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YellowOrangePink · 2025-05-09T17:07:59+00:00

The shops that keep selling my 16 year old child alcohol? Is it worth reporting?

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 19:18

YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 19:17

No, they work full time, 17 this year

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Oh, ok. A 16 year old that works full time, drinks alcohol and buys alcohol for friends that get drunk and behave badly on it. And ignore your plea for them to stop doing this.

This is above my pay grade, way above thankfully

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YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 19:17

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 19:12

16? is your child in the midst of GCSEs?

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No, they work full time, 17 this year

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KilkennyCats · 09/05/2025 19:16

YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 19:14

It was something I did at that age too, and so did most people I knew, I'm surprised at some of the reactions here, Mumsnet seems a little sheltered at times. Mine is home at a sensible time every night, and never in a state, they don't tend to drink spirits, I wouldn't even know if it they didn't tell me and put a couple of cans in the fridge. They'll have a pint or glass of wine when out for a meal with us or a special dinner. They never have drunk to excess and they look mature for their age and I have absolutely drilled into them why its particularly dangerous for young people to drink too much. Some of their friends and acquaintances don't have positive relationships with alcohol and yes, sometimes it's been acquired by my child, against my advice, but ultimately I would rather the adults stopped selling it to them. Can a child really be fined? I don't think I've heard of that before

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Doesn’t your child have any will of his own?

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 19:16

So you’ve said to your child not to buy alcohol for the friends that have get drunk and behave recklessly on it… and yet your child ignores you?

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 19:15

YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 19:14

It was something I did at that age too, and so did most people I knew, I'm surprised at some of the reactions here, Mumsnet seems a little sheltered at times. Mine is home at a sensible time every night, and never in a state, they don't tend to drink spirits, I wouldn't even know if it they didn't tell me and put a couple of cans in the fridge. They'll have a pint or glass of wine when out for a meal with us or a special dinner. They never have drunk to excess and they look mature for their age and I have absolutely drilled into them why its particularly dangerous for young people to drink too much. Some of their friends and acquaintances don't have positive relationships with alcohol and yes, sometimes it's been acquired by my child, against my advice, but ultimately I would rather the adults stopped selling it to them. Can a child really be fined? I don't think I've heard of that before

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So…
you’re cool with your 16 year old drinking out
and buying for their friends to consume

okay.

and GCSEs? Balancing boozing with GCSEs ok?

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YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 19:14

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 19:00

Out of the blue your child said

I buy alcohol illegally
I also buy and then sell to my friends?

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It was something I did at that age too, and so did most people I knew, I'm surprised at some of the reactions here, Mumsnet seems a little sheltered at times. Mine is home at a sensible time every night, and never in a state, they don't tend to drink spirits, I wouldn't even know if it they didn't tell me and put a couple of cans in the fridge. They'll have a pint or glass of wine when out for a meal with us or a special dinner. They never have drunk to excess and they look mature for their age and I have absolutely drilled into them why its particularly dangerous for young people to drink too much. Some of their friends and acquaintances don't have positive relationships with alcohol and yes, sometimes it's been acquired by my child, against my advice, but ultimately I would rather the adults stopped selling it to them. Can a child really be fined? I don't think I've heard of that before

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Evaka · 09/05/2025 19:13

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 18:58

Your child is not only buying for personal consumption
but also selling

OP, your child sounds in dire straits

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This response is a bit nuts. Teenagers getting pissed and the oldest looking/ with the best fake ID buying for the group is hardly new.

Agree OP should challenge the shop but saying the kid is in dire straights? Bit bloody excitable.

Nn9011 · 09/05/2025 19:12

I wouldn't report to the police but I would report to trading standards. They have a process where they will test the shop's ID policy and take action if they need to.

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 19:12

YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 19:05

My child isn't the only one buying, older brothers do this also, and really that's the least of their worries.

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16? is your child in the midst of GCSEs?

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 19:11

YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 19:05

My child isn't the only one buying, older brothers do this also, and really that's the least of their worries.

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Older brothers.
they’re 18?

either way op…. You have a VERY serious problem on your hands

your child will find other shops
your child will continue to consume and sell to friends

and how did it come about your child just randomly told you all this, (and then said they had no intention of stopping?)

KilkennyCats · 09/05/2025 19:10

YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 19:05

My child isn't the only one buying, older brothers do this also, and really that's the least of their worries.

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The least of whose worries?
Are you implying their parents wouldn’t care?

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YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 19:05

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 18:59

The parents of the other children will soon enough find out and their issue will be with YOUR child selling to their child. I am surprised no parent hasn’t already been in contact with you

My child isn't the only one buying, older brothers do this also, and really that's the least of their worries.

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bumblebee1000 · 09/05/2025 19:04

I wouldn't be too confident of any action taking place, shop near us sells illegal vapes, fake tobacco and booze to under age, its been reported almost weekly...still in business...no signs of any raids etc.

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 19:00

YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 18:47

It's a choice, they don't drink to excess but some of their friends do, I don't think they're being bullied but it does give them status as the one gets sold. My child told me, and I believe them

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Out of the blue your child said

I buy alcohol illegally
I also buy and then sell to my friends?

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 18:59

The parents of the other children will soon enough find out and their issue will be with YOUR child selling to their child. I am surprised no parent hasn’t already been in contact with you

MissyB1 · 09/05/2025 18:59

Call trading standards, they will deal with it.

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 18:58

YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 18:48

Then yes, they're not gifting the alcohol but they're not profiting

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Your child is not only buying for personal consumption
but also selling

OP, your child sounds in dire straits

Dotjones · 09/05/2025 18:49

Give the shop a photo of your child to put up and tell them that if they sell to your child again, you will call the police. Your child risks a fine of £1000 per offence if they are caught and prosecuted (which is unlikely to be honest, they mainly go after the retailer). Your child is committing a crime and you need to do whatever you can to stop them.

Jijithecat · 09/05/2025 18:49

I wouldn't be warning the shop in advance. As others have said report it to Trading standards.

If you feel uncomfortable about this, you could report it anonymously to Crimestoppers who will pass the information along to the relevant authorities.

crimestoppers-uk.org/give-information/forms/give-information-anonymously

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YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 18:48

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 18:40

as a favour?

but your child buying
and then accepting money from others in exchange? Even if no profit that is selling op

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Then yes, they're not gifting the alcohol but they're not profiting

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YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 18:48

Endofyear · 09/05/2025 18:43

I would go into the shop and tell them that you're going to report them to trading standards. Then do it.

https://www.gov.uk/find-local-trading-standards-office

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Again, I wouldn't want to make our identity known if authorities are going to be involved

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YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 18:47

Tulipsontoast · 09/05/2025 18:34

How did you find this out? From your child?
Are you worried that your child is being bullied into buying it or are they choosing to do it?

It's a choice, they don't drink to excess but some of their friends do, I don't think they're being bullied but it does give them status as the one gets sold. My child told me, and I believe them

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UpJacksArseAndRoundTheCorner · 09/05/2025 18:45

Endofyear · 09/05/2025 18:43

I would go into the shop and tell them that you're going to report them to trading standards. Then do it.

https://www.gov.uk/find-local-trading-standards-office

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I wouldn't give the shopkeeper any warning.

TS will send a child to buy alcohol and if he goes to serve them, he'll be banged to rights.

Endofyear · 09/05/2025 18:43

I would go into the shop and tell them that you're going to report them to trading standards. Then do it.

https://www.gov.uk/find-local-trading-standards-office

Intheshower · 09/05/2025 18:40

YellowOrangePink · 09/05/2025 18:32

Not selling, just a favour for friends in his group.

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as a favour?

but your child buying
and then accepting money from others in exchange? Even if no profit that is selling op