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To worry about neighbour’s baby

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maloney123 · 09/05/2025 20:36

I’m not sure where to start, but I am really quite worried about my neighbours’ baby. The other side of our semidetached is rented, and approx six months ago a new family moved in. The walls are paper thin so we can hear pretty much everything that goes on. There’s a dad, mum and what sounds like a young baby. The dad comes and goes, he usually goes out very early in the car and doesn’t come back all day. There is another car but that never moves. We’ve seen the dad a couple of times, but have only ever seen the mum twice, going into the house. We’ve never seen the baby. The blinds are always drawn and the back door is never opened, even though there’s a big garden. I’m on maternity leave so am often home or in and out picking my older child up from nursery, I bump into other neighbours from time to time but I’ve never the mum or baby. I’m not saying I watch the house or anything like that, I just think it’s really strange that I’ve never bumped into her or even seen the baby at all. Am I overthinking this? For what it’s worth, they appear to be Muslim (only mentioning because some Muslim men have certain views towards women). I just worry that something is not right and no authorities are aware of the baby. Oh, nobody ever comes to the house either. I don’t even know what I could do really or who I could contact. I don’t hear any mistreatment or anything like that, I just feel really uncomfortable with the situation and the thought that I could do something but haven’t

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LookingAtMyBhunas · 09/05/2025 20:50

I know this sounds callous but are you sure there's a baby? As in, you could've seen her pregnant but it ended in still birth? Have you actually seen them bring baby back from hospital etc?

maloney123 · 09/05/2025 20:44

It’s not just the leaving the house tbf, it’s the blinds always being drawn, never being in the garden etc as well

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maloney123 · 09/05/2025 20:43

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 09/05/2025 20:40

I would knock and say hi

She's probably just depressed tbh, and maybe she could be from another country, and struggling with it all?

Knock and then if she doesn't answer, maybe pop some chocolates or a cake on the doorstep for her and say you'd like to make friends

When I had dd, I was so poorly, it was a struggle to leave the house. I appreciated kindness ❤️

Edited

This is a lovely idea. I have the impression they are not English speaking but I could try

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PrettyPuss · 09/05/2025 20:42

Some people are like that, I had a friend who barely left the house when her dc were young.

maloney123 · 09/05/2025 20:42

To add - I haven’t knocked so far because I have a really bad tendency to take on other people’s problems and I’ve been trying not to do it anymore, so have been trying to just ignore the situation. I’m worried about both but more so the bang for obvious reasons. Yes I hear it plenty, seems to be fine, I just can’t shake the feeling something is wrong

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SelinaPlace · 09/05/2025 20:41

Drip round with some food or a gift for the baby baby?

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 09/05/2025 20:40

I would knock and say hi

She's probably just depressed tbh, and maybe she could be from another country, and struggling with it all?

Knock and then if she doesn't answer, maybe pop some chocolates or a cake on the doorstep for her and say you'd like to make friends

When I had dd, I was so poorly, it was a struggle to leave the house. I appreciated kindness ❤️

tangerinemagic · 09/05/2025 20:40

Do you hear the baby? Are you worried about the baby or the mum? I’d knock on the door with an excuse about something else to survey the lay of the land. If there is no answer, keep going until there is. If no one answers for a while. Report it.

Mumblechum0 · 09/05/2025 20:38

Perhaps you could knock and ask f she’d like to pop round for a brew?

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