Dh not centre of attention

Ffs, this useless piece of shit needs to get together with the ops husband who wants to hobby twice a week AND join the Marines with selective dodgy knees.
If i ever met the pair of them my eyes would never stop rolling from one fuckface to the other.

Get rid of him and live your life.

OP he doesn't want to pull his weight and he sees anything to do with the children and home as "women's work".

If a woman finished at 2pm every day, she'd be expected to do the bulk of house management but the fuckwit you landed yourself with, sees that as something to do with ovaries.

You can guess what I'd say to him but one way of handling it diplomatically may be to divide chores according to time. You have less time, so you do fewer chores. Anything he moans about such as hoovering, is his chore.

He's an utter cock who doesn't deserve a partner.
I blame his parents? Mollycoddled to the hilt and never done anything for himself in his life.

I'd just change the fucking locks while he was out at his big important job. That finishes at 2pm? It must be exhausting for him the poor lamb.🙃

This is not normal, reasonable behaviour from your husband and you know YANBU. He sounds controlling and narcissistic.

Your H is a total prick!!
It’s all controlling nonsense disguised as neediness!

You need to tell him he is a whiny, child and he needs to grow the fuck up!

Edit: you are absolutely allowed to call him out on this rubbish - you ‘not being allowed to’ is a nasty tactic to make him feel more important. This needs to stop - you work from home, he finishes at 2 you don’t need to sit in the lounge with him at all- don’t put up with this!!

I bet this is the tip of the iceberg- how does he feel about you going out with friends and having a life away from him?

Does he know he's not an emperor? He needs to pull his weight with the domestic load and maybe then you can start to talk about his constant need for attention. Currently he's just sitting around on his imaginary throne complaining about you isn't he? Don't put up with it!

What time does he start work. If he's finishing at 2 he should be doing the lions share of housework (assuming he's not starting at 4am). If he finishes at 2 why is he not collecting the kids?

Oh dear! He does think you're only there for his convenience, doesn't he? Surely there's no reason why he can't prep tomorrow's dinner, while cooking today's is there? Does he not rate your job for some reason?

What makes him think you are able to take time off from your full time job, throughout the day, to do things like cleaning and cooking? Would he do that if he worked from home? I very much doubt it! Sounds like he wants you to be the little woman at home, ready with his pipe and slippers, and dinner on the table when he gets in. I really think you need to sit down and lay down the law about what you can and can't do, and what you will and won't do OP. As a matter of interest, if he finishes at 2pm, what time does he start?

Lookup " narcissist personality disorder". You are his prop, not a person in your own right.

What are you doing? Stop wasting your one precious life.

The only thing that would annoy me is the answering emails at night - my view has always been that unless I’m the CEO, it can wait!

He sounds very needy aside from that.

It sounds like maybe you need a calm sit down and discussion about division of labour to make sure your both on the same hymn sheet.

Surely he can take his phone with him if he’s on call 😂 he’s got a lot of excuses for being a lazy so and so

urgh another repulsive man child

you know YANBU, tell him to grow up and pull his weight round the house and with your dc or leave