to arrive (she`s going away for the weekend) and i said something how society has changed a lot and how far technology has come.

She agreed it was all for the best and how we would of loved it back in the day. She then said the biggest thing that she as noticed the most is that women are getting softer.
I said what do you mean she replied with we all used to be tough as nails now most are gone soft.
Before i could reply her daughter arrived she said catch up when i get home on monday.

Now im waiting for monday lol😆
It got me thinking have us women got softer.🤔
Some of what i read on MN i think she may have a point i think i dont know.
What do you netters think.

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ClaySquish · 09/05/2025 21:28

I suppose living without a car, fridge/freezer, microwave, air fryer, central heating, washing machine, dishwasher etc. made life a lot harder. As did the non existence of supermarkets, Amazon Prime, mobile phones. I think we've all gone "soft" not just women! I take soft to mean along the lines of being used to all the comforts that modern life brings and limited experience of physical domestic hardship.

DownWithCremeEggs · 09/05/2025 21:27

I do think life was harder back then, especially for women, so perhaps they were more resilient than they are now. Depends on what you consider to be 'soft' really.

JLou08 · 09/05/2025 21:27

I think both men and women are more open about their emotions but I don't think that means they are soft. The keeping it all in and being as 'tough as nails' probably led to a lot of explosions of anger at home towards wives and children. I think it's better all round to talk about emotions and deal with them in an appropriate way.

Mylegishangingoff · 09/05/2025 21:26

Are you soft OP? I'm hard as nails tbh, can't talk for anyone else.

UpJacksArseAndRoundTheCorner · 09/05/2025 21:25

It depends on what you mean by 'soft' really.

I think the majority of women I know (including myself) tend to toughen up during and after menopause.

Must be the lack of giving a shiny shit hormone 😁

lostinthesunshine · 09/05/2025 21:22

Yes, having read another thread today where the OP couldn’t possibly look after her own two children alone for 24 hours without drafting in help from her parents.

That said, of course we only ever hear the outliers, in either direction.